Oral pleasures
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Posted:May 15, 2017 2:31 am
Last Updated:Aug 25, 2017 1:56 am
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Mixing microbes. Hey, talk is easy and fun. But the thrill of tonguing, nibbling, licking, sucking, touching moistures is ecstatic. I've read that only 10% of our microbes are our own--90% are from other microbes. In kissing we mix microbes and enjoyed long enough (???) yours neutralize mine and vice versa. I think that means we might be related in ways we never imagined. Intimacy can be more than philosophical--it can be microbial Are there risks? Of course. And our fear-based society threatens illness and imposes taboos and conventions to make the slosh and goo of oral pleasures disgusting. I don't really understand wham bam thank you ma'am. To connect orally gets close to diplomacy, mutuality, reciprocity, hell, fun. I'm looking for friends of like mind who don't mind and would enjoy mine.
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Young and Older
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Posted:Apr 18, 2017 2:26 am
Last Updated:Oct 16, 2017 2:39 am
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A nice young man in his 20s sent a friend request. That was so nice and I said so.
He replied with a "Hey, how's it going?" I took the standard question as an invitation and replied: "Thanks for asking. I remain young at heart, horny, curious about life and sex. Looking for a fuck buddy. Not having enough luck with that. I enjoy meeting people on this site. What I notice is that everyone is different. I find that interesting. There are a lot of complainers here: so many women are harsh and judgmental before you even get acquainted! So many men complain that there are so many fakes and phonies here. I stay away from complainers. It's not that there isn't a lot to complain about, but there's even more to be happy about. I think most of us just want to have some fun, feel good for awhile, share some heavy breathing." I think we're all looking for something missing that we need or at least want. This site makes it possible to connect fantasy to quasi reality, if not reality. To enter a socially taboo zone and enjoy the view, the communication, the pleasure away from the all too frequent "war zone" of daily life. Hmu, gals and guys. Best wishes to all!
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Letting go of insistent expectations
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Posted:Mar 23, 2017 2:12 am
Last Updated:Jul 22, 2017 7:08 am
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As age turns the page on passion I've come to a new way of looking at grumbling, at complaints of fakes and phonies on FriendFinder-x. I think the complainers may suffer from insistent expectations. As in--why can't you follow through on getting together when you write that you want to?!?!?!? Makes us mad. We're on this site because there's something missing in our lives and we feel as though we can and should be able to help each other out, especially when we say we want to. Right? Right! Our reality, however, is that we want what we want when we want it, and too bad about "YOUR" silly realities. Uh oh. How to ruin a good day. We in our culture allow many responsibilities, inhibitions, and obligations (not to mention cultural conditioning with guilt and shame) to push aside the gratification of our desires. (That's one reason I enjoy porn so much--it's all neatly presented and soon over and done with Of course, it's also a lame substitute for the real thing. Sorta like You say tomahto and I say tomayto, you say potahto and I say potayto--Let's call the whole thing off!!!)
Sooo, I have found that I hold my expectations lightly. Of course, like anyone, I'm disappointed when a plan falls through, but hey, it's okay, there's another day to play. At least I try to let it go and move on. Sometimes I'm the one who can't make the plan happen! Smell that
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Age -- myth and reality
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Posted:Mar 17, 2017 4:02 am
Last Updated:Apr 19, 2024 1:39 pm
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I'm hornier at 72 than I was at 27. I got hard fast and often at 27 and loved sex. Really, though, I was too busy to engage in it as often as I wanted. Plus I believed it was all wrong to be queer, bisexual--whatever you want to call it, if you want to call "it" anything. I don't. I don't like labels. I like labia, tits, clits and yup labia and pussies, f and m. Too much NO NO NO and not enough guidance in the ethics of pleasure. So I let work and family and culture DICKtate sexual function. I was flush with a cultural circle that was as tight as a toilet hole. Age has broken down rigid social frameworks and metaphysical binders and allowed in the light and fresh air of a new regard for pleasure. Same bubbly joy of being sexual as ever but without the social corks (repressive strictures) to squelch the fizz, the physicality of mutual pleasure. Instead age slows function, not passion. A slower function is NOT an absence of interest. Far from it. Just need more non-anxious presence in the present moment. Woohoo! Cum join me
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Ethics of Pleasure
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Posted:Feb 18, 2017 2:30 am
Last Updated:Apr 19, 2024 1:39 pm
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A masseur I especially enjoy uses his whole body to massage mine. He's 20 something, great personality, avid athlete , awesome body, sometimes wears shorts, open to my touching him as he touches me, AND AFFORDABLE!!! It only works because I have no insistent expectations and we like each other as well. I don't ask for sexual favors or compromise his dignity or good nature. Yesterday he told me he's studying ethics in an online course. To me ethics is an illustration of character. Whatever we think of ourselves comes out in how we treat others.. If pleasure is really important to us, as it is to me, then I feel obligated to respect the other person as much as I expect the other person to respect me.
I think of pleasure this way, with someone I enjoy and who appears to enjoy me: "I want you to want what I want, but if you don't, that's okay". In other words pleasure is not all about me, me, me, but about a kind of flow between us, us, us.
Coercion is not cool. Seduction with no intent to honor the other is not cool. The tricky and complex thing is that our hard wiring for sex IS in fact often insistent and terrifically powerful. That's what makes this ethics challenging. That's a good reason for learning about our sexual desires, their diversity and how best to satisfy them without abusing others. Pleasure is as possible as it is desirable, but not so easy as it sounds. Any thoughts?
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Naked honesty and pleasure
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Posted:Feb 6, 2017 2:26 am
Last Updated:Apr 23, 2017 1:21 pm
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Love to be naked as much as possible. Honestly, honesty sometimes sucks. And licks and kisses and caresses and smiles. Pleasure, however, is a gift we can keep on giving and receiving with others. Some want sexclusivity. I want friendship, an easy exchange of affection. Affection trumps affectation every time Pleasure can be intense, athletic even, but ceases to be pleasure when expectations get too insistent. Easy does it. Flow with the go. Health is wealth. This site offers opportunity for mixing nakedness, honesty and pleasure without being shamed with repressive taboos or taking unhealthy risks. Even if we can't meet up we can correspond and be friends. Women and men. Think of all the pleasurable combinations{=}! Honestly!
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In the bleak mid-winter
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Posted:Jan 17, 2017 3:08 am
Last Updated:Apr 19, 2024 1:39 pm
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It's only bleak without the warmth of affection, the hugs and kisses, the slip and slide of mutual pleasure. There are so many points of pleasure: nipples, clits drive me wild. Precum and wet juices; the taste of them, the scent of ecstasy. I often wonder what it would be like to get acquainted by being together in pleasant conversation about passion and lust. Removing our clothes and touching ourselves across from one another, revealing the swellings, the breathing, the smiles, the yearning for mutual pleasure against the backdrop of initial restraint. Perhaps it would lead to physical connection and maybe the exposure of our own self regard would be enough. Would it be too much? What do you think?
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Celebrating our differences
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Posted:Dec 18, 2016 2:28 am
Last Updated:Apr 19, 2024 1:39 pm
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I've been a member of FriendFinder-x for years now and have met awesome men, women, and Ts here. Mostly we've corresponded, tons of views and flirts, and once in awhile actually getting together. So many people have had so much more sexperience than I've had but many are just looking as well, hoping for honesty and candor in conversation and potential relationship. It's never too late to explore the playground of our emotions, lusts, desires, bodies and spirit. We're all bodies--can't get away from those functions and changes that define our nakedness. We all seek genuine affection, respect, worth--at least I believe we do. If we're lucky we find our matches and meet up. I just find it fascinating that we are so different and also have so much in common. We want to be who we are but we also want YOU and YOU and YOU. Fabulous! Hope all of you have wonderful, magical, special holidays! There are so many differences we can celebrate {=}
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Pleasure Health and Happiness
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Posted:Dec 2, 2016 5:09 am
Last Updated:Apr 19, 2024 1:39 pm
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Age hasn't erased the link between pleasure and happiness. I love oral pleasures, touch and taste and scent of fresh bodies lovingly cared for. Massage is such a friendly and comforting intro to even more pleasure when mutually desired. Even the touch alone is satisfying. Oh for the satisfaction of skin hunger to be touched and treasured even for a few moments. Heavenly. I like this site because it pursues pleasure in a world too obsessed with nastiness. Money may make the world go around but pleasure makes it worth going around
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Loneliness Comfort Friendship
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Posted:Dec 1, 2016 3:28 am
Last Updated:Apr 19, 2024 1:39 pm
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I wonder if you agree: a lot of us on FriendFinder-x and other similar sites are lonely for the kind of comfort and friendship that is more than sexual release but less than full strings attached commitment. Perhaps like me you are committed to a partner whose health prevents sexual intimacy any more. You give comfort and help as best you can. You don't want to hurt your partner who may not be at all open your sexual needs/wants. But what do you do? Shut down your passion? That doesn't work for me. Live with debilitating depression with medication maybe? I don't like side effects of meds. Watch porn? It helps me. Correspond with any willing correspondent? Yes, indeed. Jerk off? You bet. Sublimate? A whole lot.
My sexual passion is central to my self understanding and joy in living. I am fit, clean, healthy, exercise regularly, eat well, play Bach Goldberg Variations, work on the Rachmaninoff 3rd piano concerto cadenza first movement, still learn new music, read, correspond a lot, give and receive massages whenever possible. Perhaps that's all there is. But a friend with benefits would be great as long as it was mutually satisfying. What do you think? What do you do?
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Gratitude for views and correspondence
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Posted:Nov 21, 2016 5:53 am
Last Updated:Apr 19, 2024 1:39 pm
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I feel so lucky to have so many views and flirts and hotlists and yes, correspondence too. I look forward to seeing everybody and love correspondence/chatting as well. It would be so nice to touch and feel and enjoy one another where the feelings we were mutual and we were close enough to get together. Meanwhile I look forward to seeing adult friends online and wish you all health and happiness. Ian
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Lust and love
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Posted:Nov 11, 2016 3:02 am
Last Updated:Aug 6, 2017 2:55 am
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Lust is such a part of our makeup. Love makes us human. Love is all about mutuality and sharing and caring. Lust is about exercise and building and releasing tension. At least that's how I see lust and love. Some of us are so lofty in love we see lust as a conflict, a threat to be repressed or restricted. Religion is good at splitting off love from lust. I think the two could help each other live a happy and healthy life. We're all differently endowed emotionally and physically. This site helps us to acknowledge our lust. Some of us, me for instance, would like to explore with a woman and/or a man the pleasure of lust with respect to the thoughtfulness of love.
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Scent and taste of sex
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Posted:Nov 7, 2016 1:39 am
Last Updated:Apr 19, 2024 1:39 pm
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Nothing more intimate physically than exchanging microbes from mouth, sweat, pussy. Such interesting tastes and smells. I like it when it's all fresh and ready to eat and drink. I don't eat off dirty dishes and feel the same way about pleasuring. I keep my "dishes" clean and fresh. I love kissing and licking nipples and feeling a nice breast in my mouth. I love a woman's ecstasy, escape from the rough and tumble of existence. A long moment of intimate sharing scents and tastes is bliss. {=}
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