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Hours of pleasure? "How do y'all make it last THAT long?"  

tantraman37 67M
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6/2/2021 3:27 am
Hours of pleasure? "How do y'all make it last THAT long?"

I have always been interested in sex. I think I was eleven or so when I got a copy of the then relatively notorious memoir of a flight attendant - then referred to as stewardesses - Coffee, Tea, or Me? One memorable item from her training was when their instructor warned them against having sex with passengers they meet, telling them they would lose their jobs if they became pregnant.

"An hour of pleasure is not worth losing your career," she advised them.

At this one of the ladies in the course asked in a southern drawl, "How do y'all make it last THAT long?" which drew laughter from her classmates.

That is the question which I address in this blog post. And in truth, an hour is not all that long when you have the right partner, the training and the technique.

Let's get into the training first. This kind of approach to sex pretty much requires having a man who has trained himself in recognizing the physical distinctions in his level of arousal, and who has developed the self-discipline required to be able to pull back the dynamic rather than push it to completion in the moment. This is part of Tantric sexual practice and takes years to fully master.

Next you need to have the right environment. A kitchen table might be a hot place for an impulsive impromptu coupling - nothing wrong with that at all. But it is a completely different type of sexual experience from what I am discussing here. Comfort is a priority that extends to all of the senses in the "enjoy it for hours" approach to sexual and sensual pleasure. Prepare ahead of time. Create a space where you and your partner(s) will feel fully at ease and have no reason to wish to leave other than perhaps bathroom trips. Have everything you anticipate wanting already there and waiting for you.

The things you might wish to consider include having a clean room, (Remember floors and tabletops guys. Horizontal surfaces need regular cleaning.), soft lighting, a comfortable temperature, freshly laundered bedding on an appropriate bed, beverages planned and available, and towels, lube, toys if used, (highly recommended), spare batteries, (again highly recommended) and condoms all handy but not obtrusive.

Scented candles can be nice if not overdone. Also make sure your date is OK with them. A resin censer with frankincense can also be an invigorating touch that is said to enhance sexual pleasure - again being careful to know your device and resins and avoid smoking out your room or offending your date with an unwanted aroma.

Now that you have the environment at least on your radar, the next important element is obviously time. You each need to have enough time available so that you can feel unhurried at every moment you are together. Don't be in a rush to get into bed, or even to touch other than perhaps a greeting hug. Get those beverages out. Spend some time, however much feels appropriate to the overall time available, just talking and catching up. Even if you are close and it hasn't been that long since you saw one another, taking a few moments to just be with each other helps to reestablish intimacy and relatedness.

And if you have the time, a shared meal is a very effective way of creating deeper levels of intimacy. Eating is a primal human need much like sex, and very socializing in general. Eating together brings these elementary "lizard brain" survival elements to the party as well - and they are part of us all, and having that part of our brain on board matters in being able to instinctively feel trusting comfort with our partner. Shared meals can be wonderful early in a relationship. This is a big part of why it is so popular an element of traditional courting.

It is hard to overstate the importance of the interpersonal emotional connection required for this kind of coupling. A man is unlikely to choose to continue putting off his own orgasm while assisting his partner in achieving dozens if he doesn't feel some type of caring connection with her. And a lady is unlikely to achieve those orgasms with a man for whom she feels a cold connection.

OK, so you have your environment prepared and you have established a degree of relatedness and intimacy. As the time comes to touch, go slow again with everything. Hug for a bit, kiss, maybe incorporate some twist into the removal of clothing that prolongs the process or otherwise adds fun and excitement. And as foreplay gains in intensity and eventually leads to penetration, again take things slowly.Take a good bit of time allowing the tempo of thrusting and the depth of penetration build - at least a few minutes.

A note here on sexual positions. There is a perfect position for hours of sex. It is the scissors position. You may know of it.If not I'm sure you can reference the illustration accompanying this post. In the scissors position both partners legs wrap around each other like two crossed pairs of scissors. This enables both to lay comfortably for long stretches. It also allows easy hand access to the primary region of play for finger stimulation and also the use of toys to add sensations when and where appropriate.

I also distinguish here between full blown orgasms versus sequential or train or wave orgasms as they are variously called. After a full blown orgasm a lady is often done for a bit. Not so with the wave orgasms as they can flow freely once they begin. A good<b> massage </font></b>along the muscles of the spine as part of foreplay can assist in helping the energy and pleasure signals flow.

Meanwhile, always follow your partner's reactions and responses to stay attuned to her level of arousal. Just as you don't want to push yourself over the edge too soon, the same is true for her. When you find either of you getting to a nicely elevated level where you typically might start the push to finish, instead drop the dynamic. Shift to different stroking depths, slow down, be more playful, do whatever comes to you in the moment to shift the feeling. It can still be sensuous and pleasurable, while not as easily leading straight to full orgasm.

Allow this cycle to play out a few times, raising the dynamic and then dropping it, taking her high and then shifting gears. After a bit, maybe ten to fifteen minutes, take a sensations break. Stay inserted while only moving enough to maintain erection. (For guys who make use of drugs such as Cialis this is more easily achieved for longer times.) And use the resting time to touch your partner's body all over. Use a mostly light and playful, moving touch going from place to place. Don't race around her body, but don't linger in any one spot very long. Also avoid losing touch with her body at any point if you can. Explore and touch all over her face, neck, shoulders, breastbone, collarbone, arms, breasts, nipples, belly, thighs, knees, and more. Seek those erogenous zones unique to her that push her buttons.When you find them remember them. Come back to them when it feels right.

By now she is likely experiencing tingly sensations flowing up her spine and into her pleasure centers. Move inside her on occasion even if not needed to stay hard. Doing PC muscle contractions, also known as Kegel exercises, during this portion of things can also be stimulating for her as it causes the penis to temporarily swell.

After a few moments of this you can gradually start picking up the dynamic again. First with light thrusts pushing deeper. Then start to withdraw some and use linger strokes again, going faster and longer, then changing it up. Begin similar cycles to the first group, but incorporating more stimulation of her labia and clitoral hood while thrusting. Timing your stimulation with your thrusts can be very hot for her, as can rolling your knuckles across her clitoral hood. By now her clit itself is likely hidden inside the hood as it will be too sensitive to be exposed to much direct contact. The degree of pressure she can take in this manner might surprise you though it is advisable to start light and build to a more firm pressure. Every lady is different in many ways, this being one of them.

For the next stimulation session you might consider adding some vibrating toys to the mix. I bought a few finger nubby vibrators for this. It adds a nice element to keep things new and fresh after several tens of minutes of play. The vibrator can then be continued into the next thrusting cycles and used in addition to the finger stimulation for her labia and clitoris. Another variation is to shift to mutual oral for a cycle, though it is more disruptive to the general flow.

And eventually either you choose to take a real break for water or food or bathroom or whatever; or one of you had a full orgasm signaling time for an extended break or ending the session. From there it depends on how each partner feels. Getting things revved back up again can be fun, but there is only so much that lube and good technique can do to minimize skin irritation over time - especially if condoms are in use. Use common sense and be considerate of your partner.


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