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Episode V: Carrying On and Peanuts, Peanuts, PEANUTS!!  

bustinout20202 67F  
806 posts
11/25/2020 8:51 am
Episode V: Carrying On and Peanuts, Peanuts, PEANUTS!!

It really bothers me to have the word stealing gremlins loose, so will post in comments as well for the work around. Thanks for the read and following my story!

You know how browsing on the internet can become a time suck? How Facebook beckons for all to like, comment, or emoji all the happy posts from friends…food posts, pet posts, we’re so in love posts, etc., etc. ad nauseum?
Fuck Facebook!
I gained a new time suck that week. FriendFinder-x was my new go-to every morning with that first cup o’ joe. I was almost late for my class that day because there were so many penis pics, sigh…and so little time! I responded to a few on here that reached out to me with more than a two-word comment or dick pic. [I’m sorry, but “wanna fuck?” just doesn’t cut it for me].
I went in to the office to get my music when my dear friend greeted me with a whispered, “I met someone!”
“Gilf” took over my job when I retired at the beginning of the year. We had been friends for about 20 years and tho’ she had been a stay at home mom all those years, I knew she would do well in my position. She returned the favor by hiring me as a free-lance teacher of dance and art as no one else could fill those shoes adequately. I can’t lie, it was a rocky transition at first: balancing a friendship with a work relationship is hard, but I knew she was the right person for the job. The previous year of me scaling back, and her asserting her ascending position was rough on the friendship. Add to the mix the stress of her marriage beginning its descent to ending-well, suffice to say, nerves were fraying a bit.
Her comment that day fast-tracked our healing however.
“You did? Ohhhh, grrrrl, we gotta talk!”
We met after her shift was finished that very day for drinks and downloads. She filled me in on her re-acquaintances: Facebook had reunited her with a former lover. He was her Rock n Roll, Harley riding “Friend with Benefits” before such a term was coined. Now, married, he struck up conversations with her as if the years and life had not separated them at all. When she was done sharing her good fortune, I swallowed hard and screwed up the courage to tell her about my screwed up life.
Soooo, here’s what’s new in my life…
With that I brought her up to speed with my story. I could see her anger rise up for the hubs. I was okay with that.
I went on to explain my new activity and how admiring eyes wanted to know more about me. [Wait! That’s “inquiring minds”, isn’t it!] Those kind ogles and compliments did a girl good, I must say! They really helped me get through those initial, very dark days. I was surprised at the response on the site and it felt good to know that maybe I could be considered attractive to some. It helped me to be better grounded; no longer insane; less<b> obsessed </font></b>with the hubs’ goings on now. [well…kinda]
Who needs counseling? Just go on a hookup site, lol!
Even more helpful, I now had a friend I could confide in. What a relief that was! Gilf is a good listener, too. She took in the whole story and then after a short silence, she said, “Good for you! I say, Go for it! If you and the hubs are in agreement, then, Do it!”
“We’re not getting any younger, right?” I said as I raised my glass.
At that, we clinked our glasses and said, “Till next time!”

How about you? Do you have someone you can talk to about ‘the lifestyle? Do any of your closest friends know?


~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


bustinout20202 67F  
1080 posts
11/25/2020 8:54 am

You know how browsing on the internet can become a time suck? How Facebook beckons for all to like, comment, or emoji all the happy posts from friends…food posts, pet posts, we’re so in love posts, etc., etc. ad nauseum?

Fuck Facebook!

I gained a new time suck that week. FriendFinder-x was my new go-to every morning with that first cup o’ joe. I was almost late for my class that day because there were so many penis pics, sigh…and so little time! I responded to a few on here that reached out to me with more than a two-word comment or dick pic. [I’m sorry, but “wanna fuck?” just doesn’t cut it for me].

I went in to the office to get my music when my dear friend greeted me with a whispered, “I met someone!”

“Gilf” took over my job when I retired at the beginning of the year. We had been friends for about 20 years and tho’ she had been a stay at home mom all those years, I knew she would do well in my position. She returned the favor by hiring me as a free-lance teacher of dance and art as no one else could fill those shoes adequately. I can’t lie, it was a rocky transition at first: balancing a friendship with a work relationship is hard, but I knew she was the right person for the job. The previous year of me scaling back, and her asserting her ascending position was rough on the friendship. Add to the mix the stress of her marriage beginning its descent to ending-well, suffice to say, nerves were fraying a bit.

Her comment that day fast-tracked our healing however.

“You did? Ohhhh, grrrrl, we gotta talk!”

We met after her shift was finished that very day for drinks and downloads. She filled me in on her re-acquaintances: Facebook had reunited her with a former lover. He was her Rock n Roll, Harley riding “Friend with Benefits” before such a term was coined. Now, married, he struck up conversations with her as if the years and life had not separated them at all. When she was done sharing her good fortune, I swallowed hard and screwed up the courage to tell her about my screwed up life.

Soooo, here’s what’s new in my life…

With that I brought her up to speed with my story. I could see her anger rise up for the hubs. I was okay with that.

I went on to explain my new activity and how admiring eyes wanted to know more about me. [Wait! That’s “inquiring minds”, isn’t it!] Those kind ogles and compliments did a girl good, I must say! They really helped me get through those initial, very dark days. I was surprised at the response on the site and it felt good to know that maybe I could be considered attractive to some. It helped me to be better grounded; no longer insane; less obsessed with the hubs’ goings on now. [well…kinda]

Who needs counseling? Just go on a hookup site, lol!

Even more helpful, I now had a friend I could confide in. What a relief that was! Gilf is a good listener, too. She took in the whole story and then after a short silence, she said, “Good for you! I say, Go for it! If you and the hubs are in agreement, then, Do it!”

“We’re not getting any younger, right?” I said as I raised my glass.

At that, we clinked our glasses and said, “Till next time!”

How about you? Do you have someone you can talk to about ‘the lifestyle? Do any of your closest friends know?

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


CleavageFan4U 66M
69374 posts
11/25/2020 3:21 pm

That's "admiring eyes" and “inquiring minds” AND "watering mouths" and "stiffening cocks" that NEED to know more.

My closest friends are the ones I met on this site, and there are several that know the EVERYTHING / the WHOLE story, but like me anyway.

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easy_going2014 57M
14366 posts
11/25/2020 3:43 pm

Hmm, thanks for sharing

I get my fill of "do you wann fuck" texts from Pros in the area

there's no response from me for those

we only have one life to live

and, I believe you should do whatever suits you

I've had old flames come to me over the years, because they never really left, they just discovered a different world

when people tell me that they've met their soul mate, I'm always amazed because there are over 7 Billion people on the planet, and, can there only be one

in a lifetime, you don't meet that many people, and some people continue to grow, while others stop in a time block, or close their filters, or shut off that newness factor

when I'm ready die, then, I'll go quietly

I must say that I am happy with who I am

I have met some interesting people here and in the real world

I responded to your other post

have a great Thanksgiving

hmm

be safe

Janelle Kroll - "Down to you" (My Confidante)... (an homage to Joni Mitchell)

Everything comes and goes
Marked by lovers and styles of clothes
Things that you held high
And, told yourself were true
Lost or changing as the days come down 2 you
It's down 2 you
Constant stranger
You're a cold person
You're a kind person 2
It's down 2 you
It all comes down 2 you

In the morning there are lovers in the street
They look so high
You brush against a stranger
And, you both apologize
Old friends seem indifferent
You must have brought that on
Old bonds have broken down
Love is gone
Written on your spirit this sad song
It's down to you
You're a cold person
You're a kind person 2
It's down 2 you
It all comes down 2 you

Chicago's not the East Coast
Tell me 'bout LA
I'm caught up in the middle
Tryna get away
How you gonna grind
You say how you gonna save
I'll make it there by New Years
Let's throw a parade
You helped me2 it my confidante
Don't you forget it
But, I'm going through it my confidante
you got a minute
We're 2 young 2 worry about our future for today
And, it's 2 late to talk about the past 'cause it's 2AM
Some things will never change

Everything comes and goes
Pleasure moves on 2 early
And trouble leaves 2 slow
Just when you're thinking
You've finally got it made
Bad news comes knocking at your garden gate
Knocking for you
Constant stranger
You're a brute, you're an angel
You can crawl you can fly too
It's down to you
It all comes down 2 you
Yeah you, 2 You (x3)
It all comes down 2 you...

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Good luck!!!


bustinout20202 replies on 11/29/2020 2:52 pm:
Thank you for your comments and for responding to my posts. Its true, we only have one life to live and since I've been given a "free pass" I intend to use it! Thanks sir! You be safe too! hugs, Busti

TicklePlease 56F  
13851 posts
11/25/2020 5:12 pm

I don't have any friends nowadays who aren't "lifestyle" in some form or another (nudist/swinger/Ds/poly) and I consider myself blessed by the ability to have open conversations and questions and venting sessions with all of them! It wasn't always like that... I remember mentioning to an acquaintance once about going to a nudist club decades ago and they were so freaked out and judgmental.


bustinout20202 replies on 11/27/2020 12:19 am:
Hey, Thanks for the read! Yeah, I made the mistake of telling another friend about our "changes". She has been through thick & thin with me; even to the point of going with us when we eloped to Reno! [another story for another day, lol] So, I thought she'd be cool with it, and she is to a certain extent. But I hear it in her tone...a little judge-y judge-y. Think it means I'm not telling her too much. Other than those two, my lips are sealed!

jajo696 113F
4287 posts
11/25/2020 11:11 pm

A very timely post for me. I dont now what you mean about the lifestyle as we are all here for diff reasons. I am in a school district and was advised long ago not to post any pics on a site such as this, so i havent. I will think abt that after i retire.

A very close friend is the only one who knew that i had a special friend for almost 8 yrs ..from this site. She and i never lived in the same state , yet were friends since childhood and followed each other thru college, marriage, family and loss. I think of the movie Beaches as i write this. He ( my friend) had her contact info in case he couldnt contact me. She agreed to that arrangement. Thats how close we are....we held each others confidences.

Well....this wonderful lifelong friend passed away last week. I am devastated and heartbroken beyond belief. I didnt think my heart could break anymore after losing my mom. only sib and hubs within the last 6 yrs....and now her.

Yep...we would clink our glasses too....and talk ...and giggle.....and talk about growing older together. I loved your story and i love and miss my friend 💕

Be safe ~~
( crying as i write and re read this before i hit ' post' )


bustinout20202 replies on 11/27/2020 1:19 am:
Thanks JaJo for the read. Sending hugs!!

bustinout20202 67F  
1080 posts
11/26/2020 4:12 pm

Don't you mean the WHOLE enchilada?! lol! thanks for the read! And your kind words! Always a pleasure!

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


loneleix 64M
978 posts
11/29/2020 9:03 am

My "lifestyle" on here is pretty mundane. I have not personally met anyone from the site although I do correspond with someone I met here. I tried the gold route a couple of time but got sick of the scammers and professional users that sent me email.

So..... in answer to your question, I don't discuss my activities here with anyone not from here even though my blog is usually not very sexual to start with, more of just talking about whatever is on my mind.

I have considered what a good meeting story it would be for the overly curious if something more permanent would come from meeting someone from here. Personally..... I think it would be a great story.

"We met on a sex site....." I imagine how that would go and laugh, thinking of the people I know and their reactions. They would probably think it sounds about right knowing me.


bustinout20202 replies on 11/29/2020 2:57 pm:
You're the second one on this post talking about the scammers and pros. Isn't there a way to filter those? I'm sure its frustrating. I have seen a few fake accounts; nice pics but I ignore them.
I like your writing: it draws you in and makes you feel a part of it.
Thanks for the read and your comments. Stay tuned!

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