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Swinging etiquette 101  

Greathead4all 55M
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1/16/2019 5:14 am
Swinging etiquette 101
Going to make a few comments, regarding current conversations. Perhaps some may find them helpful. This is a partial list specific to Central New York

Honesty: It is very important to show pics that are somewhat recent. And be honest about your weight,sexual interests and current living situation. Some people are totally cool with cheaters and liars. Your call, but I don't want your husband or lover showing up at my place. Guys are just as nosy as women when it comes to phones and computers, so if they suspect you are running around,it will come out. Please check all drama at the main gate.

Punctuality: If you say 8, mean 8, and if going to be late (,car trouble,weather,etc) just text and say so. Pretty basic stuff.

Lack of interest: Most of us have heard of and understand the concept of no. If not actually planning on meeting, just just "Thanks for your interest,but I don't think we are (a good fit) (a good match) etc. Does not have to be a negative or harsh comment, just a simple, clear."Not interested" Keeps others from wasting your time and them from wasting yours. Especially if you have played previously. It may educate someone from a mistake they won't repeat again.

Respect: Other people will find you attractive that are nowhere near your idea of attractive. Expect it and please respect them as well. They are people just like you who are seeking a human connection. It's just not going to be with you. Gently let them know that. Other people's time is precious, as is yours. If you are chatting and need to discontinue the chat, simply state TTYL8R or something to that effect. Shows you are a person who appreciates that their time is as important as yours. For anyone under 30 (in my experience) this is a normal way to communicate. "Gotta run" Or "Talk Later" saves 10 minutes or more of staring at a blank IM screen.

Profiles without photos: Immediate red flag that you are hiding something. Ask yourself, how many times have non paying members with no photos ever been a surprise to the upside? I thought so. If you have nothing to hide,put up ...something. You can change pics later (I add and remove pics daily) it literally takes seconds to do. You will get a LOT more replies with interesting photos.

Intellectual Swingers: People who post their pics,add 2157 friends,live 4 miles from you ,contact you multiple times and are a point by point match. You fit every single thing they are looking for ,but the truth is ...wait for it...THEY ARE NEVER PLANNING TO MEET YOU OR ANYONE" Pretty easy to spot, but annoying nonetheless. Things to look for , absolutely gorgeous women with one photo "Looking for a man to spoil" Absolutely gorgeous people who live 14 minutes from you who have 87 pics of themselves and 629 "friends" HMMM. OK. Zero testimonials. If you and your<b> mate </font></b>are being honest ,why not have a few folks share their positive experiences with a simple sentence or 2? "Loved Barb,she was super fun and can't wait to meet again" If you do not see any, it makes me kind of wonder.

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