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October 2019 Thoughts  

Candics 46F
39 posts
10/10/2019 2:38 pm
October 2019 Thoughts

I haven't wrote anything in awhile. I don't know about the rest of you serious searchers on this site but the<b> games </font></b>played tend to take the wind out of my sails.

It's the cycle of messaging/connecting with what you think is a great exciting find and this definition can fit for whatever you think that might be....and there is a flurry of exciting information exchanged and then nothing. It is like the moment you bring up wanting a real in person meet they disappear. I am going to assume that others have experienced this as well.

On one hand I guess I prefer the disappearing acts to the ones who you do make meet plans with and then they cancel at the last minute or don't show. The longer time spent connecting/sexting and getting excited about a planned meet and then it doesn't happen the more disappointing it can be. It all makes me want to stop searching and sometimes I do take breaks from it all but the hot erotic fantasies keep bringing me back to the search table as it were.

I do have one question for those who might take the time to read and answer: Why do guys accuse me of being fake if I tell them no I don't seek what they seek or that I am not interested in sexting with someone so far away?

I have guesses on why but it has happened quite a few times and I am thinking how does being real with you about what I seek or don't seek make me a fake? There has to be a kind answer to these deals. So far I have just wished them well in their search and moved on but I am just curious if others are being faced with that kind of odd accusation.

Have a lovely halloween and happy hot fun hunting, Candace
Candy
Candics 46F

10/10/2019 2:39 pm

 Side note-what should I be for this halloween?
Candy


s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
10/10/2019 4:00 pm

 They say nothing is real until you
meat them face to face.The fakers never show,
and when these pseudo hims are to far
away ,too long a distance becomes a
welcomed safe distance.Can you
say yea!

I'd throw you a line like all these
quasi guys try.Here's something you
may not Noah bout unicorns!
Using more than all the road!


Candics replies on 10/11/2019 5:38 am:
Love the graphic lol - I think you are quite correct!

smileybugg69 53F
397 posts
10/10/2019 4:12 pm

 I think men just think some women are fake when we express what we feel. I met a guy a couple times and he wasn’t what I was looking for long term and he called me a fake. Go figure.


Candics replies on 10/11/2019 5:39 am:
Oh geez, you met and he still called you a fake...that is silly right there.

HowUDoing3582 54M

10/10/2019 8:49 pm

 I have unfortunately had similar experiences, spending hours chatting, sexting or making plans, only to have the other party just "disappear". They might even show up online again, but won't answer. I find it unbelievably rude. If you're not interested, or even if you've changed your mind just say so.

I can only guess as to why others would call you a fake...they assume that they are so incredible that there is no way you can say no to them. There is no answer that a person like this will understand...you can only know that you are being real and ignore the negativity.

Happy Halloween to you...maybe a Genie


Candics replies on 10/11/2019 5:41 am:
I believe you have valid points for sure and your right - the response or answer will not be what they seek unless you say yes I guess. Hey I do have the sex slave costume already so genie it could be! Thanks Candace

Yours_4A_knight 59M

10/10/2019 10:38 pm

 Given my success rate and in actually getting responses to attempts to contact women, I feel like I should not even bother to respond, but what they f . . .heck here goes.

My understanding, again with in my limited experience is that the so called thought process is that when you tell someone, especially entitled young men, No. And say that I have reasons, they have actually stopped reading after the second letter and feel like you have you attacked them directly, and the feel like they have to strike back, once I guess the go to insult was that she is to fat anyway, or that she preferred the company of women, now I guess they have become semi-cerebral and want to imply that you are somehow trying to scam or fool them and that you are less than who you present yourself to be.
Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.


Candics replies on 10/11/2019 5:43 am:
Interesting and makes sense. I try to keep it real and state what I seek right away and its never meant as a put down but I can see how it could be taken that way. Thanks

Yours_4A_knight 59M

10/10/2019 10:45 pm
    Quoting Candics:
    Side note-what should I be for this halloween?
My Go to would have been Slave Girl Leia . . . it looks like you have at least half that costume already but you might want to G00gle Dark Circus Aerialist or even replace dark with Goth ad you would find something fun and interesting that you might already have most of the parts for
Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.


Candics replies on 10/11/2019 5:44 am:
I have the whole outfit but it's supposed to be a slave girl lol. No worries a lot of people have mistaken that outfit for Leia. Goth is an interesting idea for sure.

Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
10/12/2019 4:28 pm

 I had fake lobster once.
It just wasn't the same... I know what you mean. 🤔


Candics replies on 10/13/2019 1:36 pm:
LOL

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