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On a night out..it was a night out they would remember...
Posted:May 20, 2007 12:28 pm
Last Updated:May 24, 2007 2:36 pm

For a very long time.

Sorry, couldn't help paraphrasing from one of my favorite movies. Got to meet some of the people from one of the groups I belong too last night. Every one was nice, not that much talking could have been done, what with the bands playing and all. But, still I had a good time.
Thing that struck me the most about meeting them all was the fact that, they didn't quite look like the photo's they have on their profiles. Not that I'm saying that's a bad thing. Quite the opposite. Truthfully the pic's don't do them justice. I felt honored to be in the presence of such great looking ladies and gentlemen.
I did cut the night short on my part though, being the last time I went out for an evening was months ago, I wasn't use to the partying night life. Chalk it up to me getting old?
Who knows? All I know is that there are great people on FriendFinder-x, and last night I had the privilege of meeting some.
Silly day............................
Posted:May 17, 2007 2:16 pm
Last Updated:May 18, 2007 1:32 pm

Should be a national day for silliness. Just my opinion. Think of it, a day set aside to act as silly as one wanted.
Thing is, as adults we tend to forget how cutting loose and acting up can be good for us. In our button down world of 9to5 we get lost in too much seriousness. Got to show our grown up face to the world..make do, get along. We've forgotten how to play..just for play sake. With the summer coming on the memories of yesterday come flooding back to me. Staying out late and counting the stars, the seemingly never ending days full of baseball, kickball, playing cops and robbers, or just sitting around and shooting the bull with your friends. It's said youth is wasted on the young. I don't think that's really true. More so I think that is the old folks among us all that have just forgotten what young is, and what we were.
So, take some time this summer..go out and play..it'll be good for you!
Mother's day/The good ......................
Posted:May 13, 2007 12:32 pm
Last Updated:May 13, 2007 12:37 pm

Well first off I'd like to wish all of the FriendFinder-x mom's a happy mother's day! Having already had to suffer through birth, I'm sure some of you felt that was easy compared to the "special" breakfast that was prepared for you this morning.
Still, as a mom, you know it was made with love. That's all that really counts. In our life time we turn to our mothers for so much, and being who they are (Our mom's) they are always there for us, no matter what.
Some like me, well my mother passed away some years back, and today is one of those days that I wish I could talk with her again. The last time we did talk was sort of special too me, as she wasn't with me for very much longer after that.
At the time my ex and I were going through what would become a bitter break up and divorce. My mind occupied with my troubled marriage,and the money problems I was facing due to my ex's spend crazy ways I guess I was pretty much wrapped up in my own personal hell at the time. When I get moody, or introspective I tend to clam up. While visiting Mom at the nursing home where she had taken up residence after suffering her third stroke she sensed my distraction. Well she was my Mom after all, the woman knew me from birth, and could tell when something was bothering me. We talked for a bit, discussing this and that..how's the job? How she was getting along? Has anyone else from the family been by lately? How my were doing? The silly things you chat about with a mom. Then out of the blue she said something that knocked me for a loop. She told me that I had been a good ..well her statement floored me. Now in my family love was often never expressed out loud, in fact I could count on one hand the number of times the phrase "I love you" was said among my brothers, or from one of my parents. The thing was, the love was there, just never stated. But her saying to me "you've been a good " Brought me out of the funk I'd been in. It made me realize that someone really loved me for me. That even though I was failing at something as important as being a husband and provider that in the end it didn't really matter.
For with her statement she gave me my self worth back, made me see that I was an ok guy and that things would turn out better. She made me smile again as only a Mom could do.
A few weeks later I lost her, and although I wasn't able to be there when she passed away (long story involving the ex) I knew it didn't matter to her if I had been there or not, as Mom knew how I felt about her, and she about me. In the following days, I never cried, the sadness just wouldn't come. Making arrangements for her funeral, the viewings, the wake....all those things didn't matter much, Mom and I had connected that day in her room and had said our good-byes. The trappings of the funeral were to Honor her memory and the life she lived.
I miss my mom sometimes, many days I wish we could just talk again. But it's comforting to know that she has gone on to a well deserved rest.
I love you Mom, but then you know that, you always did.
Happy Mother's Day ladies! Have a good one!
If you look at mine I'll look at yours......................
Posted:Apr 29, 2007 12:16 pm
Last Updated:May 21, 2007 2:01 pm

Blog that is. I must confess I like reading the blogs. You'll find they can be funny, heart warming, thought provoking, serious, and can sometimes let a little in site into the writers soul.

A poem written by a friend can tell you more about them, then if you were to have known them for a lifetime. A first experience ( bad or good) related in a blog can connect a writer and a reader more than anything. "Yeah I remember when times were like that", or "Wow! I had almost the same experience" It's cathartic really, the author relates their tale purging themselves of a fear, expressing a hope, or just ranting about the days events gives a little bit of them self, the reader shares those thoughts and can interact and perhaps shed some of their own demons, realize that maybe their dreams can come true, or say to themselves "hey! I'm not the only one who has an idiot for a boss."

The blogs can make you laugh, smile, think, and yes even cry sometimes. But, they do more then just amuse. They connect people. In today's cy-ber world where every one is attached to some form of communication what seems like 24/7, it's nice to know that blogging is a form of communication where people can actually stop and really get to know one another.

To quote a wise friend... "Blog on people!"

Why is it...............
Posted:Apr 28, 2007 3:05 pm
Last Updated:Apr 29, 2007 11:42 am

Why is it that we hold people up to higher standards then we hold ourselves? We joined a site like FriendFinder-x to connect with like minded people such as ourselves. But then we pigeonhole, or ignore the people just like us for the sake of some set parameters that normal every day folks couldn't live up too. People looking for that surreal wet dream fantasy. A Greek god, or that perfect lady who's 5'2'' and has eyes of blue. Real people aren't like that, and if your lucky enough to be like that, then congratulations!

Men, women, and couples, some with very cut in stone rules on who they'll meet, and where. Fail to acknowledge an email. Even if they sent a reply as "no thank you not interested" would be enough.

Let's face it, we're all different.We all look for our ideal match. But it's the differences that make us truly special and unique. We all should take a second , and third look at those folks that contact us. For behind that small flaw that doesn't fit in with our ideal match may just be the friend, or friends that we have been looking for.
Been dreaming again..............................
Posted:Mar 2, 2007 7:10 pm
Last Updated:Mar 2, 2007 7:20 pm

Okay, for those who've read some of this blog before know what I'm talking about. For those others who haven't page back to earlier blogs to see what's up.

Same town...same people who I haven't met yet. It's getting rather frustrating in a way. I close my eyes at night and drift off only to find myself living elsewhere than I do,hanging with folks who I don't know that seem to be life long friends.

The dream started as the all do..along that highway that I've never ridden on, it's close to the sea and the landscape is breathtaking. An almost tropical feel to it, but more woody if you follow me. Lots of pines, and junipers..but warm enough for less heartier trees.

Anywho...I was driving this time? I guess I got my van back somehow (earlier post) and was on my way to meet someone. Stopping at a bar I happened to be passing I got out as I wanted to get a case of beer..[Ok, I know you can't buy a case at a bar in Pa. but then I'm not in Pa. am I?] So I stroll in to the bar and walk up to the counter to buy the brew, and the bartender says " I told you I didn't want you coming in here again"
Taken aback, I'm at a loss for words..all I wanted was a case, and as far as I knew I've never been in the place before? So I say to the guy.."look all I want is a case of beer and I'll be on my way" That's when he pulls a baseball bat from under the counter and slams the business end down on the bar top screaming at the top of his lungs that if there wasn't a counter between us that he'd take my head of at the shoulders. As I'm backing away...slowly.....as not to incur his wrath a woman walks in from the kitchen area yelling at him to stop being an ass and to leave me alone. I turned to look at my savior and I realize that I've known her..( Yes in that way. Though I haven't ever seen this woman before in my life I know we've slept together ) She's a cu-tie too, short, soft brown hair, and those big brown eyes that make me want to melt. I also notice that she's with . Very much with ..looks about seven months along. Thing is that's when the light bulb in my head goes off..the is mine. The bartender..her husband, and the reason he's so pissed at me is he knows it's mine as well.

Well, My dreaming mind is thinking this is a fine pickle I stepped on when I walked through the door. Here I am going along my merry way and having fun with this alternate dream reality and I've gone and got some guys wife in the family way. And if he had his way I'd be bleeding profusely and a needing a trip to the nearest ER.

Well, as she comes round the bar, she's saying pay him no never mind..[do I detect a southern drawl?] He's just as much at fault as you are for me being knocked up (ok her words ladies..don't shoot the dreamer) Hell it was you that said that we should have stopped at the drug store for some condoms, but he wanted to get home and get to it. We're all at fault really. We wanted the tree sum and this is the results, wasn't jes you.

Okay...now in the waking world I can't father , I've had that operation that makes all guys cringe when the think about it. (My ex wife's idea...said it be easier for me to get snipped then for her to have her tubes tied) Anywho...I know this, that is to say I'm dreaming that I'm about to be a father to some who was conceived in a three way with a great looking woman and her husband and I know I can't be. But at the same time, I know that this is real and that I am the dad.

More later..gotta head to work.
So few blogs from my local area......
Posted:Feb 25, 2007 2:55 pm
Last Updated:Mar 1, 2007 3:09 pm

I read the blogs, almost daily. Both here, and on sister sites as well. What astounds me is the fact there are so few bloggers from my local area.
Thing is lots of stuff happens in my area, not withstanding there are also a number of couples, women and men from the area..I think the last time I looked there were over 600 women, 150 couples and a slew of guys..but a check of the local blog log I can count on one hand the number of bloggers there are. And of those who do blog, very few post, some haven't been in in months.
It stands to reason that if one were trying to meet people via this site that you would use all it's resources to do so? Having a good profile helps, but not all members have total access to the full profile. So what better way to convey more about yourself than a blog? Oh, I know you say you can't write...well it's not about creating great literary works...it's chatting about your day...airing your beefs...or just ranting.I guess it's a form of advertising in a way. Who you are and what you hope to accomplish with your membership on FriendFinder-x. Me I try to post as often as I can..I've been lax lately...working two jobs I don't have much time to devote to my blog(s) as I like. But I do stop in now and again and fire one off when I can. It may not be earth shattering news, nor even make sense at times. But I'm here.
So, if your looking to meet folks, start a blog...reply to someone Else's blog...you could make some new friends.
Posted:Feb 21, 2007 5:23 pm
Last Updated:Feb 23, 2007 7:08 pm

Ok, so I really couldn't stay away. Too many great photo's to look at.
But in all seriousness, the reason i came back in to FriendFinder-x was to check out if there were any new ladies in my area. There were a few. It's nice to know that there are women out there from the area looking to get acquainted and who don't have a hang up about sex or swinging.
I've recently joined another site at the behest of an old GF, not that she's old or nor is it that we don't want to be together anymore, it's just a distance thing. Anywho...On this new site I've gotten a number of inquiries from local women, and we've talked a bit. Suffice to say I've made some new on line friends. Thing that bugs me about this site is the qualifying blockers that some put on their profiles. The blocks are there for whom they will and won't allow to send them mail. One of the stated reasons is " Must not be looking for an intimate encounter" Ok, now I'm no fool. I didn't expect to have sex with someone from this site on the first meeting..but if one is looking for a relationship..yes and some even mention they're looking for a long term thing..marriage even...then wouldn't you think that an intimate encounter would happen some where along the way? I mean sex aside...wouldn't kissing and hugging come into play? Maybe even a little petting? Seriously..it boggles the mind to think that someone would agree to be with someone of the opposite sex and not be looking for an intimate encounter.
Okay, maybe it's just a man thing? It is said we have sex on the brain 24/7. But lets face it women think about sex as well...I've even heard rumors that some think about it as much as men. ( I can never seem to meet up with any of them )
So, I thought to myself why not go back to FriendFinder-x?
At least in here you don't have to play the silly games.
Haven't been in a while...
Posted:Dec 25, 2006 9:17 pm
Last Updated:Feb 15, 2007 4:23 pm

Seems I've been neglecting my blog on FriendFinder-x, yeah I have. I must confess I really haven't been in much. When they changed formats and took away the stand's ability to even wink, well I guess it kind of pissed me off.
Now as a former gold member, and silver I understand the why to's and what for's of running a business such as FriendFinder-x. Hey everyones got to make a living right? But taking away the winks from standard members..well that's down right Scroogian of them, and this being Christmas and all well I thought I let them know.
Not that I can't afford the membership..just that it's a hassle of sending away a check in the snail mail to re up.
Not that I got alot of email from members on here anywho..Yeah, I met a nice couple that's true, we have become great friends and get together when we can. But for the most part it's been the players that turned me off of re joining. The look-ie Lou's, and ones who talk a good game but when it comes down to meeting.....well they have other plans that evening...or can't make it cause the husband, or wife won't let them out. I've run across any number of excuses. But the worst are the ones who set up a meeting and don't show. Players....I've tried to look past it, even went so far as DL the re up application to send it away. But, with the troubles I've come across here opted not to send it out.
Thing is with the winks, you usually get the real people who answer you, that is wink back. Send you an e-mail. But now even that is gone, with out the wink capability it's nothing more than a photo site for me.
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Shall we dance......................................
Posted:Oct 15, 2006 2:13 pm
Last Updated:Oct 15, 2006 2:15 pm

An honest question, one that begs for attention in it's asking. It's hard to start anything with out asking a question first. Think about it, your making cookies for the first time, you ask yourself the question where do I start? Need to drive a long distance to get to that new vacation spot..you ask the question..well how do I get there?

Our lives are a series of questions, from the time we learn how to think and do for ourselves, the questions why, and how are there. How do I confront my boss and ask him for that raise I need? I wonder if that sexy woman at the end of the bar will be offended if I offered to buy her a drink?

How we deal with those questions, is how we are able to get by in life. If we ask the questions we move forward, we progress. If we remain mute we stagnate. Our lives become hum-drum, we plod through our daily routine always knowing that the outcome of the days events will be the same as the day before.

My original intent with joining FriendFinder-x was to meet a woman I could connect with, someone with the same outlook on life, and the lifestyle I have come to know, and become a part of. I have talked to many women, and couples for that matter, and I've asked the questions. I've gone on dates, had "first meetings" and still the questions remained unanswered, not for a lack of asking. But, I think because they themselves didn't ask the right questions of me. Perhaps they did and I wasn't listening? Going through life on autopilot can be confusing, not only to ourselves but to others as well.

So, Shall we dance?
A question..............................
Posted:Oct 6, 2006 5:49 pm
Last Updated:Oct 6, 2006 5:52 pm

So, your invited to a BD&SM party, the invatation says black tie. Now, do you go to the party wearing your best, or did the invite mean the color of ropes you were to bring?

Hard to judge that one....having attended a number of such affairs, one could take it either way. What brought the question to my mind was I had been chatting with woman I know who is a very dominante mistress...I'll be helping her out tomorrow with moving some furniture around, more like helping her direct two of her subs. (moving her bedroom to the first floor of her home as she's having surgery soon on her knee)

The question just sorta poped into my head, having a well versed Mistress at hand I asked her what she thought? Needless to say when I explained it to her..she was amused. In case your wondering, I'm not really into the whole S&M thing, to me it can be down right silly. I mean if I'm going to punish someone I'm not going to beat them..cause that's what they really want in the first place. If you really wanted to punish them I'd do the whole vinella sex route, better yet.. strip them nude tie them to the bed posts and then just walk away. Come back a hour or so later untie them, have them get dresses and send them home. (and people wonder why I'm called evil?)

I guess it takes all kinds to make a world. I don't judge anyone on their likes or dislikes. I've tried many things, and everything has it's place. But, a steady diet of the same thing all the time just gets boring..no matter what your into. Some days you may feel like a bananna split, other days just a plain cone. It's your choice..choose wisely.
The case of the lost Peanut............Found.....................
Posted:Sep 29, 2006 4:44 pm
Last Updated:Sep 30, 2006 3:09 am

Nope my life hasn't stopped, just haven't been in in a while is all. Been having fun, meeting with my friends as often as I can so things are going ok.
Interesting discussion ensued last Saturday evening while I was out at my "couple" friend's place. Seems their had related a story to them concerning a peanut and where he happened to find said peanut. Now far be it from me to discuss other peoples sexual preferences, or quirks but I must admit this one for the books.

Seems the good lad had been down town eating at the Y and for a lark decided to go further downtown..well en route it seems he picked up some munchies along the way. Or is that a munch..singular, rather then plural...anywho next thing he knows hes got a peanut in his mouth...Now as we all know peanuts are a tasty and nutritious treat, but finding one lodged between her cheeks while pleasuring your lady can be quite up setting, not to mention extremely awkward. I can picture it now....Gackk..awkk...er...Honey...ah...were you perhaps saving this for later? I mean if you want it..I can place it on the night stand for you?

Needless to say, I never did find out whether or not she answered in the affirmative. I could see a scenario where someone might have been having a snack in bed, watching TV...those things are small and tend to get lost quite easily. I could also imagine said peanut getting lodged in the place it was found, by mere chance...stranger things have happened. But, like I said..it's one for the books.

So, next time your downtown, and are getting kind of hungry...remember "Be careful what you wish for you just may get it"
Monday on a Tuesday............................
Posted:Sep 5, 2006 5:54 pm
Last Updated:Jan 24, 2022 9:40 pm

Ever notice how much a pain in the butt it is to get out of bed in the morning on a monday? Well I felt that way this morning..almost called off and played hookie, but I wouldn't have gotten paid for yesterday, and the boss wanted me to look at some machines that needed fixed. So, it was off to work for me, trouble was with the holiday...the schedule was all screwed up..had to do the work I normaly do on Mondays as well as Tuesdays work. WoooooooooooHoooooooooooooo!!!!!
I love holidays, a day of rest so I can go back and work twice as hard. Only in Amerika!

I need a vacation, I got the days coming, trouble is if I use them I go back and no ones done the work I would have done if I'd have been there. The Boss keeps pestering me..asking when I'm gonna take my time, she wants to clean off the books before the end of the year. To be truthfull, I have no desire to take time and come back afterwards and do double duty, or triple duty to get caught up. Sorta a catch 22 problem.

Maybe if I had a hot babe I could take to a deserted isle where we could lay nude in the sun all day sipping tropical drinks I'd go. Couple of problem with that..one - I don't no any single ladies who'd agree to go and two - I don't have to cash flow to pay for it. Ah well, maybe i can find some one who'll be happy just sitting under a heat lamp watching movies in my queen sized bed.
Any takers???????

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