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Bad experience with FWB
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Bad experience with FWB This is not an attempt slander anyone. I leave names out of it but I am curious - has anyone ever heard of a FWB relationship like this????? I would like the communities opinion on this because I have never had a FWB until I got on this site. One guy (who I will not name) was my FWB on here after I met him for sex. We got along well and we had great sex and I liked him so I asked him if he was going be my FWB for sex and he said yes, he wanted be. Well we had a wonderful time as FWBs, he was fun hang with and the sex was great. Then he started saying things like he cared for and he decided he wanted an exclusive relationship. I told him it was a bad idea and that I liked what we had, but he insisted. He did tell he had one woman that he was having sex with, he called her FWB. He had been having sex with her for 4-5 years and I said Ok because she was there before he met me. He wanted us to be exclusive and told me he had told FWB that he had someone and not to call. He said that his relationship with FWB was lacking emotion and making love. He wanted to be kissed, not just his mouth, but his neck and other parts of his body. He told he had been in the swinger Lifestyle before in but he no longer wanted be in that lifestyle. So one day, FWB called him (according him) and he told he told her not to call him anymore that he had a relationship and wanted it to work out. He kept stressing how he wanted us to work out and to be fair, I did fall in love with him. I thought he was a man of his word.. He finally asked if I would move in. While he was making love to he was say things like how we fit together so well, and how he wanted with him and how he wanted be in my life forever. Well I did the best I could while living with him. He liked things kept clean and I did my best, in fact I did too much. Right before the breakup, he kept mentioning having a threesome. I had never had one before and I asked about it since I wanted to be sexually adventurous. Well he suggested his friend that I will call S. He said she had the most experience. What he failed to disclose was that she was a prior girlfriend. I found this out from her. They had been lovers previously and had broken up 3 times according to her. He denied it. Well we had our threesome and he changed. I told him I needed to discuss my feelings about it because I was<b> jealous </font></b>of this girl and did not want to do a threesome with her again He became angry. I suggested maybe he still loved S but he denied it, although some discussion had come about because she had told him she was leaving her present husband once her graduated and would be single again. So the day he was supposed to come home and talk about this, once he came home he refused to talk about it and became angry. I threatened to leave and he said well maybe we need a few days away from each other. So I took most of my stuff to the car and he said to leave the rest of it he would make a decision on Friday (this was a Wednesday). I said no, I was taking all my stuff and gave him back his key. So after talking to my I went back the same day, a few hours later to explain that I did not want an end to the relationship, I gave back the key because it was his. He would not let me in the door but I slipped in anyway. He told me that I was not welcome and he had a relationship with someone else and I needed to LEAVE because in fact she was on her way there now!!!!! I refused to leave until we had a discussion, he would not talk to me. I misbehaved and took some items of his to try and force him to speak to me. His Knife collection and the puppy because he threatened to kill the puppy if I did not leave. He has also threatened to kill himself. I gave him back his items the next day when it was clear he would not discuss why he decided he no longer wanted me after the threesome. He blamed me, saying the threesome was my fault. But he is the one that said FMF turned him on and actually he was the one that kept bringing it up. and BTW, he wanted me to fuck an animal for him. That is way beyond anything anyone has asked me to do before. Stupid me, after that we decided to be FWBs again until he wanted to add more FWBs to the 3 he already had. I told him no, that was my line, I was done. He has since blocked me, I got told off by the female who he wanted to add but rejected him, said I should never mention any ones name to her but she did not recognize his user name. And was told that a true FWB would never say anything about her FWB. But in this case, I do not think a woman should put up with this. I am trying to warn all women - there are some bad guys out there, really bad guys. Most are great and have treated me wonderfully, but this guy is bad news and tries to recruit women to pull other women in for his sexual pleasure because he can not get them himself. It's just not right. So my question you - Is this guy got emotional problems or is that just one bad experience? IM for more information. Trust me , you do not want get tied with this person, my guess is Narcissistic with illusions of grandeur or emotional instability but I mean for heavens sake - he is over 40. I guess I will just chalk it up to experience. |
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Bummer
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mental illness for sure. stay far away ..... best wishes
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3/25/2020 5:40 pm |
I'd say he's got some issues. a FWB situation should be easy, all mine were. These are even beyond relationship problems. It sounds like he's trying to manipulate you and the other girl. Of course, I don't know him, and I'm only hearing your side of events, but............... RUN!!!!!!
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Wow. Your fortitude in the face of this passive-aggressive relationship is impressive. To your *either/or* question - Yes, there are significant emotional problems in play here. And (technically) Yes, this is a *bad experience*, but one that is likely bookmarked with plenty of other *bad experiences*- past, present and future. Run.
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Since you asked......he is a total whack job. Run and don’t look back.
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Wow. Wow. Wow. This is wild af. Too crazy. Be glad you got out. That situation was/is nuts. I hope you got the puppy away from the psycho.
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3/28/2020 8:55 am |
Thanks everyone who gave me feedback, good and bad. I realize that part of the fault here was me. I should have stood up for what I believe is right and not tried to appease him in order to stay with him. Despite what he did, I still love him and I'm trying to get over that. Maybe I'm naïve, but why go to a relationship when you are already getting the sex? I just don't understand. I don't believe he ever really loved me, most likely just wanted to manipulate me and stupid me I let him. Thanks again everyone.
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Mental illness? Check. Passive-aggressive? Check. Manipulative? Check. Bummer? Check!
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Sorry you had to go though this drama but please learn from it. Being FWB should be good for all, not just one of you. This guy has issues that will probably never be fixed. Be happy you walked away, and just stick to dating. Good luck!
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