What a week.....  

FatAndSassier68 53F  
343 posts
11/13/2021 5:47 am
What a week.....


I feel like it's easier for to post weekly, and add in little bits and bobs throughout the week, so I think that may be what I do going forward. Unless I get a wild hair up my ass and start posting more often, but right now, life is a little more real than normal.

I will preface this by saying that it's pretty serious shit; I'm unpacking a lot.

My sister's fiance died suddenly a week ago, and I've been her emotional support animal. Bear in mind, my sister is 13 months younger than , is Bipolar Type I, and an alcoholic. After our Dad passed ten years ago, she went from being a functioning alcoholic to non-functioning, and now has a myriad of<b> medical </font></b>issues that go along with that. She and her fiance were very much codependent, and now that he's gone (and was there when it happened), she is not well.

She's been calling me at all hours of the day and night, and just cries. She repeats herself over and over. She tells me the only reason she's still on the planet is because our Mom is still alive and it would devastate her.

It's a lot. And I'm doing the best I can to help her. The house she's in belonged to her fiance and his ex wife (she's still on the deed), so now she wants my sister out ASAP so she can the house. I'm trying to talk my sister into admitting herself into an inpatient MH facility - she's almost there- but she's afraid the ex wife will take all her shit and throw it away. She doesn't have a lot of stuff in the grand scheme of things, because she was homeless before she moved in with her dude. And before you judge me for not having her move in with me, I've tried. She refuses to leave the city she lives in (and has since she went to college in the late 80s).

I think I needed to get this all out. I actually feel physically better after the word vomit came out. So, I guess, so if you're gotten this far, thank you. I promise every blog post won't be like this one.

HAMONMAN 62M
12954 posts
11/13/2021 8:56 am


OK, no problem.

That's a lot of (someone else's) shit to deal with.


Unzipmeslowly51 51M

11/13/2021 1:36 pm

Its gonna be hard. But youll deal with things and come through the other side ive no doubt. Good luck with everything­čśŐ


Owatalife 65M
1696 posts
11/13/2021 4:35 pm

There is a flow in life that can at times be unsettling for all kinds of different reasons. We all deal with our own issues differently so it's never easy taking on your siblings state of affairs. All you can do in this situation is what you're already providing & that is solid advice & a shoulder to cry on. Doesn't sound like this will end in anything other than tears though so hope I'm wrong there.


boobwhisperer69 59M  
8120 posts
11/13/2021 5:29 pm

Glad you got that out!!! Now a hug!!!!


New2Midlo 52M  
1058 posts
11/13/2021 8:29 pm

Wow...that's a LOT to have thrown on you! I dated someone with bipolar 2 and she was a bit of a handful; can only imagine how challenging a type 1 is.
You're right to try to get her into inpatient care, particularly if she hasn't gotten on the right meds to address her condition.
Best of luck to you...seriously.


xxx14760man 46M
43 posts
11/15/2021 6:44 am

sorry to hear everything you going thru. All you can do is be there for your sister and give her the help that she asks for. Hugs to you and your family


OldTeacher5 65M  
64 posts
11/20/2021 9:32 am

What is it with 'bi-polar' and 'alcoholism'?? The best drummer I ever played with had those two disabilities also. His artistry was among the finest I've ever encountered but his disabilities were also among the worst that I've ever seen. I deal with it by thinking that 'whatever they're going through has to be a lot worse for THEM'. Be strong for her Sassier and be thankful that she still feels you're the safest person to call and cry to. Let's just hope for the best for her. You're a good sister.


lonlyforlove2 79M  
29895 posts
11/27/2021 8:25 pm

Hello.. As I read your post above, I see words missing (It is magic here).
Not aware, if you are aware of the "missing word glitch " these sites have... To prevent this from happening, most just copy and paste the subject in the first comment. It servs two-fold; it opens up the post to the " current post list", otherwise it may take much longer before people see your post and this removes it from the influence of the site glitch!!!!
Sorry about your family issues, all families have this to a degree. I enjoy your postings here; you may have the beginnings, of a very good blog!!!

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Medstar1956 65M
5 posts
12/6/2021 5:39 pm

Good Lord Hon! That is too much on your plate. I surely hope she will get the help she needs. My Mom went through something very similar with Dad's alcohol addiction, and we both fought "tooth and nail" to get him the help he needed.
However, it was too late being he was diagnosed with cirrhosis of the liver and end stage renal disease


Trapper69 64G  
2611 posts
12/25/2021 12:43 pm

Life is hard.....we all know that. However, those who work to better themselves, no matter what life throws at them, will rise above. Since the beginning of time, billions (maybe trillions) of people have experienced serious setbacks. However, if they put forth the effort, they can enjoy a good life! You can only help her so much before it starts affecting you in a negative way. You can't allow her to take you down. She needs to stand on her own feet. If it means getting admitted to a MH unit, she needs to do it. Those numerous phone calls at all hours of the day and night will erode your life. You can only do so much for her.


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