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What was the breaking point that made you decide to stray?  

DiscreteSlowRide 54M
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6/27/2021 10:39 am
What was the breaking point that made you decide to stray?

A lot of people on here are attached but not necessarily into the swinging lifestyle. (To each their own) but yet are here to fill voids and unmet needs.
Whatever those needs are, what was your breaking point when you finally had enough and decided to cross that line from a faithful spouse/sig other to fulfilling that missing void?

(This is a judgement free zone so feel free to be as honest as you wish)

AlyTal 36M/33F
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6/29/2021 4:04 pm

 I grew up in a large family in the islands in the old Culture of Aloha that still has a fairly high level of sexuality in this more modern age. My mainland born hubby and I began swinging even before we married, mostly with college couple friends, and with a few singles, male and female. I suppose for me there was no exact moment that flipped my switch to swing because I was just doing what came naturally for me. But for hubby there was a moment... when one of his best friends got orders to go to Afghanistan. We invited his friend to dinner where we lived together at the old obsolete fire station my boy friend at the time, later my hubby, had leased from the city. The fire station was a great party place, the truck bay was our dance floor, and the Seagram 7 and music allowed the questions for me to learn that his friend had no wife or girl friend to give him a nice send off, so when he was leaving I gave his friend a big wet aloha kiss, and the next thing I knew I was back on the couch squeezed between my future hubby and his friend going back and forth kissing them both, and then my tank top went up and off, my panties disappeared, and my future hubby actually invited his friend to go for it first as our guest. And that was the first time with others not long after


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 6/29/2021 4:38 pm:
Hi Tallie,
It s fascinating to me that being so open sexually was so natural to you in your college or pre college years. I am sure there were threesomes happening on my college campus but I never heard about it. You know college kids, where there is something wild going on, everyone knows about it.

You see, I grew up in a very very conservative rigidly structured home, under old school Italian parents. So swinging and sharing were almost foreign to me especially at a young age. Sex was not something that was supposed to be casual or anything like that. So once I started having sex when I was a high school freshman or sophomore, a whole new world opened up for me!! Before I knew it I was sneaking girls into the house, getting hotel rooms, blowing off school to go home to spend the day in bed with someone. I definitely went in the direction my parents tried to prevent me from going in.

Anyway you have me curious about what home life was like for you when you grew up and how swinging was so natural for you.

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