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What Attracts Me in a Woman.
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What Attracts Me in a Woman. I have always hesitated to attempt elucidation of this topic because so much of it will always be intangible in nature. Each human being presents such a vast combination of individual traits that the sum of these characteristics will always manifests itself in genuinely unique ways. Such diversity is what I find so appealing about life on this planet, in general, and, more specifically, relationships with other human beings. Perhaps this is one reason why monogamy seems so ill-fitted for most of the species roaming our speck of dirt floating in this vast Universe. But don't get me started on the psycho-socioeconomic reasoning behind the choice of monogamy. So, please take what I am about to write as very broad strokes, understanding that each attribute influences another in a potentially positive or negative way. As a Taoist, I am always seeking a balance between all polarities in order to realize the most satisfying effect for everyone involved. As a result of this approach to living I will proceed with some apprehension that a truly compatible lover, who does not fit neatly into some of the specific attributes, will needlessly discount herself. Perhaps it is best to characterize what I am about to catalogue as preferences and nothing more. Or maybe, what is most important is that you feel comfortable, or "own" who you are without apology. As I mentioned in my profile, I have always been a "face" guy as opposed to an ass or breast man. But again, this is related to balance. I cannot create a list of features that makes one face more appealing than another. It is a trait that I recognize when I see one that draws my gaze time and time again. It is likely most important because being involve in as intimate an act as sexual play will predominantly involve us to regard one another intently. I could not imagine making love to a woman and not be looking deeply into her eyes in a meaningful way. Doing so, at least for me, is what connects us and intensifies the experience. I usually prefer long straight hair, but, again short, curly, even no hair could be as appealing with the right person. I also, have a preference for darker colored hair as a general rule. I have a fondness for younger over older because of the attitudes which generally comes along with youth such as optimism about the future, feeling anything is possible, openness to new things, free-thinking, more prone to being adaptive or other such qualities along these lines. Of course, there is appeal in experience and knowledge as well as well as being able to relate to one another because of having lived through many of the same historical events. However, when it comes to the Tao, there is much to be gained in a May-September relationship, particularly when it comes to Love and Sex. I will likely write further on this topic at another time. After living in the San Francisco Bay Area for almost fifteen years, I grew to appreciate the beauty of Asian females a great deal. The same could be said of Latinas since I have now been in New Mexico over sixteen years. That being said, a woman's beauty, for me, will always go far beyond her racial or cultural traits. I enjoy differences from myself with regards to such as it only serves to broaden myself as a person even further. But, again, such is not determinative. Petite, slim to athletic and proportional frames usually capture my attention. However, as I point out in my profile, a woman's dress size is weighed against the overall balance of her body's features as well as how comfortable she feels in her own skin. I abhor any sort of body shaming as each of us is beautiful in our own way. Yet treating one's body as a temple and taking care of it through good nutrition, regular exercise, etc. is something I value for myself, and consequently, favor in others. Being an introverted personality, I'm naturally attracted to others who are quieter in nature. It is said that "still waters run deep" which is certainly true for myself. I guess I feel more comfortable exploring a person with real depth to their nature. While educational level is not necessarily important, I find a trained mind more interesting that someone who has not chosen, or had the opportunity to exercise this particular muscle. As a writer, I also highly value creativity. The longer I go in the post the more I realize a certain futility in expressing myself adequately. My guess is that doing this exercise has reinforced the notion that each of us is greater than the sum of our parts. The only honest way to know if we are compatible sexually is to spend time in one another's presence. I will admit that I am much more discriminating as I have grown older as I have a greater awareness of what appeals to me and what does not. As a result, I am much more likely to move forward slowly, but steadily if things feel right. Quality over quantity is a tad cliché but one which accurately describes my frame of mind with most everything, not just sexual partners. I imagine I am seeking kindred spirits in this regard. Wow. The time has really slipped away from which often happens when I write. I had better close this particular post and start getting ready for work. As always, I welcome any and all comments to the above and hope you have a wonderful life of your own choosing. Peace, Michael |
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