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Blogs > FresnoWoman > Intermittent Utterances

Shy? That word does not mean what you think it means.  

FresnoWoman 53F
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8/24/2018 9:11 am
Shy? That word does not mean what you think it means.

First off, yes, I am a shy person. However, I'm more shy face-to-face with people I don't know. Less shy online, not shy with my friends at all.

However.

Quite a few guys have called me "shy" via IM. My lack of response to your messages is not out of shyness. Assuming no site-related IM issues that day, there's one overarching reason why I don't respond to your IM.

I don't like you. That's it. There could be various reasons why I don't like you, but the bottom line is, I won't respond to IMs of guys I don't like or have no interest in. Thus I have no obligation to reply to you, or to keep the conversation going if it took a turn I didn't like.

FresnoWoman 53F
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8/24/2018 9:12 am

 PS. My preferences absolutely get to be respected.


astute2r3 68M

8/24/2018 9:26 am

 I think it is a good thing that you are getting some attention. I imagine that those interested and or writing, will just need the use of a Crystal Ball and or tune up their ESP talents, if there are any existing at all. Maybe clarifying what to dislike and or don't have interest in within your profile, will curtail those from writing to you altogether? Maybe not shy at all, just you own way of handling the issue. Best of luck!


B0x069xxx 47M
133 posts
8/24/2018 9:28 am

 Well stated. You have no obligation to respond if you don’t want to continue with the conversation. Some boys will never learn. Great post and I respect that you may not respond back.


boyhowdy53 70M
725 posts
8/24/2018 9:50 am

 I agree. However, from my point of view, I sent out messages and with no response, I have no way of knowing if FriendFinder-x even delivers them. And with IM's limited to 3 I understand not wanting to "waste" them on a message from someone in whom you have no interest. So, it leaves us all with very limited options. For my part, a simple response of "no thanks" or "you're too old for me", at least let's me know that some messages get delivered. Thank you, and Good Day.


s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
8/24/2018 10:12 am

 We're always better off judging those we've never met for any various number of assumptions.For It always increases our chances of finding a better assumption by a hundred percent.
Using more than all the road!


IZNE1FUNN 49M
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8/24/2018 10:40 am

 Makes perfect sense. Have a great weekend.


polaman681 55M
108 posts
8/24/2018 7:47 pm

 Oh well there is lot of shy people in this world,, So what can you do about that?? Its Gods plan that way,,,,...


FresnoWoman 53F
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883 posts
8/28/2018 1:35 am

 Heh, at least it didn't take me a month to remember to approve comments.

BigLala, good to see you here. I've read and liked some of your posts, thanks for stopping by.

Everyone else, appreciate your responses. It's cool to know what others think.


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