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Blogs > LongLickerGuy > Tidbits & Titilations

The First Face-to-Face Meeting  

LongLickerGuy 63M
1 posts
6/21/2021 3:51 pm
The First Face-to-Face Meeting

I've poked around the site, reading a few blogs here and , just get a feel for what's on peoples minds. What stood out immediately was the issue (or question) of whether one should safe and meet in a public place or whether they should proceed directly a motel, home or other private hosting setting?

First, let me state something that should be obvious. If you have misrepresented yourself, through profile photos or photos sent off-site, then you should expect some form of blowback, the extent of which could be tragic. Just saying.

My immediate gut reaction to the question seems like a no-brainer. Perhaps I'm just a little old-fashioned. In my life, I've hooked up the day or night after meeting someone in various places (ie bar, club, school, etc..) That's not uncommon. Most of us have probably done THAT. (usually determined by "which brain" we're using, upper or lower). But in those situations, we have met the other person, talked with them, danced with them, drank with them, whatever...

So why should online be any different? For starters, you're looking at a picture, not a face as you would in real life. And as we all know, profile pics cannot always be trusted. Showing up, no matter where, find something totally different than you were expecting, could end up being a massive waste of time, energy and/or resources, depending on the particular circumstance. Until you see the other person with your own eyes, then can you get that "first impression". Are you attracted or not? Will you stay and even chat or not? Will you abort immediately? Will you decide 's worth some more time and effort learn more about the person?

For me , as long as I haven't been seriously misled, I have enough respect for people stay the course, be a decent human being and go forward in a classy way. I would never be so mean as say anything offensive. But once the meeting is nearing its final stages, it's time say whether another get together is warranted or desired. Again, I have enough respect for people, specifically women in my case, to let them know that I am interested or not. Obviously, if I am interested, I'm hoping they will be too. If they aren't, I hope they let me know/down with the class and level of respect which I brought the table. Whatever decisions are made, they'll be made with eyes wide open.

That is the "best case" scenario. Unfortunately, the outcome cannot be predicted. It's a crap shoot either way. So in conclusion, I vote for public, safe first meetings. Then, even if it's not a match, both<b> parties </font></b>should be able walk away unscathed, with dignity and, hopefully, no damage done.

rundude1 41M
2 posts
7/27/2021 8:18 am

 I have pretty much always met privately (home or hotel) on first meet. I am also a pretty big guy that can handle myself if need be. I wouldn't recommend it to most.


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