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delayed/retarded ejaculation  

rm_MagicIX 40M
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2/3/2019 4:55 am
delayed/retarded ejaculation


"Delayed ejaculation, also called retarded ejaculation or inhibited ejaculation, is a man's inability for or persistent difficulty in achieving orgasm, despite typical sexual desire and sexual stimulation. Generally, a man can reach orgasm within a few minutes of active thrusting during sexual intercourse, whereas a man with delayed ejaculation either does not have orgasms at all or cannot have an orgasm until after prolonged intercourse which might last for 30–45 minutes or more. In most cases, delayed ejaculation presents the condition in which the man can climax and ejaculate only during masturbation, but not during sexual intercourse. It is the least common of the male sexual dysfunctions, and can result as a side effect of some medications. In one survey, 8% of men reported being unable to achieve orgasm over a 2-month period or longer in the previous year."

As a man who "suffers" from this issue, I thought i'd share my experiences with it. I enjoy it, i'll actively do my best to avoid orgasm during the early stages of sex. I enjoy being on the edge of orgasm and not doing so as it only increases the desire, feelings and sensations involved so that need time I get close to orgasm the i'm even more sensitive and eager to orgasm, I like holding off because it means when I do its going to be so much better and intense.

So after an awhile (30 min to an hour or so, roughly) I'll get to the stage where I want to orgasm. And I can't. I'll want to, i'll try to, time and time again and each time the desire to orgasm just grows and grows until theres this pend up ball of frustration and desire that needs to be exercised and can only be done so via my dick. IT can be and is all consuming and becomes a vicious circle, the inability to cum only increasing the desire to do so.

Reactions to this have been mixed (lol) to say the least, one extreme reaction resulted in my date throwing a shoe at me screaming "whats wrong with you?" as she stormed out. When i'm like this it can be for weeks or months, I've had entire relationships where I haven't been able to orgasm with a partner and seen how negatively it can effect someone. The self doubts, the anger of feeling that their not enough for me. Some become really clingy and constantly seek and need reassurance, Its not all good and positive. I hate being told i'm a partners "best ever" as that only causes me to compare her against my "best" and theres only one winner there. Whats more I don't really care about being a womans best ever lover, I only really care about being as good as I can be and if I am then i'll have nothing to worry about (that's my attitude to life, to be the best I can at what I do and how I am, its something that helped me turn my life around and something I believe in).

I describe it as like trying to climb over a wall. At first you can just reach up and your fingertips can just about reach the top. So you jump up but the top of the walls still just out of reach. so you take a few steps back, run up and jump and still the top of that wall is out of reach. But everytime you fail to get other that wall, the more you want to.

Its like i'm going to orgasm, feeling the sensation and desire to do so increase as it gets nearer and nearer, a swelling of energy building up inside of me and...…...and nothing, no orgasm, no where for all that pend up desire and frustration to go to. So I try again, and again, and again, again. It creates a tunnel vision where only the desire, need and will to orgasm exists to me. This can make me quite dominate or submissive.

It can become very frustrating, I've had times where during a break I've stood in the bathroom silently screaming in<b> sheer </font></b>frustration. Wanting to punch and smash something, the door, the mirror. I hate my partner seeing that side of me, how frustrated I've becoming. I've faked orgasm, just to get it over with and to avoid any awkwardness.

And in every way it frustrates me, I love it just as much. I won't have it another way, i'm curious as to what causes me to be like this, as it doesn't happen all the time and as much as it can last for weeks and months on end. I can also go weeks and months without it being an issue. I know which I prefer and been (rightfully) accused of trying to having things all my own way.

I remember once we had a date, I wasn't able to orgasm all night but after a sleep we woke up and I came within 5 minutes. She had a better and more intense orgasm in those 5 minutes than in the 5 hours the night before. I didn't enjoy it. It was one of the first times i'd really seen how much reassurance and pleasure it gave her to know she'd made me cum. I didn't enjoy it and she was right, I am guilty of wanting to have sex but only when I feel i'm at my "best".

If you can be superman, why would you want to be ordinary?

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