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TheMusings of a Jaded Old Lady
These are the thoughts and ramblings of a BBW Domme and Cuckoldress from rural Northwestern Pennsylvania, now living in the Southern Tier of Western New York.

As I have gotten older, I've really come into my own in terms of D/s. At one time, my leanings were much more vanilla than they are now. Its Become a very important part of my life.

I've included erotica, both fiction and non, that I've written. Feel free to comment!
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Happy (Late) New Year!
Posted:Jan 16, 2022 8:44 am
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2022 1:24 pm

I know, I know. I'm late.

I was in a hell of a funk from before Christmas until just after New Years, and didn't post any blogs at all. It got pretty dark, but I'm feeling much better now. Most of it has to do with work and COVID; work has been insanely short handed and because the numbers are so horrendous around here, my family made the choice to not celebrate the holidays together. We're hoping that maybe by the end of February, the surge may pass and we can see each other in the same room.

Fingers crossed.
It's Saturday, and I'm feeling generous...
Posted:Nov 27, 2021 6:37 am
Last Updated:Nov 28, 2021 1:10 pm

As I peruse profiles of the men who have messaged me on FriendFinder-x, I'm irritated. Not so much by the content, but by the grammar, punctuation, etc. As a result, I've decided to offer up my services to redo profiles for those in need. Lord knows, I haven't been afraid to tell people when their profiles need help, so why not offer to rerewrite them?

I doubt it'll do any good, but why not offer? I can safely say that most of the folks who read my blog have no need for my services, but if someone was willing to give constructive criticism on it, would you take it as such?

I will give one piece of advice here - if youre going to take a selfie, do it from above. Make sure youre looking at the camera lens, not the screen! And smile!
Another Saturday, Another Poll!
Posted:Nov 20, 2021 3:46 am
Last Updated:Dec 11, 2021 8:03 am

I know this question has been asked a bazillion times on here, but I'm going to ask again: What are you here for?

Are you just here for the blogs? Do you chat? Are you looking for real time meets? I'm curious.

If more than one choice applies, let me know in the comments!
I'm just here to feed my voyeuristic tendancies, so I perv cams and pics.
Blogs are where it's at!
I'm here for chat.
I'm looking for someone to hook up with on the regular (FWB).
Strictly NSA for me!
I'd like to find someone to spend time with on and off AFF.
I looking for a long term relationship.
10 Comments , 56 votes
What a week.....
Posted:Nov 13, 2021 5:47 am
Last Updated:Nov 29, 2021 9:48 am

I feel like it's easier for to post weekly, and add in little bits and bobs throughout the week, so I think that may be what I do going forward. Unless I get a wild hair up my ass and start posting more often, but right now, life is a little more real than normal.

I will preface this by saying that it's pretty serious shit; I'm unpacking a lot.

My sister's fiance died suddenly a week ago, and I've been her emotional support animal. Bear in mind, my sister is 13 months younger than , is Bipolar Type I, and an alcoholic. After our Dad passed ten years ago, she went from being a functioning alcoholic to non-functioning, and now has a myriad of medical issues that go along with that. She and her fiance were very much codependent, and now that he's gone (and was there when it happened), she is not well.

She's been calling me at all hours of the day and night, and just cries. She repeats herself over and over. She tells me the only reason she's still on the planet is because our Mom is still alive and it would devastate her.

It's a lot. And I'm doing the best I can to help her. The house she's in belonged to her fiance and his ex wife (she's still on the deed), so now she wants my sister out ASAP so she can the house. I'm trying to talk my sister into admitting herself into an inpatient MH facility - she's almost there- but she's afraid the ex wife will take all her shit and throw it away. She doesn't have a lot of stuff in the grand scheme of things, because she was homeless before she moved in with her dude. And before you judge me for not having her move in with me, I've tried. She refuses to leave the city she lives in (and has since she went to college in the late 80s).

I think I needed to get this all out. I actually feel physically better after the word vomit came out. So, I guess, so if you're gotten this far, thank you. I promise every blog post won't be like this one.
Happy Saturday - It's POLL TIME!
Posted:Nov 6, 2021 10:20 am
Last Updated:Dec 1, 2021 4:54 pm

As I've been on this site again over the past couple of months, it almost seems as though the men who on/flirt with are all either a lot older than , or a lot . I got a message from a 20 year old with apparent Mommy issues right after I got a message from a 72 year old who wanted me to peg him. Maybe a quarter of the messages I receive are from men +/- my age.

So curious - Do you prefer your spouse/partner/ SO/lover to be older, or around the same age? Also, please comment the reason for your peference.
None of the Above
14 Comments , 88 votes
Posted:Nov 3, 2021 6:40 pm
Last Updated:Nov 7, 2021 4:31 pm

If you think 's okay say anything you want, no matter how offensive or vile, a woman just because she has nudes posted, YOU ARE PART OF THE FUCKING PROBLEM!
Booster Time
Posted:Oct 29, 2021 5:28 pm
Last Updated:Jan 16, 2022 8:39 am
It's raining and chilly in WNY tonight, and I'm already in bed, at 8:23pm. Today I got my Covid vaccine booster injection. it's been about 5 and a half hours, and so far, my arm is a little sore, and im tired. (I was tired before I got the shot though, as I've been awake since 3fuckingam for some ungodly reason.)

Wish me luck! Will update any symptoms and side effects. For now, I'm settling in under the covers. I got caught in a down pour today and haven't been able to get warm again!

Anybody have a fireplace I could borrow? And a big, comfy couch? And maybe a puppy?
Fall Vibes
Posted:Oct 23, 2021 10:32 am
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2021 10:05 am
I absolutely adore this time year! The leaves are changing, the air is getting cooler; its a beautiful time of year in the Southern Tier.

In honor of the changing weather, I figured I'd post a new picture. I've got my cup of tea, I have a pie in the oven, and I have cinnamon candles burning around my apartment. It's a definite vibe I'm happy to be feeling.
Sexy vs Fat
Posted:Oct 16, 2021 3:52 pm
Last Updated:Nov 21, 2021 2:06 pm
I hang in the BBW room here on FriendFinder-x. It's a more comfortable room for to in, as I am a big . Men there are interested in big girls; some fetishize us, but most just have a preference for larger women. Different strokes for different folks, amirite?

My biggest issue is with the idea, even among admirers of BBW, that they can't us fat. Like, it pains them to say the word. Now, I dont know if it's because they dont want to hurt our feelings (trust - we know we're fat), but it gets really annoying when a man tells not to myself fat.

"Oh youre not fat, youre fluffy". No, friend, fucking fat.
"I think you're beautiful on the inside, and what's on the outside doesn't matter". - Total horseshit. If you didn't think I was attractive on the outside, you wouldn't give the fucking time of , and that's the truth.

If I've said it once, I've said it a thousand times - BEING FAT AND BEING SEXY ARE NOT MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE! It's very possible to be both. The average clothing size for American women is /18. That's a thick . Anywhere from 0 to 2 pounds. When I was , and a size 18, I was called fat. I wasn't unhealthy, but I was told I was, and was put on diets from the age of . Is it any wonder I have a horrible relationship with food?

We are getting bigger. Can we please normalize the word already?
This Morning...
Posted:Oct 15, 2021 5:27 am
Last Updated:Oct 17, 2021 10:24 am
I took today off work. I stayed later last night in the hopes I might sleep in a little, and made it 7am. Baby steps, right? Anyway, I woke horny. That rarely happens. Usually ,I get , get ready for work and I'm out the door without even having a chance think about it. But not today. I've already had 2 orgasms, and I've been awake for less than an hour and a half. Who knows? Maybe I'll just stay in bed day, and have a marathon masturbation session, something I haven't done in literal years.

I wonder how wrinkled and pruney my fingers can get in one day? Let's just hope I've got enough batteries.
Subscription Renewal?
Posted:Oct 9, 2021 8:57 pm
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2021 3:07 pm

My sub expires on Monday, and I've been really struggling with whether not I want re-up. What do y'all think?

Let me know in the comments why you chose the answer you did.
4 Comments , 12 votes
We All Have Preferences....
Posted:Oct 3, 2021 8:53 am
Last Updated:Oct 24, 2021 4:10 am
's true. Everyone has a type or trait they prefer in their lovers/sexual partners/SO...whatever. So here are mine:
*Submissive. I like my boys do as they're told. And true submissives. Not someone 's just read my profile and thought "Oh, she's a dominant. I wonder what would be like be dominated by her?". I say that, because I get in messages and IMs. A LOT. D/s is a way of life
for me, and if you choose me, should be for you, too.
*Intelligent. I want to be able to have a conversation about things other than sex and the lifestyle. If you can't carry a conversation beyond that, I will lose interest very quickly.
*Have a sense of humor! That's a huge turn-on for me. If you can make me laugh, you could win my heart, and my pussy.
*Generous. And I'm not talking about buying me things. I'm talking about a generous and giving spirit.
*Between the ages of 30 and 65. I will make exceptions for this if you're a VERY good .
*Taller than me. I'm 5'6, so that isn't too hard for most folks. When you get in the 6' or taller range, I'm even happier.
*Fit/Average build to Dad bod. are some great BHM out , but I'm a big , and the logistics of sex between two very large humans is just difficult!
*Single. I have no interest in being a side piece or second choice. I'm far too demanding for that.
*Relocatable. I live an 60-90 minutes drive from all of my immediate family, including my septegenarian and my grandchildren. I also have a job I love and don't intend to leave. Long distance relationship ultimately fail for me because 1. Im demanding and 2. I get tired of waiting.

I know, I know. It's a lot. But I'm at an age where I don't want to settle for less than what I want. And I won't. I would rather become an old cat lady, sitting on my porch, yelling at to get out of my yard, than be in a relationship that is less than what I want.
Happy Saturday?
Posted:Oct 2, 2021 8:32 am
Last Updated:Nov 6, 2021 10:21 am
It's a beautiful day in Western NY today; the sky is blue and sun is shining! High is allegedly headed up toward the mid 70s, so I'm going to try try try to get out of this funk I'm in, and get some motivation.

I'm pretty the boy and I are done. I haven't heard from him since Wednesday. I'm actually afraid something could be wrong with him physically, as he's an ultrarunner, and had a pretty significant injury this summer. If I could reach out, I would. But if there isn't anything wrong, I'll just bring a world of pain into his life, and not the kind of pain I prefer to inflict. I'm not out to ruin anyone's life.

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