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Chemistry and the Old Fucker. Nobody Knows Latin?
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Chemistry and the Old Fucker. Nobody Knows Latin? Sometimes, but not often, I will come across a profile or message that seems sort of out of place here on FriendFinder-x. Someone is seeking their next "one and only or love of their life". I do not hesitate to say that I am seeking a long-term relationship. That is very different than seeking your next "one and only or love of your life". It does not go unnoticed that the adjective next - is actually at odds with its subject. You see messages like: "I let my heart control me when it comes to a man and so far it hasn’t said this is the love of your life". This notion of the heart is different than chemistry or spark is it not? There is all of this talk of "I will know it when I see it", or "I need to feel that special spark of mutual attraction. Get wet or hard in all the right places". The truth is - that thing called "chemistry" - is EXACTLY that - chemistry. Human beings have had a spoken language for about 100,000 years. We have been procreating for between 5 and 6 million years. Written language is only about 6,000 years old. Without language or words, how did they find a suitable mate? (I do not use the word partner - they were certainly not exclusive partners). They did it through chemistry. Smells, scents, exchange of fluids prior to intercourse. They had to determine if the<b> mate </font></b>was too close to them genetically. If they were too close familially then they "stunk" to each other. If not - well there we go. Even though we don't know it, we still do this scent thing. We do. Yes, we do! That, by the way, is why I think internet dating is so challenging. For the most part, all we have is pictures, words, messages, texts, and maybe phone conversations. For the more sexually expressive internet dating like FriendFinder-x, it is even worse. However, these sexual sites have been able to leverage our images to try to simulate this chemistry thing. Allowing us to imagine what their scents are like by staring at their bits. If you don't have decent and real images of yourself - shame on you. You can probably expect to get the results that you probably expect. When it comes to same-sex partnerships, the rules must be different? I personally do not have experience in any type of longer-term same-sex "chemistry", and thus have no clue how that works. Experience with MFM couples or FMF certainly does not qualify one to speak to this issue. Perhaps someone else on here can take the time to address that much better than I could. Back to us older folk: As we have gotten older, chemistry becomes less and less important. Seriously. For those of us who just want to find someone to fuck, or otherwise fool around with, the chemistry is never that important anyway. Perhaps this is also a feature of how people with large age differences often struggle and fail in a relationship . ** [When the difference is greater than the golden rule for determining the youngest age that would be reasonable to date, or the oldest. For the youngest, take your age: divide by two: and add seven. Oldest reasonable age to date: take your age: subtract seven: multiply by two). For me @ age 64 that calculates to x = (64/2 + 7), or x rounds up to 40. My apologies to those women/couples that I have attempted contact that are younger than this - I didn't know about this rule then.]** I don't really apologize. Who am I kidding. To me, a hot 25-year-old body is a hot 25-year-old body, worthy of my attention. As a side note - I have yet to find that 25-year-old hottie with the emotional maturity to keep up with me. My upper limit = 114! My apologies to those in this age group as well. I should have tried to find you much earlier. I have no clue where the hell this rule came from, it is not mine! At some point then, it doesn't matter about the upper limit - just go for it. Do yourself a favor. If searching for the next "one and only" know that FriendFinder-x is probably not your best venue. But if you must seek the "love of your life", at least allow your heart to search for those people that can best prove themselves to best meet a list of desirable characteristics. Notice I said, "a list". This means "your list". We really need to take the time and create a list of the subset of the most desirable things that are "cannot do without" items. Make that list and have some faith in the items you have chosen. This is my suggestion. It is only my take on the best way to find "the love of my life". If you just want to fuck them, once, or on a regular basis, never mind all of this useless shit.  |
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