Will we ever grow as women ???  

CUMHANDLEME 59F  
203 posts
9/4/2021 10:50 am
Will we ever grow as women ???

I have silently watched blog wars go on for years in the blogs. While I have always disliked the list because it has caused so much competition and distention within the community, it is nothing new, it has existed from day one of the top bloggers list.

I am saddened to read all the bickering, bs and drama that is thrown back and forth between some of the female bloggers over a spot on a list of a sex site. The male bloggers do not seem to behave in this manner. That is not to say some men don not insert themselves in other ways or female bloggers do not insert them into the drama, bickering and bs.

Ladies collectively we need to do better by supporting and uplifting, not tearing each other down. We do not all need to be best friends but we need to coexist in better harmony that is not so childish or destructive.

Be the bigger woman and become accountable for your own behaviors and actions. Make positive not negative changes in the space around you.

Is drama over a spot on a list on a sex site really worth that much to you ??? I hope not but history seems to continue repeating in FriendFinder-x blogland by female bloggers.

Will we ever grow as woman ???


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spunkycumfun 61M/66F
39326 posts
9/6/2021 6:44 am

Blog wars are a sickening aspect of blogland. They spoil it for all those not involved and, I suspect, spoil it for those involved!


CUMHANDLEME replies on 9/6/2021 10:58 am:
Agreed ... Thanks for your comment

lindoboy100 58M
23884 posts
9/6/2021 4:27 am

    Quoting gardenboy321:
    I've blogged for years, and have heard of this type of insecure drama for years as well. I tend not read nor look at any of the top bloggers as the posts are generally shallow and trite. As long as human beings have deep insecurities, and the need for validation, this type of behavior will always exist... and thus... it WILL always exist... sadly.

    I've recently decided to stop blogging as blogland is not what it once was. It's not even close. So many great bloggers/writers of depth & soul are gone, and hence... I too will be gone.
Dear McGarden, this is sad news to read.

We've been here for a long time, I think your presence precedes mine, and while it's clear that our views on many things and our writings differ considerably, it also seems clear to me that you have always been a gentleman, always respectful and considerate of others. You are highly respected hereabouts and you have a significant following. particularly among the ladies.

This place will be poorer for your departure.

Doffing my cap, and wishing you well sir.


lindoboy100 58M
23884 posts
9/6/2021 4:20 am

~something sexy~

McMe, your wish is my command........

The list has always been a blight here. It is too easily manipulated by strange people who seem to think that validation can be derived from being at or near the top of a popularity list on a dodgy shag site. Whether it's points, pic's, fake-profile comments, drama, or flashing yer saggy arse, the insanity prevails.........and woe betide you if you dare to point it out, or worse, make fun of it!!!

I do take the piss out of it, and woe is indeed upon me.....ahem.....but it saddens me that so many decent people (eg McBoy) are caught up in the cross fire and choose to take themselves out of it.

As long as there's any sort of ranking it will never change, irrespective of how they 'improve' it.

Anyways, aye, please do stick around for a bit and keep us all in line??


CUMHANDLEME replies on 9/6/2021 11:01 am:
Still the same 'cheeky' fellow I remember.

Show me what's under your kilt, I'm dying for a peek 👀

gardenboy321 58M  
41916 posts
9/5/2021 10:50 am

I've blogged for years, and have heard of this type of insecure drama for years as well. I tend not read nor look at any of the top bloggers as the posts are generally shallow and trite. As long as human beings have deep insecurities, and the need for validation, this type of behavior will always exist... and thus... it WILL always exist... sadly.

I've recently decided to stop blogging as blogland is not what it once was. It's not even close. So many great bloggers/writers of depth & soul are gone, and hence... I too will be gone.

Thoughts from the Garden...


CUMHANDLEME replies on 9/5/2021 10:28 pm:
GB ... It's difficult to be a part of this current community of picture or points blogging.

We blogged during the old days when the members interacted and encouraged others. I'll be sorry to see you go.

lindoboy100 58M
23884 posts
9/5/2021 9:46 am



Mc Me!!!! Is this a return to posting for you? Now that would be good!!!!

I think we should start a fight about who started the fight.......that's surely going to shake up the list.......much better to do that than what they've proposed recently, no?


CUMHANDLEME replies on 9/5/2021 10:11 pm:
That's a fight I want no part of ... But I'm certainly interesting in you whispering something sexy in my ear

agelesssexylegs 78F
1051 posts
9/4/2021 9:11 pm

Oh yes,well think the site is set up for disagreement,why is there a blog list in first place,why is there a combined male and female list,then just a male list?

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CUMHANDLEME replies on 9/5/2021 10:05 pm:
The powers that be are fully aware of the issues.
I can only surmise the reasons they perpetuate the bs.

kahnfused 61M
339 posts
9/4/2021 5:10 pm

makes me not want to even bother reading those blogs... a bit of a counterproductive purpose for writing them.


CUMHANDLEME replies on 9/5/2021 9:56 pm:
It's baffling to watch grown adults bicker, gossip, lie and fight over a blogging list on a sex site.

nsnguystill 69M
390 posts
9/4/2021 4:35 pm

    Quoting BiggLala:
    Will we ever grow as woman ???
    -Frankly? No, not until the human race "grows" overall.

    I hope you don't misunderstand me. I'm the type of person that is a realist, who tends towards egalitarian ideals. Thus, I agree that *people* should hold themselves accountable for their own actions. Then again, we know not everyone does, even in "the real world". This is when other people attempt to hold those types of people accountable; works sometimes, sometimes not.

    No, men don't engage in the behaviors in order to fight for "top" blog spot. However, many do engage in other poor behaviors such as bickering, gossiping, and/or enabling of those who exhibit poor behaviors. This is why I made my first comment. This is a *people* issue, not just a "women" issue.
strongly agree (mostly)!

" This is a *people* issue, not just a "women" issue."
agree even more. when we accept the fact that we are no better than anyone else. when we can see we are no less than anyone else.
when we understand that we are our brothers keepers
then we will not have the need to build ourselves up by walking on others
bonne vie

there is a world of difference between insane and stupid


jajo696 66F
4029 posts
9/4/2021 3:05 pm

.....and i think you have succeeded , this is a deeper convo.

Love to hear other thoughts~


jajo696 66F
4029 posts
9/4/2021 1:45 pm

......i second what La says....we need to grow as humans first. When we look at the world today, although its calmed a bit in recent months, mans inhumanity to man is at an all time high. Although men dont bicker in the same manner...they are contributing factors.
This goes deeper than the list...far deeper. Its akin to middle school females..the discord...is all and always over the affections of the male species. Both sides always have their individual supporters....and contributors. The key players are invested in keeping it going and that to me smacks as an ....attention getting mechanism. For whatever reasons the dissension is satisfying that need~~

....ive always said we need to be straightening each others crowns, not knocking em off...


CUMHANDLEME replies on 9/4/2021 2:21 pm:
MY thought process for the post was to read thru the lines and maybe spark a deeper conversation.

BiSussi 61F
1189 posts
9/4/2021 1:36 pm

    Quoting BiggLala:
    Will we ever grow as woman ???
    -Frankly? No, not until the human race "grows" overall.

    I hope you don't misunderstand me. I'm the type of person that is a realist, who tends towards egalitarian ideals. Thus, I agree that *people* should hold themselves accountable for their own actions. Then again, we know not everyone does, even in "the real world". This is when other people attempt to hold those types of people accountable; works sometimes, sometimes not.

    No, men don't engage in the behaviors in order to fight for "top" blog spot. However, many do engage in other poor behaviors such as bickering, gossiping, and/or enabling of those who exhibit poor behaviors. This is why I made my first comment. This is a *people* issue, not just a "women" issue.
Perfectly said, nothing to add !!!!
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BiggLala 49F  
30139 posts
9/4/2021 12:01 pm

Will we ever grow as woman ???
-Frankly? No, not until the human race "grows" overall.

I hope you don't misunderstand me. I'm the type of person that is a realist, who tends towards egalitarian ideals. Thus, I agree that *people* should hold themselves accountable for their own actions. Then again, we know not everyone does, even in "the real world". This is when other people attempt to hold those types of people accountable; works sometimes, sometimes not.

No, men don't engage in the behaviors in order to fight for "top" blog spot. However, many do engage in other poor behaviors such as bickering, gossiping, and/or enabling of those who exhibit poor behaviors. This is why I made my first comment. This is a *people* issue, not just a "women" issue.

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CUMHANDLEME replies on 9/4/2021 1:50 pm:
BiggLaLa ... As you pointed out, we can only control our own reactions and how we react to others.

Thank you for your comment

HAMONMAN 62M
12914 posts
9/4/2021 11:37 am


" Is drama over a spot on a list on a sex site really worth that much to you ??? "

And it's not even that great of a sex site to begin with !


Humanity peaked during the 20th century.
We can't even make a decent starter solenoid any longer.


CUMHANDLEME replies on 9/4/2021 1:52 pm:
Agreed

Thanks for your comment

CUMHANDLEME 59F  
790 posts
9/4/2021 10:58 am

Come on Ladies, I know we can do better

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