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" Safe Sex?" I know this and time we have to all think "Safety".... But with that said, I am amazed at the different things each of us do to be safe..... For example: Most all enjoy kissing. Some enjoy getting &/or giving oral pleasure in varied degrees. Some enjoy getting &/or giving anal pleasure in varied degrees.... then there is intercourse of the cunt/pussy and lastly intercourse of the anus..... then there is the occasional man that likes to fuck your fat or fold or roll and on your body. I have never had this done to , I personally find it degrading... But he does exist and some ladies must find joy in such cumming…. Some of us have bars set regarding sex and other may have very few bars or no bars..... My sexual drive being very and I am kinky (NOT BDSM! NOT S&M! NOT BONDAGE!) some may think as I do I am a kinky freak.... I for a FWB or 3 FWB's so I can have as much sex as they can share with regularly without having to worry about safety so much, because for what ever each others reason is most would not be getting sex else where unless they meet a special someone. The purpose of FWB is to be the sexual play mate instead of one night stands or the fly by night player (you know the regular, but may play once or a few times a month... that being said they most likely are getting sex other places or are not. All depends on the individual situation.) NOTE: all I am saying is based on my personal experiences and observations...…… I personally like to think I am being very safe by being very picky about who I play with until I find my FWB's. Granted even if I find 3 FWB's and they have never met, but know about each other and are all having sex with me BAREBACK. That means we may as well be having sex all together.... But in my head if we all are tested clean or safe and only play with each other then we should remain safe.... If this is wrong please someone tell me and be able to support their findings. I have men all the time say what they will and will not do in sexual playing and that is important so we each know what to expect from each other. It is the same regarding getting the sexual satisfaction each is seeking we must share to know how to please each other. But I am amazed about the thing men say and do to stay safe. First let me say I love to make out for a long time and kiss a lot all through sexual playing and when not playing. I am very oral giving and receiving. I am very into anal play giving and receiving. I love the taste of the whole body kissing and licking, the touching and smell of the body is very arousing for me... I need my play mate to be freshly showered and smell good no just with soap, but with after<b> shave </font></b>or skin conditioner or a fragrance.... Fragrances are very arousing and for some reason men today do not seem to care about how they smell and deodorant is a must.... I can not have enjoyable sex with a person, man or lady that stinks.... Now granted while playing we start to have a sexual odor in our private areas that our play mate cause us to have.... and that is erotic in every essences of the word. The sexual odor is started with the making out, touching, kissing, licking all get the juices flowing.... then there is the most awesome flavors of precum and a sweet juices that start to pool out of excitement... lastly is the best part of all the cum... I love cum, lots of cum in all my holes.... I love to taste my playmates cum and my own cum is all so thick, white, creamy and sweet..... In love my own cum.... I love sharing cum in kisses..... and then there so many other sexual play and exchanges of fluids with each other that each can encounter in sexual playing.... Sex is as wide as the horizon and is limitless.... We are the ones who put limits on sexual playing for various reasons... Now I have shared my sexual desires and enjoyment with you. I wish to share with you a few of my experiences and encounters men on FriendFinder-x... I am both amazed and shocked some of the statements, needs, requirements to play make me wonder how they think they are being safer than my self.... I encountered a man today that wanted anal play with my finger wearing a glove for his protection. He was willing to relent on the glove, but must wear a condom all for safe sex.... Then I had to ask the one question " well why are you willing to eat my pussy and kiss me?" does not make since to me at all.... I mean you are wiling to put your tongue in my mouth, and in my pussy, but not your cock and you want to be finger fucked in you ass with a glove on.... Please someone make sense of this for me... I encounter on occasion men that are not willing to French Kiss me because it is all to personal.... What? To personal? Really? Yes! French kissing is for that one special lady.... Hmmm.... Really? I do not get it.... if kissing is personal the what is sticking your cock in my pussy and ass called? for me it is very personal to me.... The man not willing to French Kiss me is to personal but sticking his tongue in my pussy or my ass hole is not personal.... Hmmm…. it is very personal to me.... Please someone make sense of this for me...... I do totally understand the need of safety with sex.... but If you stop kissing, stop touching, stop tasting, just wear a condom and fuck the pussy and or ass.... you are being safe with sex to some degree, best to wear two condoms, only expose you sexual organs and stay dressed to stay totally safe. Right?.... Even Doctors giving birth to babies wear two pair of gloves on their hands, mask, goggles, gowns and yet still are not sure they are safe enough. We have to be our own advocates to safe sex the best way possible.... Yet what are you willing to sacrifice to have great sex.... Me, I sacrifice having no sex 99% of the time.... I keep my self tested HAHA! and I am not having sex.... funny Huh! I am turning down 2-3 men a day not all local either.... some men willing to fly in for a weekend or drive a day to play for a few days. Which I would love ….. but some are just to much of a kinky freak and that is hard to beat me seriously....LOL! then there is the arrogant man that contacts me and acts like I owe him something for contacting me.... Like Hey! I want to fuck your fat ass, but you have to give me some new pictures of you getting your fat ass fucked before I come and fuck you.... I am like Really? You contacted me, you said you wanted to fuck me yesterday. Now today you have conditions..... HAHA! I do not beg no man for his cock. I like a gentleman must be physically and mentally attracted to a man to have sex with him... So if I am not attracted to am man I turn him down.... I welcome all thoughts, comments and ideas to my blog..... Thank you for taking the time to read my ramblings about my thoughts and ideas on said topics I have chosen.   
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Great post and comments.... illustrating that our understanding of "safe sex" and "FWB" varies from person to person. My take on "safe sex" is that there is no such thing. I've seen (in the 1990's when I was volunteering at an outpatient center) too many people die from thinking that HIV would never touch them, that they were in control. Today, I can only hope for myself that I am practicing "safer sex," and that too, is a very iffy proposition, since I cannot control what my partners are doing. Having said that, I very much enjoy a fluid-bonded relationship - smell, taste, feel, all that is necessary for a complete sexual experience.
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I'm surprised you feel that your FWB's are loyal to you. In my mind a FWB is still free to fuck whoever they like, therefore rendering safe sex nigh on impossible. I wouldn't bareback with anyone unless we were in a monogamous relationship.
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The true key is open discussion whether a FWB a fling or intimate. The better you communicate honestly, the better it will be for both of you. Of course there has to be some room for the fibbers of this world (Virtual Symposium Group) use Virtual Symposium Group
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11/6/2019 6:04 am |
Hey Sally! I enjoyed your post because it raises up some very good questions. In my opinion, the simple answer comes down to personal preferences. What one person finds as a very personal act someone else may not. When I was younger unattached and primarily fucking men I never accepted or gave oral. I thought this exchange was to intimate. That was reserved for the ones I had more than just lust feelings for....Back then though I only lusted lol. I remember there was a guy I was fucking on a regular and a few times his roommate joined in. The roommate did the typical guy thing of putting his dick in my face while I was screwing the regular. Yeah, he was met with rejection hahahahaha. I had friends who would only give head because they felt having sex with the guy was personal. To each their own. I totally believe in having these discussions beforehand so it's clear what the boundaries are, which ones are fixed, which ones are flexible and one can either agree or disagree with the terms. I was recently propositioned by a lady on here who stated she enjoyed receiving oral but doesn't give. I told her 69 with a woman is the best part then I declined her invitation because her terms didn't align with mine. At this stage, I agree with you in having a few tested negative individuals for consistent fwb situation.
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