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Depths beyond the superficial; superficialities' depths
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Depths beyond the superficial; superficialities' depths I'd blame my failure attract the women I'm attracted on my severe ugliness, except, I truly do not believe in that awful concept. I mean, is it true that some people "attract" us and some don't? Yes. But WHY? But maybe a more constructive and positive question is more straightly: what attracts me and what does that attraction mean ? For example, suppose I were tell you that in general, I find relatively skinny or skinny-ish women especially attractive. What concerns me is that in thinking this way, I'm foolishly overlooking women who aren't "skinny" according what "skinny" might mean . On the other hand, if pressed say what a skinny body means , I would say I associate it with a degree of self control re: eating. (Disclaimer: the factors contributing to obesity are far more complex and deep than attitudes towards food! In fact, whether we are essentially talking about an eating addiction or something less psychological and more "biological" at [[diabetes for example]] , the fact does remain that, with the exception of instances where specific weights or weight ranges appeal given individuals [[who weigh that amount, try weigh that amount, or are turned on by those who way either that amount or roughly that amount]], who among us can ultimately help what our minds and bodies do!?! In other words, all I can uiltimately say on the subject (as I already asked)-- what does that which I am attracted MEAN (why is this the case?) and is it reasonable? I'm sure that one of my biases is the paradoxes of my own appearance. Overall, I'm extremely cautious of how I eat..and "by the grace of god, I have no 'sweet tooth'; that is to say: I'm really never tempted to eat more than I need and I am never really tempted to eat candy, sweets, conventional junk food. I figure in that context, it's merely a matter of "like attracts like" if it happens to be the case that women who eat only to a certain degree also happen to attract me. To put it yet another way, I don't really view my responses to weight as mean spirited or superficial. I would call it "curious." That is to say, I suspect that odds are that the broader issue at hand is simply this particular isolated aspect of lifestyle. To elaborate further: I am sure I drink a bit more<b> alcohol </font></b>than I ought to. To be fair to myself, I don't drink towards the day, and I don't drink to "make it through the day". I drink because I find the effects of<b> alcohol </font></b>very pleasant re: its assistance in helping one relax at the end of the day. But still, if I ate cake as I drank alcohol, would I, for example, weigh more and have a more extended stomach? Anyway, what if we think about this from a more radically different point of view... personality as opposed to so-called "looks." Overall, I'm more insecure about my personality than my "looks." I mean, I have seen people who look like they take less care of themselves than I do manage to attract people who seem to take BETTER care of themselves than I do. In other words, the sapiosexual in me feels very rather assuredly that a great deal of sexual attraction really does turn out to have a lot to do with...really good and aligning conversation and souls. I mean that the women I am attracted to, for example, are those who would give a fuck about what I have to say, for example, HERE, TRULY. I suspect that any role "looks" ultimately have more do with aura and energy than "looks" |
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