More than sex less than drama
|
Posted:Jan 7, 2021 3:26 am
Last Updated:Jan 8, 2021 2:00 am
4632 Views
|
Relationships are rich in complexity, especially when sex is involved. After all, sharing microbes is as physically intimate as you can get. I'm no longer at an age where lust is a must. It's a maybe. Gotta have chemistry--something more than a wham bam. Sense of humor. Curiosity. Intelligence. Not too intense. Not too passive. And not into possession, jealousy, demands, commitments that just are not going to be real.
So I look for more than sex but less than drama. I am happily married, though I miss the sexual dimension. So I guess you might say I'm desi sexual--particular about partners. Sex is complex--mixing microbes is risky. Fascinating but not so simple for me, now.
Can talk about anything but looking for something more than sex and at the same time less than drama. Need to trust in a safe, sane, mutually consensual time for fun. 
|
|
|
0
Comments
|
|
Common ground, common good, common sense
|
Posted:Dec 2, 2020 2:11 am
Last Updated:Dec 5, 2020 3:33 am
4487 Views
|
Oh cum on! English poet Coleridge wrote, "Common sense in an uncommon degree is what the world calls wisdom." Are people losing a sense of what we all have in common? What is so great about the FriendFinder-x cummonity (okay, okay community) is that we acknowledge our common interest in sex. And wow, what diversity we have here.
We want to get along in addition to go along with basic necessities like providing for food, shelter, safety. There are so many ways to share pleasure --ssm--sane, safe, mutual. And it's easier to be happy than to bear grudges, hostilities, anger.
Age is just a number in that we all want to feel good, loved, belong at every age. That's a common good. Age, though, finds us in different places emotionally, physically and in relationships. Also some of us are sexclusive, others not. But safety and respect matter more than hurling judgments, shame and guilt for being who we are.
Cum on. I love finding common ground with many. That's why I renewed my membership. Pleasure is still a treasure. Even if politics and religion are so very divisive, we still have the capacity to bring a smile of recognition that we have more in common than not. Much to celebrate in common. Mmmmm.
|
|
|
2
Comments
|
|
Pen Pals and more maybe
|
Posted:Nov 8, 2020 4:56 am
Last Updated:Apr 23, 2024 7:39 am
3377 Views
|
Hi everyone. I feel light and happy and ageless. My whole skin is erotic touch plus the never tiresome hot zones. For now, with this novel virus intruding upon our lives in different ways, I feel a bit like I'm under house arrest by that invisible intruder COVID-19. That it does not show in its ugliness is exactly how my wife and I want keep it.
Meanwhile, though, my wife shows no interest in what continues fascinate : women, men, T's. Tease.  I enjoy corresponding where the taboos against sex, pleasure, the bodily functions that are constant companions (when they work well!! ) are relaxed, non-judgmental, even non existent .
Be well everybody. Treat those body parts with the same love you buy presents for your loved ones. Be part of a militia of love: Present Arms and Kisses and Tits and those Hot Zones that get you flowing in health and happiness. Mmmm mmmm Woohoo YOU!
|
|
|
0
Comments
|
|
What really matters to me! What matters to you?
|
Posted:Oct 21, 2020 4:34 am
Last Updated:Apr 23, 2024 7:39 am
3506 Views
|
Fact of life: still horny every morny . Love seeing people having fun together sexually. Too risky for me to "get out there". Very frustrating, I'll admit, but I can wait for a safer day and safer play. That's the thing about aging: everything that matters is present, alive, curious, interested. However, for me the urgency or insistent expectations are tame now.
What matters to me is cultivating friendships. Yes, I'm married. Wife has beautiful qualities but they do not include sex any more. She has always been fond of gays and always known that I'm bi. She's straight. Physical frailty has robbed us of the passion that meant so much for so long. Now we are here for each other as best we can. Perfect? Hardly. But loyal friends.
As I look back I've never been sexclusive. But like Cole Porter's song "Always True to You in My Fashion" from "Kiss Me, Kate", I am passionate about sanity, safety and mutuality. What matters to me most is the cultivation of friendship. I accept differences. Differences often get seen as faults or flaws. Sure, they can be. But only people we don't know well are really GOOD or are really BAD. We're a mix, imo. And our differences can be very enriching.
FriendFinder-x offers the possibility of opening us to realities about ourselves that the society at large considers taboo or immoral or unfriendly to families. I feel I can be more whole with at least a number of people I meet on FriendFinder-x. That enriches my life. I think it's great how different we all are, while sharing physical and emotional similarities. Let's nurture beauty and cultivate friendships that enliven and gladden us. Being sexy can be so refreshing.
|
|
|
0
Comments
|
|
Fantasy and reality
|
Posted:Sep 24, 2020 2:36 am
Last Updated:Apr 23, 2024 7:39 am
3601 Views
|
I'm so into physical pleasure. Love looking at photos and videos of naked bodies, imagining delighted men and women and T's. Love being a naked humanimal, so honest, so basic, so regular and renewable like eating and drinking. A lot like eating and drinking. But these days I just literally eat and drink and leave the taste and scent of sex to memories and fantasies and correspondence (open some time to camming). Reality gets in the way--pandemic for instance still a major concern for me and my wife. Wife no interest in sex any more due to significant health issues. So we just don't talk about it. Why pile on pain--for what purpose? We still love each other but no longer in that hot passionate way. So it goes. Stay safe and well, friends. Write if you want to correspond.
|
|
|
0
Comments
|
|
Age and rage, sex in the mix
|
Posted:Aug 31, 2020 3:14 am
Last Updated:Apr 23, 2024 7:39 am
3701 Views
|
For sex is a natural high and a reliable renewable resource! True, the drive is gentler and not as insistent as it used be. Being FriendFinder-x I've discovered that men and women and trans are unique with different stories, attitudes and desires. Wow. That is so attractive. Sex is common ground even though it is expressed in so many different ways. I just don't understand why it is so taboo, so sketchy in our culture.
I still get angy when I read about people being abused for being part of the rainbow. Labeling sex orientation has a place I suppose, but I prefer seeing others differently. Growing up I wondered if I was gay. Thought so but also considered myself bi. At some point I have also been fascinated with being both male and female. For me that mystery called "chemistry" is more important that any label. If anything is going to happen I want it to be sane, safe and with mutual consent.
Just because I'm older now doesn't mean my passions have disappeared. Far from it. But I'm better at taming the rage and feel more sage for the new pace of things. Abuses, violence, being out of control kindle that sense of rage in me. But remembering there's more to each of us than rage, I'm grateful that sex is still in the mix. This virus calamity is a natural warning to stay well and safe and to recalibrate our passions for a possible future.
|
|
|
0
Comments
|
|
Is it okay to feel ordinary and have challenges?
|
Posted:Jul 4, 2020 4:47 am
Last Updated:Apr 23, 2024 7:39 am
3584 Views
|
I'm still clean and meticulous about hygiene and self care. Love my bod and looking at others' as well. But at 76 with gait and balance issues from a hereditary neuromuscular disorder called CMT2, I feel ordinary and challenged. Not mention feeling shut down for the duration of this pandemic. Being a care-giver for my wife is my top priority (and hers as well ).
Still feel frisky though. Not willing to be risky. Love chatting on IM and corresponding. And looking at others' naked pleasures. It's delightful that there are just so many of us ordinary people. Love it.
Sooo, my answer to my question is YES YES YES1 Virtual pleasures are so much better than none at for now. Woohoo!
|
|
|
0
Comments
|
|
Good sense and good scents
|
Posted:Jun 17, 2020 5:26 am
Last Updated:Jul 30, 2020 7:44 am
3895 Views
|
Not looking for better or best--just GOOD sense. Women, men, trans--everybody. That's what I like about FriendFinder-x. You can be who you are and find others who like you and you like them. Good sense is mostly common sense: clean, fit, respectful, mutual, sensual. Love my body. Want you love yours. Scent can be intoxicating. It goes with good sense. Diet, hygiene, low stress improve my sense of scent. Love corresponding, helping each other feel good even briefly.
Happy trails!
.
|
|
|
4
Comments
|
|
Virtual and Real
|
Posted:May 16, 2020 5:45 am
Last Updated:Apr 23, 2024 7:39 am
3525 Views
|
How's it going AFFers? Some of us deal with handicaps that limit going out in the best of times. We appreciate virtual activities. Then there's corresponding, chatting,dreams that become wet well-wishes. VR--virtual reality. Really? Virtuously? hahaha. I mean virtually? The up side is relative safety from infection and stimulation of imagination.
The down side is the actual touch, taste, scent, sight and sounds of mutual pleasure. There's something MORE in reality. This pandemic forces us to think about what matters to us. That's different from doing what matters to us. We may be alone in our thoughts but we can share them. We're all alone a lot anyway but now more alone together. So let's make the most of what we can do and enjoy whatever fun is available to us--sane, safe and mutual.
I love hearing from women, men, trans, all ages, races. In virtual space age is just a number. In real time we are what we are. We could enjoy both. Enjoy such health as you have--safely, kindly, happily. Virtual hugs and kisses. I'd love to hear from you. Really!
|
|
|
0
Comments
|
|
Isolation and Imagination
|
Posted:Apr 11, 2020 5:35 am
Last Updated:Apr 23, 2024 7:39 am
3821 Views
|
What's between the legs likes the bed, the bathroom, the body, the blast, the burst. What's between ears can go everywhere, up and down the galaxy of ecstasy, including between legs and lips and you name it. I think most of us privately crave what's between body parts and bodies, but since society seems see sex as taboo or restricted or we are ambivalent about pleasure in general and sex in particular, my general impression is that a lot of us never learned how harmonize our lust with our love.
Lust is the bright flame of the candle. Love is the candle. So we light our fires in different ways, visually, emotionally, physically. Without the candle the fire goes out and often enough even with the candle! Enough with the metaphor already.
This pandemic finds a lot of us if not most of us self-isolating for our own protection and that of others. We're lucky if we're partnered with like minded SO. Even so this is a great time for the imagination assist the body. What matters us? What do we want? What do we need? Great time discover ourselves, our inner being. Getting ready for a new way of being together: physically isolated? socially connected? New anticipations and aspirations. Be well. Safe. Sexy. Imaginative! I'd love to hear from you.
|
|
|
0
Comments
|
|
Adult friends in a time of infection
|
Posted:Mar 22, 2020 5:18 am
Last Updated:Mar 23, 2020 3:30 am
3730 Views
|
To my friends and friends to be: we're a hot lot. Something irrepressible about our flow. It's just always there. At least for me !!! But we're adults, or want to be, pretend to be, actually are. We are careful to be safe and sane and respectful of others who want to play with us and we want to play with. Infections aren't new, eh? They're no fun and that's such an understatement.
At least I don't want to get sick. This new virus is scary because it's unknown. That doesn't make infections we know about any less scary. I'm self isolating these days. I love emailing and texting on IM here on the FriendFinder-x website. It feels safe and warm and comforting for a few minutes with others of like mind.
I try to live without insistent expectations of others, even when I have to manage insistent urges in my body/mind. It's sometimes challenging, overwhelming even. But it passes with or without orgasm.
We can do this pandemic. It will pass, whether we pass or not anyway! Keep smiling. Drop me a line. I love to connect.
|
|
|
2
Comments
|
|
Just be you
|
Posted:Feb 11, 2020 3:07 am
Last Updated:Apr 23, 2024 7:39 am
3670 Views
|
Challenges happen at any age and seemingly at every age . Growing up mom and dad and relatives and school, church, society tell you what you should be, make a name, be good (?!), be somebody (that is, somebody "they" want you to be --WTF?) and so forth. But we each eat, digest, eliminate, grow, all the while influenced by the invisible forces of hormones, enzymes, desires, disgusts.
And we manage to make sense of the world around us hammering away to shape us into something on the anvil of existence. Hey, look at me! Oh hey, what the f*** are you staring at? Mmmm. Ahhhh. Woohoo. Bah. Dang. And everything in between.
Satisfy others in order to get a job, to get a partner or friend and at the same time, you have to find out who you are and what difference that makes. Badabing Badaboom. Ping! Pong! Um, Yin Yang (heh heh).
I love this FriendFinder-x site because we are not ashamed to be our lovely naked selves, however different we are. I've met a host of great people here. I feel I can be me. And, well, I would just like to FEEL you!
Then you and I hit limits: this goes south, then that does, but you and I are still ourselves. We still can smile, remember, play, enjoy ourselves. Yes Yes Yes. So many forces want you and me to do this, be that. But what we are is what we do. It's either Boohoo or Woohoo. So just be you. Oh yeah, I'm here too.
|
|
|
0
Comments
|
|
On demanding honesty and our fear of not being "good enough"
|
Posted:Jan 4, 2020 1:51 am
Last Updated:Jan 24, 2020 2:48 am
4350 Views
|
No one wants to be abused or humiliated really. It takes guts to be we are. I don't see the point in "coming " if it's only going to ruin relationships we love and are committed to, even though imperfectly. I think the demand for honesty is really a demand that the one we want to with wants what we want and is as safe and sane as we are. Since many of us feel insecure--especially if we're "different"--we may be afraid to be honest. Lying breaks trust but it can make us feel better at the moment. And people in pain want relief. Some prefer alcohol, others , others sex, and on and on. But these behaviors are to relieve pain--psychological and emotional pain. God knows our culture is extremely judgmental and harsh. Not all of us are confident in being ourselves. We fudge to fit in lol . Sad but not bad. At least understandable, imo.
Being honest is a worthy goal. Because our culture is so ambivalent about sexual efficacy/confidence, it's really hard to be honest unless you fit the norms and expectations of the culture. If you're gay or bi or trans or queer (!!!) or otherwise "different" you have to feel safe and confident to be honest. That's not going to work for people think only they are honest but are suspicious of anyone else's "honesty". People have reasons for lying. Condemning "them" may be less effective than trying to understand what "they are afraid of. Particularly when it comes to sex. Just a thought.
|
|
|
1
comment
|
|
To link to this blog (Ianpoman) use [blog Ianpoman] in your messages.
|
|
|
| Sun |
Mon |
Tue |
Wed |
Thu |
Fri |
Sat |
| |
|
|
1
|
2
|
3
|
4
|
5
|
6
|
7
|
8
|
9
|
10
|
11
|
12
|
13
|
14
|
15
|
16
|
17
|
18
|
19
|
20
|
21
|
22
|
23
|
24
|
251
|
26
|
27
|
28
|
|
|
|
|
|
