It's not a buffet, but...
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Posted:Jul 28, 2021 7:52 pm
Last Updated:Jul 28, 2021 8:08 pm
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Since we got into the LS like a decade and a half ago, we've tried and tried very hard to keep single guys included in our considerations.
Where we have paid access, we try to make sure anyone that contacts gets a reply, and we try to not just ghost anyone, though sometimes life gets in the way of this stuff and it might look like it. Even then, we usually pop a message when we get the chance to an effect like hey we didn't forget about you things have just been crazy.
We do this because no one likes being ghosted. It's rude. We don't like being rude.
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Eventually, it simply must become the way it is, because for all the whining we see in single guys' profiles about how rude it is to be ghosted, we inevitably end up running into the ones that simply cannot take no for an answer. Inevitably, we then look back through that guy's profile and guess what? He's one of the ones whining about being ghosted. Gee, I wonder why he gets ghosted. Actually, I wonder how many restraining orders he has in his collection.
I truly don't know what these morons think they're going to accomplish, either. You've been nicely told no. You've been firmly told no. You've been told off. Why are you *still* sending messages asking us if we want to meet you for drinks? What in the world has to be wrong with someone that they think this is a winning tactic, that if he's enough of an asshole we'll go hey you know what, on second, no third, no fourth, no fifth thought... The creep grows on you, you know? Surely, he's the perfect guy, I bet he's all about respecting boundaries and stuff, what are we waiting for?
So, unfortunately, right this second I'm considering closing the door to single guys. Again.
And that sucks because we *are* actually looking for a local bi FWB that we click with and not just couples and women, so because of a few idiots, we're on the verge of being turned off to a whole category of what we're into as just not being worth the hassle with these people. They *must* have something wrong with them, wow that's some entitled, narcissistic, and dissociative stuff.
But that's why single guys get ghosted - because some of them can't take no for an answer no matter how many times or ways you tell them and eventually ruin it for everyone else.
We don't play with singles that are part of a couple. I mean, if we've met the couple, everyone plays together, maybe that ends up on the table down the line even if we never play alone ourselves. That's one thing.
But this one guy, geez... Tells us he's married and she's fine with it plays, too, it's just that they don't tell each other about it, aaaaaaaaaand we've heard a thousand variations of this story over the years, and it's a firm no, thanks anyway, but there are too many fish in the water to take the chance that we're enabling someone being cheated on, being part of the destruction of a marriage, etc. Some couples are fine with that, to each their own, but we're not.
Yes, we know open marriages exist, we aren't judging that at all, it's just that we aren't the open marriage police and we're not going to bother to investigate if what you're saying is true, and we're not going to accept a note from your wife or even Epstein's mom that says "biLY iS aLLoweD to pLay", and if you're handing us a weak story right off the bat like, "Is all cool so long as she doesn't know about it" or anything like, then - seriously - you must be kidding.
You, buddy, are why single guys get ghosted, and why they get blocked by couples, so keep doing you, and you're going to have a lot more whining to do in your profile about all the ghosting.
Months. We can now measure in months since this guy was told no. Then told no again. Then again. Unreal.
Nope. None for you, pal. Eat your heart out.
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Point and Lick
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Posted:Mar 3, 2020 12:08 am
Last Updated:Jun 10, 2021 1:07 am
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It was a casual thing, completely NSA, that we had with our last playmate, and it was easy because it was comfortable. We could send a message just saying "hey you free and feel like playing" and it was a breeze to go from that, to setting up, hooking up, having some great low key fun, and ordering a pizza on the way home to finish a normal family day.
We could simply step out of vanilla life if and when we wanted, knowing what everyone was into and not into, knowing that everyone's boundaries would be respected, everyone would have a good time and then step right back into vanilla life again like we never left. It had taken a lot of patience and not a little courage to open the door to our sex life and see how well he fit and we were lucky to have gone through that whole finding-someone process to end up finding someone we clicked with well enough for it to be comfortable like that.
So when he left, it was with well wishes and without mourning, but leaving us back in the part of the whole thing that we've never liked - fine-tuning a profile while wading though a flood of messages from all directions, discriminating between the sincere words and the ones being sent because it was what the sender thought we wanted to hear to get into bed.
So it'd been a few years before we put ourselves through that, but we had a vacation coming up in a secluded place in a foreign environment, a perfectly anonymous backdrop for a photo session like we hadn't done in what felt like a very long time.
Stephanie dyed her highlights. She did it again to make it just right. She meticulously did her nails, her toenails. She asked me to shave a new patch, just a humble little thin triangle of hair an inch or so above her lips, and making the rest completely bare. I bought her a collection of masquerade masks while she selected an assortment of very sexy ideas for outfits and a few toys.
We packed the camera, tripod, a dedicated memory card, and our studio lights.
Not that we discussed *why* we did any of this; we just did it.
We spent as much time in several mini photo sessions as we could. They were constantly interrupted and followed mind-blowing sex and we had to spend more and more time recuperating until eventually we just too contentedly sore to continue.
They're the best photos we've ever taken. We rediscovered how hot it is to be pointing a camera at your significant other, trying to capture just the right angle to hide and reveal the perfect balance of nude and implied at the same time, every photo hints at things it is also making you want to see more of, imagining it all from the perspective of someone looking at it and making them want to come and fuck them.
We each brought ideas poses in, making the set of them perfectly suited a profile; both the and female perspective of intimacy displayed, intended to be shared, looked at, to be desired, to lust after.
Knowing all of that, it reminds a little of how hot it is to be watched. And as soon as you think that, it's a short hop to remembering how hot is is to see them playing in front of you and all of you playing together. It all comes quietly back. No words needed, it's all in the body language.
And the body language seems to imply we need a new playmate, but doesn't demand it. Someone who knows how to go slowly - erotic and sensual - and not hop on and pound, someone who likes to change things up a few times, maybe that can go a few times, isn't pushy and just goes with the flow as we're touching one another, adding to it smoothly and seamlessly and taking nothing away from it.
Which is a tall order.
That's where comfort lives and it's the essential ingredient we lost when our last playmate moved.
And we still haven't talked about it lol
But that's cool, because these photo sessions are *fun*. 
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