Men and Toys (WTF?!?)
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Posted:May 10, 2010 6:18 am
Last Updated:Jun 29, 2010 2:12 am
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I've never understood why men are so intimidated by a sex toy. I mean...they have their favorite toy at the end of their arm, always in easy reach and always ready. But when it comes to their gals using toys they get weirded out. Some more than others of course (not going to generalize EVERYONE after all) but sheesh!
Come on fellas, relax. It's all about having fun and if it makes us feel better and cum harder then you are going to be in the ride of your life. Not to mention, you will be remembered as the partner that was fun and playful and the best she's ever had.
Now don't get us women wrong, we love the cock (lesbians not included I suppose here for the purposes of speaking of a real, living cock). And while we might love the real thing, well...let's face it guys, there's some obstacles to face in the whole male to female pleasure quotient.
Our bodies are weird. I'll be the first to admit. One time we might be set off by a fast fuck and have an awesome orgasm. But sometimes it takes us a long, long time to get there. And, sometimes the things we need you to do for us to get us closer to that peak makes you cum first. Now don't lie, you've all been there at one time or another. Especially when we are telling you to go harder and faster.
But then....just as things are just starting to heat up for us...well...you're done.
So you have a few options here. You can just roll over and go to sleep and be selfish that you got yours. Or you can find a way to help your lady get off as well. This is where toys come into play.
Now don't be intimidated just because old BOB (Battery Operated Boyfriend) has way more staying power than you do, or that he might be longer and/or girthier. Or that he rotates, vibrates, buzzes, or possibly is pink or some other strange color.
It doesn't mean that we don't still love that now limp Willy between your legs. We DO! We really really do!! But...even if mentally we are turned on and we physically want to get there too our bodies are on a time schedule all their own. No two orgasms are ever the same.
So be a Gent...grab the toy and show us that you are man enough to make sure your lady is satisfied no matter what. We're more impressed with an open minded and giving lover than we will ever be with someone that hits and misses, even if they are hung like John Holmes.
Plus think of another benefit of it. Not only is your lady going to remember you as the best she has ever had because of your giving and generous nature but you also have a whole new perspective of seeing things, and I KNOW how you naughty little pervs like to watch and look and see. (That's why I love ya so much! Pervs for the WIN!)
When you are using a toy on your woman you get to see the action from a number of different angles. You could have her on all fours, letting you see that happy little toy plunging in and out at different depths, speeds and angles and get to see it as it pulls and pushes on her soft pink flesh. You get to see the juices that run (or coat the toy). You could have her on her back and working it and either lay between her legs as she fingers her clit or...you could offer a little oral stimulation while you do. Or, if you prefer a side angle way to lay you could suck her nipples and kiss her as you send the rabbit down the hole and back again.
You could put her on her knees in front of a mirror and both watch as you play hide the salami with that lovely bit of technology and watch her face in detail as she cum hard and claws at the bedspread.
But dildos and vibe dildos are not the only friend of the Man in the bedroom (or the kitchen, or the bathroom, or the stairs, or...well you get the picture). A nice little clit vibe works wonders for you and her.
Do you love the way those hot, slick walls of her's clench and contract around your HotRod? Want to feel it more and give her multiple orgasms?
Well my friend..start her out with a clit vibe (but don't press too hard at first mind you!) before her slip that man meat in her. It will make her tighter when you do from the muscles trying to clench. But don't stop there! For gods sake don't stop dontstopdontstop!!!
Keep it there as you take her nice and slow and deep at first, mixing it up a little. Experiment with what depth and pace really makes her writhe. You'll KNOW when you've got it right because those inner muscles of hers right at the entrance will start flexing and clenching and spasming. And she'll likely be clawing the bed or you or screaming too. Always a good sign.
So think of those strange little toys in her night stand as your bet buddies, your teammates for the big game! Alright team! Now let's go get 'em!!! HIKE!
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Wow...really FriendFinder-x? Really?
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Posted:Feb 26, 2010 4:47 am
Last Updated:May 10, 2010 5:51 am
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Okay so yeah...I've been away from here for a little while. Got myself an interesting partner that I'm happy to spend my happy fun naughty times with. But then I come back and dear lord!! You have to be a paying member to do ANYTHING! In the long run this is really going to hurt their profit margin, really. People will move on to another site that allows more interaction without paying memberships. You have to pay to send a wink/flirt? Really? And what's this with the blogs? I hope this will post since I'm not a Silver or Gold Member. I can understand some perks held back for those members that are paying/preferred customers but when you take away the most basic things then well...no one wants to bother with it.
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On Strike!
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Posted:Oct 6, 2009 3:10 am
Last Updated:Nov 30, 2009 7:50 am
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I am on strike. No more razor burn. No more itching and strange red looking bumps. I'm tired of going through the hell of shaving only to find out that the man doesn't even take the time to WASH his own doodle let alone bother to trim or shave. So boys.....it's Welcome to the Jungle time. LMAO!!! Okay so maybe not that drastic BUT I'm dropping back to just doing a nice close trim instead of a shave. It just SOOOOOOOO not worth it from a gal's perspective.
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Thoughts on a Sugar Daddy
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Posted:Sep 18, 2009 6:01 pm
Last Updated:Sep 26, 2009 11:57 pm
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I don't know about you but I've always wrinkled my nose in a sneer of disgust when I've thought of the whole Sugar Daddy thing in the past. It just seemed so....cold and manipulative. But.. being the open minded person I am I have lately been giving it more thought.
Much of what I'd like to have in a steady relationship is the sort of things that one finds in the Sugar Daddy/ equation. Tenderness and caring, putting someone else's needs above your own, at least for a while. Having someone care for you and make sure they take care of the things you cannot (financial needs) to help alleviate that stress. In truth it is more of the 'traditional' roles that once were the standard. The provider and protector and the nurturer and pleaser.
Now before we start thinking all stepford and stuff let's step back and look at it. What gal out there isn't pleased and warmed when a gentleman takes them out to dinner or buys them flowers (or other gifts)? What man doesn't enjoy having a warm, soft body to hold him and warm his bed? In reality is is sort of a win/win situation.
Except for one little thing. Sure it could be there but I guess the problem I've ad with it is that I always saw it as being a cold and unemotional relationship. However....if the emotional aspect is there and the two do care for one another (even if it is in a friendship way as opposed to a romantic way) I can see a relationship of this nature working out at least for a short while.
I guess I'm broadening my perspective these days. What's your take on it?
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To Kink or Not to Kink
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Posted:Jul 8, 2009 12:48 am
Last Updated:Feb 26, 2010 4:37 am
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Recently I spent some time with a dead sexy fellow. We had tremendous fun together in our stay at the hotel and I think both of us left very satisfied. However, there was a difference in our preferred levels of kinkiness. Now had he been a less open minded person or me a less flexible person (no not as in body bendyness but in attitude and ability to enjoy without the kink) it might not have been a success.
Now as for me, as I explore the Land of Sensual I am discovering all sorts of new things and with my innate curiosity want to explore those avenues as well. Some may not be for me (can you say Scat? Watersports?) there is a thin line that I will not cross but otherwise most everything else is open season. After all, you will never know if you like something or not unless you try it.
But I have to wonder...
Is a woman who is kinkier or freakier than you guys are a turn off? Does it effect the male ego if she is more open to new things than you are? Are you less likely to hook up with someone that is more receptive to kink than you are?
I'd love to hear the responses and the reasoning behind them.
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It's Not the Size of the Boat?
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Posted:Apr 21, 2009 10:29 am
Last Updated:Jun 22, 2009 5:37 pm
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Sure we've all heard the many saying about size not being important. (A lie told to make men feel better really. Right up there with how men will say about an unattractive girl that she has a great personality!) But really, on a sex site? You're gonna lie? Cause they'll never figure it out once they see you or anything right? Or is that men think we are so stupid as women that we think that 8 inches is really 4 1/2 and can't measure?
And then there are the guys that talk about and really do BELIEVE that they have a big dick. I'm talking guys that are pencil thin and average at best in length yet they always wanna say things like "You like that big Dick?"
It really makes ya wanna just stop, (lies are a HUGE turn off for me) and look up at them and say, "Well....I'd like a nice big dick but I guess I'll settle for yours right now." I mean come on guys. Reality here. You don't see me running around saying I have the body of a Victoria's Secret model.
It's all about the honesty. You have to be honest about what you bring to the table even if it doesn't measure up to society's standards. At a place like this all secrets are bared (pardon the pun) and the truth comes out. So if you have a small or average willy.. say so for crissakes! And if you're delusional.. get out a tape measure and measure it. And DON'T push the end in to give you an extra half to an inch either! We women want to know insertable length. Take a leaf from the book of the people that sell dildos. Insertable length, and width. That's what we want to know.
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I Shave My Legs For This?!
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Posted:Apr 12, 2009 12:29 am
Last Updated:May 16, 2009 4:54 am
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So I made plans last night to meet up with someone. It sounded wonderful. I would have met up last night but he wanted to wait a day. So Today comes and I prepare. I do the shower thing, the effort to shave all bits that need shaving. Wear my body oil. I send a text to this person. All seems well. He'll call when he's heading home from being out with his friends. Two hours pass give or take. The bars are all closed. I send a text. Nothing. I wait another hour, giving the benefit of a doubt that perhaps he hadn't seen the text right away. I sometimes miss mine too. So after that hour, an hour after the bars are closed and text back. Still nothing.
So here I sit on a Saturday night. Worked up. Needing relief. Having expected a hot time tonight for nothing and I have to ask, WHY?
If you have no intention of meeting someone, do not give them the impression you are. DO NOT make plans with them and tie up their nights selfishly when they could have made other plans. It's rude. It's childish. And most of all it is immature.
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Adventures in Dominance and Submission
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Posted:Mar 30, 2009 2:58 pm
Last Updated:Apr 2, 2009 1:11 am
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Recently I begun to experiment and venture into my dominant side. It is an awkward thing for me, the natural nurturer and warmth giver. It requires a certain level of selfishness that I am not used to enjoying. Not saying that it is strictly a selfish thing because that couldn't be further from the truth. To be a Dominant you have to respect the gift of submission and the trust that your sub places in you.
My boy that I play with is delightful. I cannot sing his praises enough. He is so open to experimentation and testing his own limits. More importantly he is excellent with communication, letting me know when things are approaching his thresholds and when things need to back down. It allows me to feel more comfortable in exploring more hard play with him as he craves.
I had read and watched things about CBT (Cock & Ball Torture) but until now I'd never truly explored it till now. Like many other women I was always told that men's testicles were as fragile as hollow egg shells and so on and so forth. As such I was hesitant to engage in the binding and clipping and light slapping and percussion at first, timid and too light. But with reassurance from him I was able to relax and begin to sense his limits, read his body language and decipher the moans and whimpers.
It's empowering to know that the pleasure and pain of another is in your hands, that you can take them to the highest highs and back them off again before they peak, prolonging the intensity of pleasure. Knowing that that person places that sort of trust in you to allow you to make them vulnerable.
While there is a certain level of selfishness involved but at the same time it takes a great deal of selflessness as well, a desire to please and bring remarkable highs to your partner has to be there as well.
I'm looking forward to enjoying more delightful times with my sub and learning more and more of his body and desires.
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Bar Hook-ups
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Posted:Jan 31, 2009 2:04 pm
Last Updated:Mar 24, 2009 1:35 am
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While I've never actually hooked up with a total stranger in a bar it is something that is a part of my fantasy life. The thought of finding a hot man in a crowded bar, eyes meeting across the room, fun flirtatiousness on the dancefloor letting him watch you move. Running into one another at the bar but not speaking. You end up dancing with him and eventually after the tension is built from rubbing and grinding against one another on the dancefloor you find yourself in a darkened corner of the club. Kissing leads to groping, groping leads to hands sliding into clothes. Before you know it you're fucking to the slow, dirty beat of the music hoping that no one sees you, feeling that tightness building within and when you orgasm you lean against one another, spent, panting, sweating and a wide smile on your face. Sometimes in my fantasies that is the end of it, we go our separate ways with smiles on our faces. Sometimes we end up leaving the club and go somewhere to have some more fun.
But this is one of those fantasies that I think is probably better in my mind than it would ever be in reality. In fantasy land you're free from worries of STDs and worries of pregnancy after all. In your fantasy you never have to worry about really getting caught or embarrassed. There's no worry of condoms.
Still it's a hot fantasy to entertain.
But I have heard that people have actually had those sorts of hook ups or at the very least you get a bit tipsy and leave the bar with someone to hook up. So I wonder if any of you dear readers have actually done this? If so, what was it like? Was there awkwardness after it was all over? Did you stay all night? Was there that strange trying to get out of their place or to get them out of yours? Share. Don't be shy. I'd love to hear of it.
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Can a Woman Be Too Sexually Open?
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Posted:Jan 19, 2009 8:40 am
Last Updated:Jan 27, 2009 11:04 am
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I will be the first to admit, I haven't experienced a lot of things sexually. I'm not ignorant of things and I have a wide understanding of human sexuality. I am the type that if I don't know what something is or how it works, I will read up on it and find out. I will study until my knowledge repository is filled.
As such I have a very open mind and when I am with a partner I am uninhibited. Heck most of the things that I do, I do out of instinct or just go with the flow of the moment, listening to what feels good to my body and picking up cues from my partners.
I've had a partner that was blow away because I would suck his cock after we'd been having sex. As if the act of that would repulse me? Why? Anything on him came from me and I'm not afraid of my own fluids. Something as simple as Doggie style seems to shock others.
Are men getting such terrible sexual experiences that these simple things blow their mind? It sort of makes me pity them. I don't understand other women's hangups sexually. It is supposed to be a fun and enjoyable time for both.
On the same token why is it that when a man does encounter a sexually liberated and open minded woman that they get intimidated? People that profess to have excellent experiences with you and yet... you never hear from them again?
Now, were I not so confident in my own talents and enthusiasm I might be worried that it was something I was doing. However the reactions that they give that are utterly reflexive and automatic to the things I do simply are not easy to fake and I highly doubt that there are that many Oscar worthy actors running around in Average Joe jobs.
So what's the deal? Men want that wanton woman in the sheets and then they run away when they get it. I'm not asking for a commitment. I don't want to change their lives. I don't really ask for anything other than to be available every now and then to get together and take care of each other's needs and to keep an open line of communication. Is that so hard to do?
It leaves me perplexed. Should I revert and play the part of Innocent Sue that knows nothing and is a shy wilting flower in the bedroom? What good does that do anyone? After all it gets better each time. The more comfortable you get with your sex partner the better the sex gets.
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The Moment
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Posted:Jan 15, 2009 11:28 pm
Last Updated:Mar 24, 2009 1:35 am
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Hands searching, groping,
Feather-light, gliding over flesh.
Breathless, burning
wound tight like a spring.
Tension building.
Needing.
Wanting.
Stomach flutters, heart thundering.
Skin so hot, muscles tight.
Pulses throbbing, flesh stretched taut.
Velvet slick moothness,
Heated honey dripping.
Friction building.
Breath panted between mouths,
sharing life,
taking in one another.
Fingers groping, grasping.
Heated silk pulled.
Hair tickles over shoulders.
Muscles gripping.
White heat.
Molten blood.
Tightening.
Pause......
Explosion.
Sparkling dots dance before eyes.
Breath held.
Muscles quiver and spasm.
Exhale.
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh.
Gentle strokes.
Sugared sweet kisses.
Fingers petting.
Hair stroked.
Bliss.
Round two?
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New experiences
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Posted:Jan 12, 2009 9:25 pm
Last Updated:May 5, 2024 4:7 pm
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As stated in my profile I'm not that experienced. I'm knowledgeable, sure. I've read a lot of things and studied what I could in the academic sense at least. But putting those things into practice hasn't really happened to me.
However I had the most wonderful experience with a fella this past Sunday afternoon. Now while I know from reading and watching shows like Real Sex on HBO that the practice of rimming can be highly pleasurable but until Sunday I had never experienced it for myself.
It was amazing! He kinda snuck it in on me at first, the naughty, sexy little devil, staring out with some oral foreplay and then it was there! It was a bit awkward and strange feeling at first but that quickly changed to pleasure. And while we weren't able to go all the way with anal (he's a wide fella!) if we'd had lube (and maybe some anal ease to accommodate his width!) I'm sure it would have been incredible. I'll have to remember that net time or bring quick change clothes to throw on and run over to the Hustler store! LOL.
He did manage to get a finger in and that felt really good, especially when he was hittin it from behind while doing it. It was an experience that I certainly wouldn't mind having again.
It did get me to thinking even more though about what it might be like to have a threesome. I'm a greedy bitch so of course my first thoughts are of having two men all to myself. Maaaaaybe with DP.. but more likely so that I can indulge my oral fixation while getting rode hard. Alternatively I wonder what it would be like to be with a man and a woman. I've never been with a woman. Never even kissed a girl. While I don't think I could ever be a straight up lesbian I do find women attractive and find myself wondering what it might be like.
Sure maybe I'd hate it. But the -idea- of it turns me on.
Mmmmmm I'm so pleasantly sore today. Muscles aching and protesting after their use yesterday. But everytime I feel them I smile.
I'm looking forward to more fun times with my new lover and with his adventurous attitude and open mind who knows what kinkiness we might be able to find ourselves exploring. Sure we both have limits and that was discussed.
I of course didn't want to scare him with my fascination of bi-men but knowing he is way straight it's not something I'd ever ask him to do either. But then again I suppose it could be the same kind of fascination that men have with seeing two women together. ..It makes you want to be the 'meat' in the sandwich. LOL!
Overall it was a great time. I got to meet an interesting, exciting, stimulating person with an awesome mind and sense of humor and depth and at the same time him be a fantastic lover. It was a very good day.
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Oh the Holidays!
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Posted:Dec 15, 2008 8:15 am
Last Updated:Jan 5, 2009 8:41 am
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Oh so busy these days. Shopping. Decorating. Stressing over whether you can find the right gift and more importantly in this economy if you can afford it. It has left little time for me and my personal needs. Just when I think about doing something for me something else comes up and I just.. never get to it. Ahhh to have the freedom to just do and not be at the tether of responsibilities. But this isn't a perfect world. SO I guess I just have to suck it up till things chill and I can get back to trying to take care of me for a little while and find some fun.
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