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Loving a Woman’s Imperfections
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Loving a Woman’s Imperfections Thank you for visiting my Blog. Steve aka billnoone2 on ghee There are no imperfect women, only women who may have imperfections. The glamourized images of women the media props as a symbol of beauty are easy spot. I've recently seen a TV Commercial featuring a pretty 25 YO- or so pitching a makeup that promises Age Defy. I’m not making thisup . These images are common and easily recognized. They generally seem be thin or very fit, mid-20’s mid-30’s, perfect of face and figure; including incredible hair and teeth topped with perfect makeup. You can almost smell how gorgeous they are through the TV. These are the images used tantalize young men from an early age. When puberty hits, it’s an easy transition to move from the TV to the PC, pull up some porn and use the images of “pretty girls” for masturbation. Don't get me wrong, I'm in favor of masturbation. It got through a lot of lonely nights (and mornings, and afternoons). This behavior, practiced over an extended period of time, begins to condition men to associate sexual pleasure with women having certain aesthetic attributes. This conditioning also can manifest itself in the belief that sexual satisfaction is best obtained through sex with women fitting a specific aesthetic Profile. Certainly, men are willing have sex with women not fitting the ideal Profile, but many also believe that better choices are available, and they should pro-actively seek those women out fitting the Ideal. This search for Hot as is defined by the culture and media is where harm begins, for both Men and Women. This dynamic serves as a powerful influencer over sexual satisfaction for men and women alike. For men, the dynamic sets them on a course of searching for those women fitting the ideal Profile, passing over or not even seeing those many quality women that could offer a satisfying sexual experience simply because they don’t fit the Profile. For women, the dynamic becomes the catalyst for low self-esteem and low confidence. They sometimes decide that they don't measure , that they could never measure and behavioral problems soon show . Some women choose forgo attempts at being feminine and become careless in their dressing and personal care. The logic being why bother, they're not a "girly girl" and could never reach the Ideal. Others come to believe they could never satisfy a “ Hot Guy” because he could easily have a more beautiful woman to engage with. And while a Hot Guy may have sex with her, she reasons that she will not hold on him longer term because he is too attractive for her to keep. This entire cycle provides a sad testament demonstrating the power of culture and Media. Thankfully, there is hope this cycle can be broken, and in fact is broken as Men and Women mature. Some do not escape these perceptions and remain trapped in sexual immaturity. For those that do, it happens as they gain in maturity and experience. Some will leave behind their boyish notions and are willing put away their Hot Wheels, Farah Fawcett posters and muscle cars in exchange for relationships of value with women of substance. They choose the Authentic over the airbrushed. When that happens, real peace and sexual satisfaction can flourish. Which leads me to the primary point of this blog entry. I believe there is true beauty in a Woman’s imperfections. Perfect is for boys. Perfect requires no acknowledgement of a woman's life journey. A woman’s imperfections is what makes her special and endearing a man. A woman with imperfections makes men want to protect her, shelter her, please her, comfort her. Love her. Years ago, I had a special woman friend who had numerous body imperfections. Each of her imperfections made feel as though I wanted do everything I could to show her that I saw her as perfect. The first time we made love, as she disrobed I saw large portions of her torso, legs, thighs and butt covered with cellulite. She also bore the<b> scars </font></b>of several major surgeries across her tummy and also running vertically from her breast bone to her navel. Making love with her, holding her, enjoying her triggered every instinct of my manhood. I never saw her as anything less than perfect. Her imperfections were simply those pieces of her that brought her to the place where she and I met. They allowed us come together in an honest and loving relationship. It was almost holy, and yet the complete expression of being human with the passion between a man and a woman. The scared imperfect woman allowing me to enjoy her simply as a Woman.. Not as a Hot Woman or a Less-Than Hot Woman.. Rather, just as kind, considerate and passionate woman intent of pleasing me and I intent on pleasing her. It was blissful. Everyone seems be so focused on “seeing a picture” of their potential date. This is common on this site and every other site like this one. I think is room focus on how kind and giving someone seems. Is your intended date aloof, self-absorbed, petty, and entitled, but in their picture they’re really Hot! Thank You but no Thank You. I’ll choose a kind, sincere, and engaged every time. And when she drops her clothes and you notice scars, some weight and cellulite on her legs or upper arms, appreciate her journey. You may have found a long-term lover that you can respect and value. Please feel free comment or suggest topics for future blog postings Thanks, Steve aka billnoone2 on ghee Steve Pre |
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