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Nature vs Nurture
Nature vs Nurture Most of the time, blog ideas just come popping out of that rarely idle madhouse that I call a brain. Sometimes though, reading through the blogs will spring an idea. This post is from the later. It's more about multiple posts, about different outcomes, that I wonder at times aren't all related. Can a lot of them all be tied to how we interact? And is how we interact based on how we were raised, our base personality or just influences over time. Does this influence how we speak/interact with the opposite sex? Some background about me, because without a doubt, I know me better than I know any of you. My two biggest influences on how I interact with people. I was raised by a Dad who was a drill Sergeant. (yeah that was fun) He raised us to be the toughest on the block. There was no weakness allowed. That said, he also taught us to always be respectful. Especially when talking with women. Though they found they didn't love each other, later in life, I never once heard my dad talk to my mom with anything other than respect. My grandfather was an school country boy. Bear of a guy. He was known for doing, strength tricks in the country bar we'd all go to. Yeah they let us in too. Everyone had a healthy respect for the guy. Yet, I never once saw him throw his weight around. Always friendly and respectful to everyone. This is how I was raised to act, and I'd also say it's just within my nature. So to apply this to those age FriendFinder-x questions and posts. My questions and my responses to those questions. Question: When you can easily look around and see women just aren't impressed with the one line message, "Hey saw your profile, wanna fuck?". Does anyone actually believe this is the best approach to meeting new partners? Me: I have pretty good luck with a respectful approach up front. I find there's plenty of time for some dirty talk later in the relationship. Mainly, because we actually met instead of my message just hitting the trash pile. Question: The never gets bad boy question. Do you have to be a jerk to pick up women, cause all the women are attracted to bad boys? Me: I've been and maybe still to a point, a wild . That said, I can't say I've ever had a lady tell me they weren't interested because I was too respectful. There's always a place for a little of the "bad boy" in bed, just not in the same meaning it seems to be associated with. Question: Does being respectful make you weak? Me: See above reference to the two guys who shaped me into who I am. Lastly, and probably the main question, is it a Nature vs Nurture thing? Do people act this way because that's just the way they were raised. Is it because it's just their personality type. Did experiences in their life, or just their experience on sites like this, influence their behavior? I always try to be respectful, and yeah at times I fail. Rude people can make me forget who I am at times. " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx |
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For the record, this isn't just directed at guys and I've seen lots of guys on this blog that seem very respectful. So it's not a blanket statement in any means. Carry on. " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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The Nature vs Nurture question been floating around for a few years , it can easily apply to animals , humans, plants. There is factors that can more or less push for the one or other depending on how strong the factors are and or how strong the opposing sides are
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The Nature vs Nurture thing? I think it is a combination of both with some experience(s) thrown in. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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The Nature vs Nurture thing? I think it is a combination of both with some experience(s) thrown in. " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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I have to dis-associate myself from rude, disrespectful people. You should treat men, women, children and pets as you want to be treated. If you were raised/nurtured to be rude and you LIKE getting it in spades, well I think you might do the same. However, there is always the positive side that when that arena of your life went by ,you discovered how good it feels to have respect and manners shown to you as a person and thus, you will become the same kind of human Some reform is self-induced (Virtual Symposium Group) use Virtual Symposium Group
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I wonder if the boorish behavior here is because it is a “sex site”. Men want a woman who is hot in bed, yet, it seems with some, he can treat her as less than a lady because she expresses her sensuality. Because she is sexual, he feels he can talk down and dirty to her. I love dirty talk but not with a keyboard with a stranger. There are some really nice men here. Just as in life mostly, the dicks, pardon the pun, get the attention for being a dick. The truly nice ones get passed over.
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Question: When you can easily look around and see women just aren't impressed with the one line message, "Hey saw your profile, wanna fuck?". Does anyone actually believe this is the best approach to meeting new partners? Oh hell NO I don't believe its the best way to approach someone, as I think you know from my blog the other day.. Question: The never gets bad boy question. Do you have to be a jerk to pick up women, cause all the women are attracted to bad boys? Well I can't speak for the other ladies here on the site, but I like a bad boy gentleman if that makes sense.. And I know it sounds oxymoron, but it isn't he's a good hearted man that's got a bad side and to me that's so sexy.. Question: Does being respectful make you weak? Absolutely NOT it's doesn't make you weak in fact I think it only makes you stronger, and sounds like you had a great dad by the way, and I am thankful for his service as I am a proud army mom.. Lastly, and probably the main question, is it a Nature vs Nurture thing? Do people act this way because that's just the way they were raised. Is it because it's just their personality type. Did experiences in their life, or just their experience on sites like this, influence their behavior? Good question as I think your up bringing plays a huge part of who you are, as in respecting your elders, and treat everyone the way you wish to be treated, as my grandparents were the biggest influences in my life and they were old school..
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My father was very much a gentleman. My mother was a rather quiet person. She really lived by the saying... If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all LOL. I am a mix. I like to talk and strike up conversations wherever I go. That was my father's affability. I dislike gossip. I think it is a bad habit. My mother disliked it to be sure. It's the height of pettiness. I tried to discourage that in people. However sometimes I get dragged into it and then I feel yucky. 🙁 Independently Romantic Sounds Better Than Lonely
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Until my daughter was born I was always of the belief that we are a product of our upbringing. From when my daughter was still an infant her personality shone through. It was an education to me in nature vs nuture. I think in general, thanks to the world wide web and the opportunity to be somewhat anonymous people forget their manners on sites such as these. I have always been of the belief that you catch more flies with honey.
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I read your mind until I heard . . . "Clean up on aisle 5 please". When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Quoting BiggLala:Stop taking my answers, you!!! Ahem...was that rude? I meant, I agree with what Red said. redrockrascal: I read your mind until I heard . . . "Clean up on aisle 5 please". Ok you two, stop hijacking my post. You never see me hijacking posts......oh wait....never mind. Carry on. " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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Okay, then you are saying if the person is a woman, she gets respect , no matter what? That's weak. Women will take advantage of you. I'm saying everyone gets respect. Men, women, dogs , cats.. you name it. Until they blow that chance, and start acting rude. Or just being obtuse. Sorta like you're doing now. " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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