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Craving for Intimacy.....  

chichidevane 66F
38 posts
5/12/2021 5:04 pm
Craving for Intimacy.....

Hi...I'm fully aware that this is a adult hook-up site. SEX is the objective, I get it....and that's why I'm here! Not only do I crave hot sex, I also want intimacy. Is that too much to ask for? I had a weekly and it was good, but no Intimacy. I asked a few times, and he shared he couldn't. Is that an issue for men here? He said that he didn't want another woman to fall in love with him...lol...oh lord! I just think he wasn't able to bring it to the table. I can have sex and not get emotionally involved. I can also have Intimacy with no attachments. SO..I ask men out there, is this an ongoing issue? Can you have Intimacy without getting attached? Or women for that fact? I'm very comfortable with the lifestyle...and I understand how it works, I've been in it for a long time. I know vanilla sites are not for me, since I crave SEX and you are never sure if your partner is just as . I've had many experiences while in the lifestyle, and always wondered if Intimacy is part of the deal. Just asking...thanks for reading my blog! I use blog so much more ago, loved it and had many followers. Now, once in a great while I take the time vent.

Enjoy your evening!!

CHICHI

HAMONMAN 64M
13128 posts
5/12/2021 8:02 pm

 pish posh


chichidevane replies on 5/27/2021 4:31 am:
haha

hwr2005 64M
1 post
8/5/2021 10:41 am

 I enjoy intimacy. For me it isnt just about having sex but maybe thats because I am older. I like the whole build up to the actual act itself and yes I believe you can separate the two without becoming attached. I think with age we start to miss the friendship part and the intimacy as much if not more then just getting off, or at least thats what I have found but I guess everyone is different in what they are looking for as well.


chichidevane replies on 10/15/2021 6:07 pm:
Im with you my friend! I'm old school, but open minded, and I want both!! We know at an older age, that intimacy is sweet. I'm not looking for a a boyfriend in the sense we know it, a partner that is not afraid of being intimate. Why does it have to be just a dick in the whole! I need to be plugged in to have great sex, and intimacy is a prize!!!

Thanks for responding to my blog!!

miserable2019 77M  
17 posts
8/5/2021 6:13 pm

 It's not impossible but difficult to achieve. People tend to put labels on everything including "intimacy" which may mean different things to men and women. I could drive hours to meet you enjoy a bite to eat and/or a drink, getting to know each other and if you decide to move a little farther forward, go back to your place and see where it goes. Cuddling is intimate and if you fell asleep with me holding you that would be ok with me. Just two people getting what they need/want that moment. I want sex just as much as anyone else but some days the stars aren't quite aligned. Thanks for giving me the chance to respond.


chichidevane replies on 10/15/2021 6:13 pm:
I don't think its impossible either, sex becomes so much more, on a deeper level. I don't like labels either, but like you said, we all have our ideas of what intimacy means to us. I think communication is key, and people shouldn't be so fearful. As long as "the talk" about intimacy is done, so no missed signals, its fabulous!! I hope we find what we seek miserable, were running out of time!! Thanks for responding, I need to get on here more often, my apologies.

Thank you! Be safe and have fun!!

travellerabc123 54M
Ask me for a photo
3989 posts
9/10/2021 4:20 am

 For me intimacy is definitely part of the package. But it must not be for a lot of guys. People talk to me like I'm a unicorn.
Embrace the suck


chichidevane replies on 10/15/2021 6:14 pm:
I do my friend, no worries!!

Justincase19623 56M

1/31/2022 11:06 am

 For me, can't have one without the other. I have to have some emotional connection. Sure I can blast a good fuck and wLk away....but fulfilling..yes...empty...yes.
Would rather the intimacy


chichidevane replies on 2/11/2022 1:12 pm:
I'm with you babe, thank you for responding! Anyone can put a dick in a hole, but to have a connection is huge for me!!!

hunt4marriedcunt 56M
4 posts
2/14/2022 4:53 am

 For me sex IS intimacy. I have to feel like I want to to actually do it. I guess I can not compartmentalize the actual act like some people. I have to respect and appreciate my partner on some level and that respect I feel is what I call intimacy. That said there is a point that I have to say I can not cross with a play partner in the vanilla part of my life. That is probably understood by all on a hook up sight (maybe not all....lol) but when I am having sex I crave the intimacies that go along with it at every level from the hunt to the good night kiss.


chichidevane replies on 2/21/2022 5:35 am:
Me too my friend....the sex could be off the charts, but then lacks some intimacy afterwards. I feel that now, and I don't like it! I'm not asking for a lot of time afterwards with some kissing or snuggling, just a little to conclude the time we spent together. Unfortunately, my buddy that I might see once a month, doesn't. He doesn't even like to kiss much, since he relates kissing only in a girlfriend relationship. Which sounds bizarre to me, but when along with it. Its "the rules" that I have issue with, and that get in the way of intimacy. Hence...looking for another buddy!

Thanks for responding!

Justincase19623 56M

2/14/2022 7:01 am

 chichidevane, anytime you would care to talk, I would love to explore your likes and dislikes, past experiences and ideas for the future.
I find you facinating......


chichidevane replies on 2/15/2022 11:43 am:
Ahhhh.....that's so sweet, ty...Yes, I would love to chat and get to know each other. Anytime my friend!!!

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