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Attitude  

winkgirl2 48F
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1/18/2019 10:02 am
Attitude


I had a late nite but was just half awake trying to get morning started. As I write trying to figure how my day will play out. Just focused on work stuff but feel that writing will be part of my routine. This will serve as a good forum for me and others.

I feel that at this point in time I am structuring my life in the way I see it fit. I don't want anyone to convince me otherwise to revert to an old lifestyle that I never did benefit from. It is to say that I don't want to go on many dates with different people nor try to look for anyone.

I'm sure there is some kind of inquisition as to why I'm on here in the first place. I know I find myself talking to others but the primary conversation is about the little things. It is not about having sexual relations. I know I sometimes get sexual questions as to what my experiences are and I understand people ask out of curiosity.

The main thing I am focused on right now is to clear my head of things that did bother me over time. One of them is feeling used by people who didn't seem to be on the same page as me. It's enough to say that people in general might have a good idea of what makes a good relationship but I think that certain people don't.

I'm compelled to say not everyone will have the same outlook as me and I understand that. However when it comes to being in a relationship with someone I need them to understand that I do not like to be disrespected or mistreated. I can<b> forgive </font></b>people who don't get it, but I'm not okay with repeatedly saying poor things to me.

We can all choose to have a certain attitude in how we react to people who treat us poorly. There is that notion that some people don't give a care and say that others peoples opinions don't matter. However there are people who lack the understanding of how to be good or kind to others. It's like saying if you came from a family where your parents were condescending then you might be that type to be that to others because you're used to being around it. It's like me saying that I know some people are not so nice because they feel they can take out their emotional aggression on whomever...

Everything is all connected and at the end of the day people are less likely to want any drama in their life. So some people feel that past relationships have made them less likely to emotionally connect with other women. Some people fear of being judged or what have you. Naturally everyone has that fear of getting judged or accused of things that they did not do.

I'm just saying that attitude is a reflection of security or none at all. If someone does feel they can have a relationship then they might be ready to be nice and feel they can bring security and confidence to a relationship. Its the lack of confidence in having a successful relationship that can live in the air and some people embrace it...It is to say if you change your mindset, you can see a different outcome. Perhaps you'll learn more about yourself and be able to contribute that emotional part of you someone is clearly worthy of.

We all make choices of who is worthy of our time and energy. Im sure some of you feel that you don't want to be nice because you don't want someone to connect with you on a level where you're not ready for it. In time there are people who will want to connect with you and receptive to your kindness. However if you choose to just be a or womanizer don't expect a good girl to be there at your beck and call or a lady for that matter...

We all can tolerate whatever we choose to or not tolerate poor attitudes and not welcome them in our lives. It is a destructive force of nature to be around someone who is not going to be nice to you and make you feel less. That's why having a sexual relationship with no strings attachment is a destructive. It diminishes self worth and there is no value to any of it. It's just two bodies sharing fluids...

IN the end some people will not care whether they care for anyone because they live in the heat of the moment. But its something to think about, if your letting life slip you by and you are not being loving to yourself to want better in your life...because truthfully there are women or men who can be nice to you and you can have a meaningful, faithful relationship...

Truths are what they are. There are so many attractive people but at the end of the day you make that choice whether you really want to share your life with a human being that does really care for you. We live in a world today where people are less likely in general to care because they find meaning in materialistic things or empty ideas...

Id rather have few friends than people who use me for selfish reasons. So I know that people who are not sincere don't really make time...

Respect is something that is not given freely but there are reasons that many people are not friendly or caring. I ran into a young girl at a coffee shop and she appeared very cold to me because she chose to. However that's a reality that some people with cold attitudes exist and some other people who choose to be warm, will be...

choose the attitude you want, and see how things unfold...

IN a nutshell I am over the competition bit people speak of, "oh you can do better" Remember that not everyone has the same value system. Its a fair assessment. However it's not okay to say mean things about others or call them names. I'd just rather let things go when people assume the wrong things about me. It's enough to say if someone called me a "bimbo" where I lack intelligence it's because they never got to know me or spent quality time,,,

Its the truth that I will be judged based on who I have relationships with, but truthfully what matters is how I feel about myself. I have my dignity and above all would not like to hurt my partner. I was seeing someone for some time and I always remained considerate of his feelings. He's taken some time to get over his ex, but I understand what that means. I was once there trying to get over someone who let me go... However some things are meant to be forever and you can accept it and move on. The reality is that I'd rather be with someone I can relate to and someone who has experienced more real life things...There are some people who lived a sheltered life and think differently...

You take your pick as to who is good for you and what kind of relationship will prevail is how you choose to treat it as...or more or less define it.

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