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rm_JohnMacLaine 57M
297 posts
2/21/2007 8:04 pm

Last Read:
2/26/2007 5:59 pm

Changes

22 years, since I was 18, I have always smoked. I never thought about quitting until I realized how close to middle age I was getting and until I realized what the cigarettes were doing to my body. I felt it every morning, I heard it as I slept, and I smelled it on my clothes, in my home, and in my vehicle. Enough is enough. Everyone is so health conscious these days, why is it I can not be concerned with my own health when I have so much to live for, most of all being my 12 year old , who will be 13 in 2 months. I smoked because I enjoyed it, I smoked because it was there, and I smoked because it was the in thing to do when I was younger. No more, I am done. I put them down Friday morning, and have not had a cigarette since. "Cold Turkey" as they say, it is has been 6 days now and although the nicotine has left my body, I still do get the urge to smoke. I suppose I will make it through, but I also know that if I should fail, I will continue to try until I am finally over it. As of right now I am fine, I can get through each craving through different means, toothpick, gum, a walk, keeping myself busy, whatever I need to do to get through it.

I cleaned my entire home on Saturday and Sunday, it is now spotless and it shall remain that way for as long as I can keep it that way. My mother always told me how she managed to keep the house clean. She said that she usually does a little each night, whether it be 1 room or a little in each room, she always tried to stay busy when it came to housework. I guess mom finally got through to me. I know this philosophy may not seem new to a lot of you, but keep in mind I am a guy, I have been single for most of my life, living alone for most of it as well. Stereotypical bachelor comes to mind.

Talking to my daily now. behavioral issues with his attitude towards his mother and schoolwork. I told him that since he has decided to misbehave and act like a , I will treat him like a . I will call him daily and nag at him or to check on him to make sure he is doing and acting the way he is supposed to act. i will not tolerate disrespect towards his mother nor will I tolerate not focusing on school. Told him that colleges are going to be looking at his records when it comes time to apply and they will begin looking as far back as his current level so how he does now will have a direct influence on what college wants him and what college does not.

Reading South Beach - (Thank you Cleavis!!). will start active participation on South Beach once the first three weeks of my non-smoking is over - one mountain at a time. I can see that it will be basically simple to stay on the diet and I feel that I will be able to lose the 30 - 40 pounds I want to lose.

Pulling my Bike out of mothballs. inflating the tires, getting it ready for the road. I need to get out and exercise more. Maybe start out slow than work my way up to 5 miles a day and 10 on the weekends. I need to get my boyish figure back.

Changed my profile, hoping for the best. I just ended a "part-time" relationship that lasted for about 4 months and am tired of hit or miss and also tired of settling for second best. I want what I have wanted my entire life. I know my type, and a few of my friends also know my type, so they know what I mean when I say I want what I hasve wanted all my life. When I find her I will know, whether or not she is here on FriendFinder-x is yet to be found. One thing is for sure, I will never settle for someone that is less that what I am looking for. I am tired of settling, being with women that are emotionally unavailable, attached, married, and just basically wrong. If I find her tomorrow or next year or in 10 years, I will not settle ever again. I deserve more, and I deserve nothing but the best.

Wish me luck....



"I can retain neither respect or affection for a government which has been moving from wrong to wrong in order to defend its own immorality" Mahatma Ghandi


charliesexangel 61F
2936 posts
2/21/2007 8:40 pm

Congratulations! I recently quit as well.

Fondly, Charlie's ex


broadcastdeejay 69M

2/21/2007 8:49 pm

Great attitude! Best of luck. Quitting smoking MUST be the EASIEST thing in the world to do. I say this because I know that my Dad did it at least six times. (grin)

Just keep in mind that when it comes to the dieting, a diet MUST include a lifestyle change. Our local TV station did a series some months back comparing all the various fad diets. The group on South Beach was the winning team, losing the most pounds.

Unfortunately, just last night, they did a follow-up story (being almost a year later) on how well the folks KEPT the weight off. Only one team member agreed to an on-camera interview. Hmmmmmm...

Wishing you success!


rm_JohnMacLaine replies on 2/22/2007 5:41 am:
Quitting smoking is the easiest thing I have ever done too, I have quit maybe 20 times over the last 20 years myself...lol

the diet will be a lifestyle change for me, I am used to eating the worst foods, but now I have to change all of that. According to my buddy Cleavis the first two weeks on the SB Diet are the worst, but after that it gets a lot easier.

rm_JohnMacLaine 57M
585 posts
2/22/2007 5:39 am

Thanks!!...good luck to you as well!!!

"I can retain neither respect or affection for a government which has been moving from wrong to wrong in order to defend its own immorality" Mahatma Ghandi


Candypleases 56F
427 posts
2/22/2007 5:40 am

Congrats on quitting. I know you can do it. Good luck in your search.


rm_JohnMacLaine replies on 2/23/2007 4:38 pm:
Thaks Candy!!

I am getting stronger by the day when it comes to smoking, and as for my search, well I hope I find what it is I am looking for, I am being picky, but it will be for the best in the end. The best part about all of this is that I have some great friends out there supporting me, you included.

Thanks so much

heavensent11236 59F

2/22/2007 5:28 pm

CONGRATULATIONS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I've quit smoking a couple of times and I always go back to it, it's my security blanket when all else goes wrong in life.

Now that you've cleaned up the apartment I might just stop over, provided the ban has been lifted form disaster central.

As for not settling, seems that little talk we had might have done you some good, nothing worse than looking back when the right one does come along and not being able to do a damn thing about it.

emotionally unavailable, attached, married, and just basically wrong. Hey, I resemble that remark!!!! Guess that means FWB is outta the question? Hey, I've never really tried it, don't think it's me but you never know.

I'll be calling you tomorrow and catching up on everything {=}


rm_JohnMacLaine replies on 2/22/2007 5:45 pm:
See how rumors get started?....LOL

Heaven, I ALWAYS have room in my life for you. With you I would not be settling, and I think you know that. But I also know how much I value your friendship, your advice, and the time you make for me out of your day just to talk and catch up.

Thanks..

bad_assed_witch 109F
33758 posts
2/23/2007 2:08 am

i tried quitting ..but bounced right back..i wish i can quit for good..

~ The New & Improved Cocksucker ~


rm_JohnMacLaine replies on 2/23/2007 2:23 am:
don't give up!

quitting smoking begins in the mind, if you convince yourself that it is for the best than you have won half the battle. You have to WANT to quit.

Thanks for visiting

Scott

heavensent11236 59F

2/23/2007 4:00 am

Singing really loud and doing happy dance "I'M SPECIAL, I'M SPECIAL"


rm_JohnMacLaine replies on 2/23/2007 4:39 pm:
you most definitely are that...

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