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Musings about my lack of nookie.. lol  

frustratedguy48 58M
1 posts
7/24/2019 2:55 pm
Musings about my lack of nookie.. lol

Not sure what I am trying to accomplish by writing this down, but maybe it will help understand myself better maybe?

So, I am a married guy, whose wife is no longer interested in nookie/sexytimes. Not because of me (she swears) but because of her long term<b> medical </font></b>issues, and medications.. it has kinda "neutered" her in her words.

We have tried counseling, we have tried "just do it" mentality, and nothing sparks a click. She is not interested in other guys or girls, it is like her sex drive has permanently gone to neutral .. but even that is not right, because you would think that while desire might not be there, her body SHOULD react in pleasing ways.. but nope. She cannot even enjoy masturbation.. the "fun" is gone. She doesnt get wet, horny, nothing.

VERY upsetting to me, who thinks she is the shit and I still want her after 20 years of marriage.

She says she still loves , but .. no kisses beyond a peck, and talking to our pets in the same way that she talks to me, sucks.. There is no other guy or in the picture..

its just like a supreme deity took an eraser to her drive.. which USED to be heavy. Some days we spent fucking around the house, trying to do the deed in every room except for the (cause, wierd!).. I used to pass after sex, wake up in the middle of the night cause she needed it NOW, AND get in a session before we went to work.

Now, 180 degree turnaround

Divorce for lack of conjugal affections, while something possible, is just not in the cards for me. We have built a life, , pets, and a house togeather and walking away from all that just cause my dick is lonesome seems massively self-centered and petty in the long range thought.

Been to therapy for a lot of reasons, this being one.. and one compromise that SHE came up with is this site. Not FriendFinder-x specifically, but "go online, and find someone local who can help you with that urge of yours".. she refuses to call it a need, so...

So, we talked, and she did tell me in a therapists office, that she was FINE with me looking for a NSA/FWB person.. and here I am.

MAYBE she knew my story and my boundaries would sound SO fantastic that no lady would believe.. I mean, married guy trying to find sex on the side with permission? And she doesnt want to know details? SHHHHURRRREE.. but that is what it is.

Of COURSE I am having issues finding someone in central ohio who is willing to enter a relationship like this.. but I dont want to go around my wifes back, or her "rules" for a lack of a better term.

I have had so minimal success.. I have had 2 ladies offer their time for a consideration.. I have had 2 responses which got to the point of "Oh, your married? no can do" in spite of being up front about it. I have had MANY guys offer to "help " but I dont that way.

AAARRRRRGGHHH in general.

Might change if I was not a free member, but .. I doubt it. At least if I AM a Gold guy, I can read the sent to from overseas hotties who want to emigrate...

HAMONMAN 64M
13128 posts
7/24/2019 4:32 pm
"talking to our pets in the same way that she talks to me, sucks"


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