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A Proper Dom.  

GoodSafeFunSTL 56M
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1/17/2021 8:01 pm
A Proper Dom.
Proper DOM
Recently I was contacted by a female friend who was traumatized by her most recent sexual encounter. She had indicated that she was submissive and she like it “a little rough”. Her partner then proceeded to go WAY over the line and left the woman in an emotionally vulnerable state. There was NO aftercare and very little time invested beforehand to learn what this woman needed. I find this abhorrent in the extreme..
This person was not a good DOM. The human brain is the largest sex organ in the body. Sex begins and ends there and great care is needed to properly prepare it before physical sex and care is needed after sex for proper fulfillment for both. (you might want to get asked to come back folks). Before I begin play with a new partner, I play a small game. It is designed to stimulate the part of the brain were sex originates ( medulla oblongata).
When played, my partners brain gets stimulated and their body responds. HOW their body responds tells me almost everything I need to know about how they respond to certain stimulation. FOREPLAY IS CRITICAL!!!. I ask questions but more than that .... I listen. I understand that other factors can be involved such as the partner being under the influence of drugs or alcohol that will cloud their judgement. That is one reason why it should be used very conservatively if at all.
I have learned the hard way that not taking the time up front, leads to bad outcomes later. Sometimes years later.
As critical, if not more so, is proper aftercare. Affirmations of affection and caring can go far. Sometimes they want to "FEEL" their emotions subside alone and I will agree to that ahead of time.
I cannot stand that a beautiful woman friend of mine is in so much unnecessary pain. Please people, take the time to learn a bit about the person you will be playing with. You may want to be asked back.
And if you want to know about my secret game, let’s play it together I

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