Sex is natural......!
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Posted:Feb 8, 2018 10:16 am
Last Updated:Apr 19, 2020 7:33 pm
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Sex is natural......!
I have tried give this thing called sexual relationship a hard long thought! Here are my thoughts,.....
I think there are distinct types or stages of “sexual relationship" as perceived by most people:
1. Lust or erotic passion.
2. Attraction or romantic passion.
3. Attachment or commitment.
When of these happen with the same person, you have a very strong bond. Most times however, the ones lust after isn't the ones we're actually in love with.
One of the first things that draws us other people is our sexual response. But because lust responds abstract characteristics of the other, we might find sex a deficient basis for an -going relationship.
Parallel our sexual responses we also find ourselves 'falling in love'. This emotional response has deep roots in the Western culture (I'm African). But romantic love is also a deficient basis for a meaningful relationship.
Beyond lust and love, it is still possible create relationships based on the persons we are inventing ourselves be. This, I think, happens when we subconsciously condition our reflex. (I can explain this)
Just as we might like believe that our human sexuality is 'natural', so we usually assume that 'falling in love' comes automatically. But historical investigation has discovered that what we know as romantic love is only about 800 old. This seems shocking and impossible to us as first, since people have been mating and reproducing for millions of. But if we clearly separate lust from love, perhaps lust might account for the sexual behavior of our ancestors even if they could never have understood a romantic novel and Hollywood movie.
Romantic love is a cultural construct!....... which has been spread over the whole Earth by the mass media. Before radio, television, and movies—years ago—large parts of the world had never heard of 'falling in love'. They still had sexual relationships and families, of course, but the fantasy of romantic love did not run their relationships.
Romantic love is basically an emotional story we tell ourselves. By means of the mass media, we have been programmed so that we 'fall in love' following the patterns prescribed in Hollywood and novels.
Why can't sex be considered a form of art?
So we can live it authentically, freely, & creatively!
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Could be I wrong?
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Posted:Feb 8, 2018 10:51 am
Last Updated:Feb 2, 2019 5:13 pm
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I have diovered that love doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot you stick to person all round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner. In fact, loving some doesn't guarantee not falling in love with some else.
Relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart. It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self diipline because, time will come when you'll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the you're in a relationship with.
In those times, love will not you; self control will you, emotional intelligence will come to your reue and commitment will keep you going. With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for some else, the person you're committed to will rank first in your life.
You think happily married people don't see better people than the s they married? You think they don't feel funny sometimes? You think they don't catch feelings? They do!
But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great arsenal that do destroy that impulse.
You can fall in love with any, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love.
We are too fond of loving when it's convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship. After then, you'll realize that the feelings have dropped, it's now your responsibility to make it work, not love's responsibility.
Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it's never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it's not just love that keeps them together forever, it's determination and commitment.
Every falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed s do that. That's why we must find that person and commit to that , diipline yourself and bridle your emotions.
Building a relationship is hard work, it's like building a career, It's like pursuing a dream. It's always tough, at some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together, you can ale through the trying time by being focused and committed.
The kind of love that attracts people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together. Be emotionally strong and be self diiplined.
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