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Would You Still Find An Ex Attractive Many Years Later?  

DiscreteSlowRide 54M
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7/6/2021 10:29 am
Would You Still Find An Ex Attractive Many Years Later?

Let's say that as of  today you are at least 45 years old (give or take a few years) and you bump into an ex from your<b> younger </font></b>days. Lets say you dated them you were in your 20's. Like all of us, your ex has ummm...evolved... with age. Now beauty comes in all shapes and forms so lets just say that as of today, your ex does not resemble the person they used to be from a physical aspect. Chances are, they might not get your attention today if you did not know them or have history with them.
BUT...when you talk to them and their personality comes through and you discover they are smart, mature, grown up, funny, they are fun! Engaging etc etc......

The bottom line is, you connect with them mentally.

Do you think you would be attracted to them now as an adult even though the attractive exterior you once knew is not what it was.

jajo696 113F
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7/7/2021 5:09 am

 Ive always, even as a younger person , valued the inner soul. In that regard, yes i would still be attracted to them, because whats inside usually endures and we can always build off of that. I was mature enuff to know that then and still hold those values now~


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/7/2021 11:11 pm:
Interesting because it sounds like you can rebuild of off what might have drawn you to them when you first met them even after 20 or more years have gone by.

DiscreteSlowRide 54M
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7/7/2021 11:07 pm

 The idea for this post came after my ex from high school stayed with me for a little while. She needed some space from her husband, so I let her stay with me. We never lived together, so living under the same roof for a while was new for us.

Trying to be aware of whether lightening could strike twice for us and the quick and easy answer to that question was, No! Absolutely not. For me, I was too different, breaking up was a good thing and I would not go back.


bustinout20202 67F  
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7/14/2021 7:24 am

 I don't have any thing to compare that to, really, but my friend is going through such a scenario as we speak. Someone from her past reached out to her on FB and now they see each other on a regular basis. She said he's aged and added a bit to his frame on the outside, but when he smiles....he's still the same happy, adventurous guy she loved being with thirty years ago.
~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


DiscreteSlowRide replies on 7/14/2021 8:43 am:
It's amazing how two people can reconnect years later as if they are picking up where they left off as if not more than a few days has gone. by. i would love to know how this pays out with them.

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