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The misunderstanding of a female Orgasm
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The misunderstanding of a female Orgasm The very first thing I want to express is that this is based off of my experience and is my opinion. I am not a doctor, I have no professional experience, and this is obviously based off of a small sample size (my own experience). Second is I am not stating any of this is FACT. If you could though, please read through this assuming this a possibility, read it to the END and then formulate an opinion. Third: There is no TLDR. If you don't want perspective on this subject, don't read this. Orgasm, it is amazing. For (most) men the experience is basically a constant build up. At the very end there are two things that happen. For a brief moment you feel you lose all control, you are going to climax... and then the actual part.. ejaculation.. muscle spasm.. etc. These two components combined last about ten seconds at its longest. Alright so why am I talking about the male orgasm? Because most men only have a very narrow perspective on what an orgasm is, when they compare what they experience to what a woman experiences they assume they had a similar experience when they climax. You are wrong. You are very very much wrong. You can read on wikipedia about it, you can ask your friends, you can talk about how you pounded this girl out for an hour and "she came like six times". If that is actually your experience. You probably didn't even give her one at all. How can I say this? "She told me she came." The very sad reality that I have experienced is that women often don't know what a climax is. At least in the "comparable" sense. So now a man is telling women they don't know what an orgasm is? Yeah, basically.. What I am telling you is that you asssholes haven't taken the time to properly treat her. So her understanding of orgasm is actually the point of highest arousal.. and then you shift, or move, or she asks you to put it in her.. and so you stop. Ok so maybe you aren't an asshole. How were you supposed to know? Well... you aren't. So before you start thinking of rebuttals, just consider the perspective. When a baby is born they are crying. Why? Because that is literally the most uncomfortable thing they have ever felt. Cold air on their skin, the weight of gravity... and so on. If you have limited experiences you draw conclusions from things that you KNOW. You know that men and women both have orgasms. If the greatest thing you ever experienced was being highly aroused, what would prevent you from believing that feeling was an orgasm. You start training your brain that is what it is, so you come down from it and then proceed to a different act. Sometimes you would feel it multiple times, and it would feel amazing. You had multiple orgasms. But what if there was more to it? How could you possibly know if you haven't experienced it? Alright, so let's just pretend that I am correct for a moment. How did I come to this conclusion? Why hasn't anyone else figured this out? How can I tell if I have had one? I came to the conclusion after having multiple partners. Considering the clitoris is the female version of a penis, I just started thinking about it and drawing some conclusions. The same way that men climax, women do too.. well.. sort of. We get aroused,<b> erect.. </font></b>hard.. harder.. and climax, our penis throbs... . When we climax, there is a sharp cliff where it changes from intense to sensitivity. I kept thinking why do these women have orgasms that just don't seem to make their bodies respond like ours? Well, that is the conclusion. They do, just most women haven't. The evidence is probably obvious, my experience. I have not been with a large number of women. What I can tell you is that of them, there is only one that climaxed the way I described ever prior to me. Of the ones I have had sex with over an extended period of time, two of them had experienced something they could not describe.. that was exponentially more intense. At which point I challenged their perspective. I say I had sex with loosely, getting a woman to climax vaginally is damn near impossible. So far I have only done it once, and I am almost thirty. By no means have I had a shortage of sex, or even have anything wrong with my performance in any measurable way. I am good looking, well endowed (at least above average), and my partners have ranged from good looking, very good looking, to maybe not so good looking. The first partner that I had helped experience this "new" orgasm took well over an hour. You could insult my abilities, but I'd rather you be introspective. I was looking for a specific response, physically. Full clitoral erection, muscle spasm, (sometimes ejaculation, although admittedly it gets a bit messy when you're down there "drooling") and over sensitivity post climax. Just a note, another side effect I have noticed is their ability to process, or communicate is quite diminished. It takes a tremendous amount of trust, and determination to get to that point. A woman can't know it is coming until it has happened, and if you tell her that she hasn't ever orgasm.. well you may get slapped across the face. The second person took no less than an hour as well. Again, I assure you it is not a fault in technique. Women have to be in a specific mentality, they have to allow you to stay down there.. whether you are doing it orally.. with a toy.. or whatever method you are using. Eventually, as you learn a person, you can get the timing and technique down to a science, but the foundation of trust has to be present first. So what do you do with this information? That is up to you, but my personal opinion is that women should be able to experience what we do. I live to please, I derive a great amount of pleasure from making others feel good. There isn't much more rewarding to me than giving them their first "true" orgasm. It also helps that they desperately want to make you feel as good as you just made them feel. Please feel free to comment, I really enjoy perspective on this one. Also, I wrote this about 2 years ago, just never posted it. |
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