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orgasm games One of my very favorite ways to play is with orgasm. It’s such an important part of sex and life for many of us, there’s something very powerful about taking control over someone’s cumming. Not only is it sexy as hell for me, but it’s also a potent symbol of my partner’s submission, that they let me have the reins in that area, even if only for a little while. There are several ways to play with orgasms, from simple to complex. I’ve had direct experience with all of them except for the most advanced (I’m still looking for that someone who, not only do I want to go that deep with, but that also wants to go that deep with me. Someday, my cum sub will come…). In general, all orgasm games can to intensify the D/s dynamic increasing the feeling of submission and Dominance for both parties. It plays with the idea of:“Your orgasm is MINE, to do with as I will, when I will.” 1) Orgasm Denial ------------------------- This is probably one of the most basic and well known ways to toy with orgasms. Delayed gratification aka “teasing” is something we’ve probably heard talked about since our teenage years- stimulation that arouses, but doesn’t take us all the way to earn… “completion”. Chastity devices are a great way to literally and symbolically take control of your partners orgasms. And some of them are quite beautiful. Orgasm delayed or denied can lead to increased sensation during play, a deeper emotional/psychological experience for the bottom, and a potentially more intense orgasm when they are allowed. 2) Forced Orgasm ------------------------- We say “forced”, but we don’t mean it literally of course. Consent, always. But we can essentially “force” the body to stimulating it to orgasm in situations or ways in which our bottom might typically not want to come. Some examples: ----------------------- In embarrassing or unusual places- Give them instructions to go in the bathroom at work on their lunch break and get them-selves off. Make them while you’re at a walk in theater and no one is sitting close . Or in the car, the bedroom at their ’s house, at a party in front of people- settings that might feel awkward or embarrassing for them and that they would only consent to because it’s YOU insisting on it. Perhaps your bottom prides them-selves on controlling their orgasms. For example, a bodied person who always waits until you get off before they’ll let themselves - they’re attached to the idea of their staying power. For someone like that, it can be a nice head trip to deliberate brings them to orgasm before they would typically be ready psychologically. Maybe you’re familiar with folks who get a little (or a lot) vulnerable and freaked out when they get close to Cumming. I’ve run across this more with women, but it can happen with males too. They might start fighting the wave, resisting going over the peak into puddled out, orgasmic bliss. With someone like this, it can be utterly delightful to push them over that edge anyway, knowing they’re going to go all soft and squishy on you and that you’ll be there to hold them through that scary, raw place all the way. Remote controlled toys can be a great way to play with orgasm control. The idea is that your sub wears or inserts a toy that will be sexually stimulating, a toy to which you hold the controls. Good times. Last month I heard about a smart phone app that will let you do this over much greater distances than ever before. Note: ------- In the case of either<b> orgasm denial </font></b>or forcing, it’s crucial to know how this kind of stuff will affect your subject. Some people, if denied orgasm for too long, will completely lose the ability to cum at all. Some people, once they’ve had an orgasm, are completely done with a scene; conversely, others are able to take more intense sensation for longer once they’ve gotten off. These are just some examples and none of them is problematic, but it’s good to know so you can plan your scenes the way you want. There are always going to be unexpected things that come up, but having a scene end way before you’re ready is a drag and can be prevented with some information and forethought. And if you or your partner don’t know how they’ll react, it can be a lot of fun to find out. If you or your partner(s) aren’t quite ready for the kind of control described in either 1 or 2 above, there are some lighter weight things you can do with orgasms that are fun and will to build trust and intimacy between you. This brings us to: 3) Orgasm Reports --------------------------- This is just what it sounds like- every time they have one when they’re away from you, they have to message or call you with a report: where, when, who, how hard, what were they thinking, wearing, etc. The details are up to you. I instituted this with a partner when we were dealing with a 2 month separation and not only did it me to feel I was staying connected, it actually deepened the intensity of the sexual connection for us. I was aware that she was likely to be having a lot of orgasms and wouldn’t always have time to give me a detailed report, so the instruction was simply to give me as much detail as possible, including what he was thinking about, if anything. As an added bonus, those details gave me some great inspiration for things to do when we were together. Win! 4) Orgasm Dedication ------------------------------- This can be any kind of ritual you create that’s performed every time your partner has an orgasm. If you’re together, you can have them ask permission before they . If you’re apart, you can instruct them to say a few words and/or mentally hold your image in their minds, hearts, souls, and genitals. Can one hold an image in ones genitals? I can’t prove it, but I’m gonna’ say an emphatic “YES”. This can be tricky if your partner has other partners. I leave it to your discretion to modify as you see fit. 5) Orgasm Permission (Permission to Sir!) ------------------------------------------------------------------- Pretty straight forward. They need your permission to have an orgasm. You’re not available at the moment- not answering your texts? Oh well. Wait for it. Some couples work out a system which orgasm is a reward for certain behaviors- “I will let you when you’ve cleaned the kitchen”. Orgasm Games University- Advanced Techniques. These are the OG that I haven’t had personal experience with, but have read up on some while I wait for my slave to arrive (and some things, we can totally practice on ourselves- not a bad gig!). I consider them advanced techniques in that all of them generally involve some research and practice- sometimes LOTS of practice. Rough, I know. But seriously, it’s important to be patient with oneself and ones partner when working on advanced types of orgasm games. The mechanisms that make us are sometimes complicated and largely unconscious. The changes that these types of orgasm techniques bring about can often be stalled impatience, pressure or forcing. 6) Squirting aka Female Ejaculation -------------------------------------------------- I am assured that this can be learned. There are actually some great instructional resources online. Seek and ye shall find. Just be sure you’re watching actual “instructional” videos and not porn. Squirt Porn may be fun to watch, but some of it is and will only set everyone up for unrealistic expectations. 7) Multiple Orgasms for Men ----------------------------------------- Again, this is a learned technique wherein the doesn’t ejaculate- the spasms happen without the release of the fluids and thus, the orgasm can continue to reach peak after peak. Orgasm on Command From where I’m sitting, this is maybe the most advanced technique. But that probably depends on who you are. Some people seem to be natural squirters or multiply orgasmic ( or female) or easier to get the voice-command orgasm down. Orgasm on Command means we train so that when I tell you to , you do. Period. Some people have instilled a variation on this where it’s not the voice that makes the submissive get off, but a certain sound or time of day, for example. Besides the sound of the Masters voice saying, “thou shalt ”, you can connect this type of automatic response to a bell, a certain song, a smell, a kitchen timer even- any specific stimulus really. Pavlov’s - time, repetition, intention, desire can equal strong association. If you haven’t introduced orgasm games into your dynamic yet, this may give you some ideas. These techniques can be powerful ways to grow closer and have your partner(s) become more attuned to you as the source of their orgasmic happiness. In other words, like Pavlov’s , your partner could begin to strongly attach the experience of orgasm with the experience of you. Just something to be aware of. If it’s not likely to be an ongoing relationship, you might want to approach anything repetitive with some awareness and maybe even caution. I mean, be sure you want that someone to get more attached to you like this before you start doing things that will make it likely. Make sense? |
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9/28/2019 7:55 am |
I make sure to try and reach 10 squirting orgasms in a session for all my female play friends. You ain't leaving until you are jello......LOL....Leo
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Thanks for the assay, you've clearly thought of everything. First class
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9/28/2019 9:59 am |
And thank you for the warm welcome to blog land dear neighbor.
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9/28/2019 10:16 am |
I hope you did enjoy it.When it comes to my woman, or my fwb, or my gf, or my wife, or my submisive's sexual delight and earth shattering squirting orgasms i leave no method untried.
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i can assure you he knows what he is talking about 
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