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To Submissive, From Dominant I recently had a woman message me with an interesting question. She asked me: "Do you have any Dom skills? If so, what are they?" I thought my reply was<b> worthy </font></b>of posting here. "I have a bit of experience as a dom, and I like to think I’ve learned a few things. First of all, it’s important to remember that no two people are the same, and I strongly believe in open and honest communication in order to really understand what each other are looking for within the relationship. There is no 'one-size-fits-all' approach to the d/s relationship; it’s an ever-evolving dynamic to be brought to life by two unique individuals with unique needs and concerns. I am self-aware, emotionally intelligent, and have no desire to hurt anyone, unless the pain is a desired experience of erotic pleasure. I respect boundaries, because I respect other humans. I am creative and open-minded. I am not jealous, temperamental, or judgmental; I feel like these qualities are inherently weak, and I don’t equate personal strength with being a dickhead. I am a strong communicator, and I am honest. I have no time for bullshit or drama, and I expect the same in return. Which isn’t to say that I can’t recognize bratty behavior intended to provoke a spanking. =) I believe that honesty and integrity are an absolute necessity in building trust, which is the cornerstone of all relationships, whether it’s d/s, friendship, marriage, or whatever. I am confident in my strengths, and humble in my weaknesses. In the end, only humility can safeguard me against the hubris that so many dominant personalities get lost in. I am compassionate. I care about others. I’ve heard too many stories about self-labelled ‘doms’ out there who confuse dominance with selfishness. Because I am sexually invigorated by exercising the power entrusted to me by a woman, I have a greater responsibility to be caring and attentive in action, not merely in lip-service. I have to fully understand the needs and concerns of my partner in order to unite them with my own. Dominance is an art; at times subtle, and at other times overt, even overpowering. In my experience (granted, not extensive), where there is trust and solid communication, it becomes simple, safe, exciting, freeing, and just, well, wonderful! So my ‘skills,’ I think, are less ‘skills’ in the sense of being good with rope, or yogi-like flexibilty, or tantric chakra, as they are skills of the mind. If you are attracted to intelligence, and are looking for someone who ‘gets it,’ then I suggest that we should meet." |
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𝕨𝕖𝕝𝕔𝕠𝕞𝕖 𝕥𝕠 𝕓𝕝𝕠𝕘𝕤 My comment here will serve its purpose, but put the first comment by yourself next time when you post your blog posts,. It will make your blog post to show up in the "Recently Posts". Otherwise, your post will never show up amywhere else, and no one will know you have posted your blogs. So much for writing a blog post, but no one notice, right? This first comment in your blog posts doesn't have to be anything special, people just put "The magic comment", "My obligatory comment", or you can really write what you wanna say, in your first comment, too. There are some wonderful bloggers here, so be sure to go to other bloggers' post, and leave them your comments. It's a good way to mingle and reciprocate! And if you are a santadard member, you can set up a private inbox, so even if you can't communicate with other members though mails, you still can communicate though your blogs. Happy blogging, and let us know if you have any other questions in regards to the blogs, we are happy to assist you.
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