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Blogs > NeedOnly1over40 > My Blog

Real Talk...No Whining Zone  

NeedOnly1over40 57F
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3/31/2018 8:02 am
Real Talk...No Whining Zone
A few days ago I was looking through the community stuff trying to understand the difference between blogs and articles when I came upon a post by a male complaining about not getting a "no thanks" response from the women he contacts. Scrolling down I noticed a lot of like-minded posts. This left me with something to ponder. Why is it rude when a woman doesn't respond but not when a man doesn't? For ages men have behaved as though they are entitled to a woman's response with no regard to her wishes. In truth, it is probably something you did or something you are not that has led to the non-response. For example...if a woman says she is looking for a tall, Asian man, who is single and bi-sexual because she wants the experience of playing with two men and watching men together, but you are a black man, who is straight and is looking for two women to play...why would you expect a response? By the sheer benefit of reading her profile you should recognize that you don't fit her needs and therefore your writing to her is just a disrespect of her desire...so my question is why are you whining. So, what in my case I basically say I am looking for a white male who is straight, over 40, lives nearby, doesn't have a huge penis nor a small one, is not overweight, and whom I find attractive. Based on that, I receive messages that say, "White guy here", or dick pics or black men telling me that all the things I don't want white guys do...etc. I also mention that I am looking for a LTR monogamous relationship...Still I get all of these other messages that are very inappropriate or when I read the profile clearly is not a match based on what I've written. It is not my job to make sure you read my profile and behave accordingly. Even if you think you are attractive, maybe I won't find you attractive. The point is, everyone is looking for something, but that doesn't mean everyone is looking for anything (or everything). If you don't get a response...maybe check your profile, your approach, and read her profile...did you really see yourself within the description of what she wanted? Finally, remember, it is still her choice to say no...deal with it and rather than whining about not getting a response, keep it moving to the next person who may actually respond. You may find greater success. So when a person you are interested in does not respond, maybe...like me...they have received too many responses like the one posted here when they say no thanks or not interested.

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