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How to be successful as single male in the lifestyle
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How to be successful as single male in the lifestyle I have been a swinger for 20 . I typically since the beginning of swinging with hubby have always been one of the few females whom seek out single males . So many males in this lifestyle really seem to have no clue or guidance . This is not a bashing post but maybe just maybe some will read it and get much farther than some whom have contacted me lol. You are here as a single male among 1000's of others trying for the same thing . So your game needs to be spot on to stand out from the other 1000's doing the same . Have a profile well written and informative .Women want to know before messaging back that there may be any interest and not waste your time or theirs . Have wayyy more than one picture. One picture on a profile screams fake to veteran women . It also screams I am too lazy to really try . One cock picture screams I am phishing . Always has . Could have been gotten in a picture phishing scam . Those whom have no pictures here 95% of the women most likely won't even bother . Why message and message to get to the pictures to find out there is no attraction . Have said pictures actually upright and good quality . Dark blurry pics and or side way pics are horrible. Look your best in those pics. Guys holding fish are ridiculous unless you are strictly looking for a fishing partner ! Otherwise is not a good look. Same goes for the guys wearing a dirty sweaty ball cap and lets not forget the wonderful guy holding up the<b> beer </font></b>SMH..Nothing screams more than Im a drunk and probably will never get it up if we meet than the stupid<b> beer </font></b>can picture ! When you send that first message to a female actually say "hello" things like how are you doing? etc are also the way to go. If you think your first contact should be " hey I wanna fuck that pussy, or wanna suck my cock, or just the word"hey" or any things like the 3 mentioned you are not gonna get very far ! If you get far you best ask to see them on cam as you most likely are talking to another guy pretending to be a female lol . Women here also have jobs and lives. If you think they are singed on because they right now on the spot are looking for immediate asap hook ups you are gonna be highly disappointed .Most need to make a connection with a man . Not that it doesn't exist and that I have done so , but the fact that you just happened to click on the one in a million that may be here for that ...yeah your chances are not that good or you have won the lottery by now lol. Read a person's profile before contacting them ...I know many are free members and cannot do that...well let me say if you cannot afford the monthly fee here which is the price of one meal you would spend a month you may want to re-evaluate your finances . 50% of the women especially single women want the male to host or if not in area host in a hotel . If you cannot afford the monthly fee here you certainly are not paying for a hotel room . These are just a few things I could probably go on but won't . I constantly hear men bitch and complain about swinger sites and most do not realize they themselves are the solely reason they are not getting anywhere. If you tell them why they are not succeeding they start the name calling and dis respectfulness almost on cue . It tells a woman exactly what they were thinking from the word go. You are essentially here interviewing for a job that 1000 other men want . Not that some do not want multiple employees lol...lets face it men would love to have a harem of women to have fun with. Why is it wrong for women to have the same . So stand out for the interview from the rest. Or don't and continue to feel like the lifestyle sucks and this site sucks etc etc . Meanwhile those whom have learned are off having the times of their lives ! .  |
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It's good advice. Welcome to the blogs “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” ― Oscar Wilde
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A friend once told me, to be SUCCESSFUL, he had a girl PRETEND to be his significant other... and what happened was once ladies got his scent, they wouldn't leave him alone. Which is ironic since he got no play while being single..... see how odd women are?! ~Linc was here.~
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thanks forgot
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yeah Linc that is certainly strange to say the least . But some are some way some are others but I have found the majority through the years to think as I do . But many are still out there who think differently . Thats the fun or headache of the lifestyle is finding those that fit .
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It's a little shady knowing people refuse to show their faces because they aren't as truthful as they claim and the last thing they need is to be recognised. While you do touch on some common sense behaviors that a lot of one track minds are sorely absent of.It's impossible to up one's game since it's all about looks.Why else would someone who won't show their face demand that others do and do so with the threat of not replying if it wasn't Using more than all the road!
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Most people whom are discreet like me have facial pictures here . Which I do but they are for friends whom I connect with . Most women have much more concern for safety than a man does so your logic is ridiculous. The statement about pictures says NOTHING about facial pics . Having ZERO pictures is what is stated . having 265 pictures here shows I am real and if you get to connecting and on friends list you see the full facial shots of most of those 265 pictures . How most women and couples have been in 20 years of alt lifestyle sites .
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Thanks for the insight and the advice. I look forward to a more intimate conversation with you in the near future.
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It's a little shady knowing people refuse to show their faces because they aren't as truthful as they claim and the last thing they need is to be recognised. While you do touch on some common sense behaviors that a lot of one track minds are sorely absent of.It's impossible to up one's game since it's all about looks.Why else would someone who won't show their face demand that others do and do so with the threat of not replying if it wasn't
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I agree 100% been on here a very long time..My number one rule get to know who your talkin too sex with friends is better then lets fuck.
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Thank you for the advice and insight
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you give great advice thank you for sharing
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5/23/2020 5:27 am |
Thank you for that information.
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Thanks guys . Hope it works for some . Of course there will always be the men whom have something negative to say and bitch about . They will be the ones a year later here still bitching in blogs they have gotten nowhere. Just wrote this to help the new ones whom are great guys and should be able to succeed here. Women like myself depend on those men as do many couples etc. So want to see it pan out for those particular men .
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