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IT’S NOT WEIRD TO FUCK YOUR FRIENDS
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IT’S NOT WEIRD TO FUCK YOUR FRIENDS  Fuck buddies with your real buddies can be a win-win. There is a grave misconception that sex is restricted only to couples in love and meaningless hookups found on Tinder and discarded like an empty can of La Croix. Sex is something we talk about with our friends regularly, and it can totally be an experience we share with each other, too. If both parties negotiate what they’re comfortable with sexually and check in with each other regularly about how they are feeling emotionally and physically after sexual activity, two (or more) consenting adults should be able to do whatever they want together! Sex with friends can be more than just friends with benefits - it can be a way to safely explore different types of alternative sex with someone you already trust and respect. Your friends can be great sounding boards, too. If you want to try out dirty talk or rope bondage or wax play, trying with a friend can have the added benefits of interacting with someone who is experienced with giving you feedback. You hope your friends will tell you the truth, and asking them to critique your spanking style will be better received if you already have a foundation of listening to each other for honest advice and feedback. Almost all of my first new kink experiences have happened with friends. The first time I tried rope bondage suspension was with a close friend who had a hard-point in their house and over 10 years of rope rigging experience. My first pegging experience was with the same friend, when they were exploring their feminine presentation and bottoming to a partner. We were both able to explore new areas of sexuality in a way that was free of judgement or pretenses. We had negotiated what we wanted out of the experiences weeks before - and then had ice cream afterward! The thing to look out for so that the friendly<b> intercourse </font></b>and open exploration doesn’t start to affect your friendship is the motive behind why you want to have sex with your friend. If you have been harboring a crush on them for years and this is a way to live out your romantic fantasy, you need to make sure they are on the same page as you. If they aren’t on the same page both physically and emotionally, then they can’t actually consent to what is going on between you two. Let’s be clear, your friends are still people. They still can make mistakes and aren’t infallible to consent accidents or violations. The pre-exsiting relationship between you doesn’t negate the fact that the same consent and safer sex conversations you would have with a complete stranger are still 100% necessary. And with a friend, your bullshit detector might be more fine-tuned to know when they are being straight up with you about their sexual health practices. I had a fuck buddy friend who I ended things physically with after I realized that our safe sex practices no longer aligned. This in no way means we have ghosted each other and thrown away a decade of friendship. We had an intimate friendship that created a space where we could both have orgasms with each other and they could tell me that they’d made some poor safe sex choices and gotten an STI. I didn’t scold or shame them. I approached their vulnerability with openness, empathy and the number to a clinic where they could get treatment. Once you and a friend have decided to have a sexual relationship there seems to be a looming fear that things will never be “normal” again. For me, my friends know I’m an ethical slut, they know that I kiss and tell (with explicit consent) and they know what my core values are. This makes them some of the safest people for me to ask questions and make mistakes without the fear of being harshly judged, coerced or abused by some rando hook-up. Sex with friends can be transformative to a friendship. You can explore sexual attraction without romantic attachment. You can also help yourself unlearn the taboos of having sex outside of a monogamous relationship. Your friendships are still relationships – and good friendship model great relationship skills – open communication, honesty, consent, time management, and trust. Having sex with your friends can make you a better lover, both in and out of the bedroom. source: https://bit.ly/2NxjAED |
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indeed, we lave that 2
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3/24/2019 10:44 am |
Very thoughtful and well written......and can be very true. I've never been in such a circle of friends to pursue sex at that level. Interesting, though. Tnx.
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