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Sometimes Things Just Suck.or ... Getting to Know Someone is Sometimes The Good, The Bad and ...
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Sometimes Things Just Suck.or ... Getting to Know Someone is Sometimes The Good, The Bad and ... By now, most anyone following my blog for a while should realize a couple of things ... yes, the "incidents" are real, very real as are those involved, including myself. However, most of the names, exact locations ... when and where they occurred, etc. I have changed when possible or not relevant to what really happened. After all , except for Jackie a little over a year ago, no one associated with whatever has had an opportunity to tell their side or if they even wanted anything to be told at all. With what I have said in my posted narrations is close enough that they will know what I am talking about, but only they will know. If I want to "kiss and tell" about myself to understand and define better my "self" for myself or for whatever reasons, then that is my choice. So I have to own it, all of it, also. But no one else that is involved in my postings has been given a choice as to even if they agreed to be named, regardless of their degree of influence they had from my perspective as to whatever happened. So it is only fair not to point them out, period. Only the relevant consequences of whatever happened should be necessarily explained and clarified to understand the results and what results concerning me. I think that is fair. Recently, during the process of getting to know someone better I decided to<b> reciprocate </font></b>and include some personal stuff about myself to better explain myself to that person who I was interested in knowing. The result was a long message that I sent to her and admittedly, without any cautions as to keeping the info to herself as it was personal cause that should have been apparent with the contents. Specifically, she asked me about a term that I had used within my Profile Introduction so I related several issues/incidents so she could "fill in the blanks" as to basically who and what I was about and perhaps why. The next morning, "coincidentally" at least three of her "friends" listed on her Profile had reviewed my Profile after I had messaged her and two had sent me "flirts". And that brought up some issues. Frankly, for some time I have been "flirting" with the thought of posting incidents, including these, for some time just to get organized and see any patterns that eventually contributed to my "self" being myself, so it really was not that what I sent to her was learned by anyone and everyone. Sorting my feelings it was just that I was disappointed that she had not been sensitive enough to understand she was privy to my personal life because of my trust and confidence in her. So, the actual "broadcast" of info to her "friends" was not tragic in itself. I just thought it was a breech of confidence that should have been apparent. I guess I thought she was more than she actually appears to be. However, I think that she now has to deal with something that I think is even more serious than my issue above. At some point, if not she, than one or a couple or maybe a few of her "friends" must have realized that they were all then privy to very personal info that was addressed to her only and some caution must have been raised or considered by someone that the info was not to be dispensed any further and certainly not back to me. So, at some point, a few of her "friends" did not reach the amount of discretion or trust that she seemed to place with them. Perhaps there are more but I do have the names or user names of the three I referred to and because in spite of everything, I think the right thing to do here is to offer to give her those names. So, with the posting of this I will message her with the suggestion she read this plus renew my offer to giver her the names of those I know for sure probably betrayed her if she wants those names. I blame only myself for my apparent lack of judgment and yes, realize that my disappointment was with the results of getting to know her; her disappointments have to lie with people she calls "friends" ... And, I guess that is all ... ... xox Kaycee. |
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