The Endorphin Levels in BDSM
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Posted:Aug 15, 2018 5:26 am
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Terry on October 10, 2014 — BDSM
Disclaimer: The author is not a medical doctor, though this information has been checked with a doctor and two nurses who are in the BDSM scene. Frisky Business Boutique assumes no responsibility for people who use this information or for the effects that may arise from the application of the information presented in this article.
Although everyone into the BDSM scene has heard of endorphins, very few people really understand what they are, how they work, what the “endorphin high” is all about, and how one can correctly induce the body to produce them. This short primer will answer those questions, and serve as a guide for anyone topping another so that they may successfully send their bottom into a very deep endorphin stupor (also known as “leaving them in a big puddle of quivering ecstasy”).
The endorphin high is caused by a bunch of natural, morphine-like chemicals the body pumps into the brain to reduce a person’s sensitivity to pain and raising the pain threshold. The fact that the body seems to release these endorphins in measured “loads” is a key to understanding how to manipulate the body to produce these loads and release them into the body and brain region when the load is ready.
Another chemical, adrenaline, is also produced by the body in reaction to pain, and its behavior should be understood also. This is covered later more thoroughly in the section on aftercare, which is a very essential element in guaranteeing the success of the effort.
The endorphin loads release in their entirety, and it takes the body about ten minutes to generate another one. After the body releases a load into the system, it needs at least ten minutes of some sort of stimulation before it will be ready to release another one. This stimulation can be just about anything – sensation play, light paddling, flogging, or light caning, for example – and it does not have to be nearly the intensity of the stimulation that caused the release of the last endorphin load.
Once prepared, an increase in stimulation over a five-minute span up to a measured “climax” will trigger the body to release the freshly-prepared load, based upon the submissive’s current pain threshold, measured to push them over a new edge.
Armed with this information, what does a session look like from the top’s and bottom’s points of view?
When a scene first starts, there are no endorphins in the submissive and even fairly light torment is very stingy, ouchy, and, well, painful! Fortunately, the body keeps an endorphin reserve in place ready to release in case of an emergency. This reserve endorphin load is released after just a few minutes of even relatively mild stimulation building to a mild climax, and suddenly the pain threshold clearly rises. Now, the subject can easily tolerate what may have been pushing the limits before, making him jump around and squirm, for instance. This new, more pain-tolerant state is Level One. There is no altered state of consciousness yet, but there is an increased pain threshold.
Once this has happened, for the top the next 10 minutes is spent doing anything that provides relatively light but constant stimulation to induce the bottom’s body to create the next endorphin load for release. This is a good time for sensation play, light paddling, flogging, or whipping. This is a chance for the top to relax, since the stimulation can be very mild and easy to apply during this time.
Once the ten minutes has passed, a build in intensity over a subsequent five-minute period will excite the body to a peak, and a sudden 10 to 15 seconds of intense stimulation just beyond the person’s current pain threshold limit will trigger the body to eject its freshly-made endorphin load into the bloodstream. Now the bottom will be at Level Two, with still no perceivable altered state of consciousness (beyond panting in relief that you, the top, have ceased with the intense bit), but there is a considerable and noticeable leap in pain threshold now.
Following this, another ten minutes of mild, easy stimulation provokes the body into generating the next load. Keep this well below the pain threshold you’ve now created, with just a little intense whack every so often, about a minute apart. This will keep the adrenaline build-up to a minimum, for reasons explained later on. Time to relax, tops; rest that arm and wrist a bit! This relaxing ten minutes is followed with five minutes of building the intensity again to well above the previous level. The bottom’s pain threshold is pretty high now and he can take a lot more before the body interprets this as being “in crisis” and triggers the next endorphin release. Finish off with 10 seconds to a minute of a very intense, over-the-edge push, and the body will inject that next load.
Now at Level Three, the bottom will definitely feel a little bit woozy, exhibiting a mildly-drugged state. His eyelids should appear droopy, and he will fall into a more relaxed condition than before, more low moans and groans, and lower inhibitions. Again, applying ten minutes of any relatively mild stimulation followed by a five-minute build and a 10- to 15-second intense climax well beyond the previous one will release the next endorphin load and push the bottom into a very nice Level Four head space.
At this Level Four state, there is a very definite altered state of consciousness. The bottom will feel drugged and will be very compliant and submissive now. This is countered, however, by the largest charges of adrenaline he has received so far, the result of the intense climax just used to push him over this edge. The bottom is still quite communicative and his reaction time is still quick. The bottom may even be hypersensitive: a small whack with a paddle, cane, or whip can now generate a huge amount of twitching or jerking of the subject’s body. Now, during the ten minute “treading water” period for the top, the moans and groans will be longer and deeper, the body often limp in its restraints, and the reactions to the occasional harder strikes will be obvious. This is the top’s finest time: she can still relax and not exert herself very hard, yet produce fine moans of ecstasy from her bottom with hardly any provocation! The pain threshold is high even though the reaction time is increased from the adrenaline. Harder occasional strikes are welcomed, and the reactions are certainly encouraging!
Sexual play with the bottom should occur around Level Three or Four. After after hitting Level Five, the bottom may be unable to concentrate for long on what he is doing. That can result in passionate and inhibition-free indulgence, resulting in heights of ecstasy never before experienced, or the bottom can lose his erection and be unable to concentrate. There’s no telling which way the bottom will go once he achieves Level Five or Six.
After this ten minute endorphin replenishment period, it is important to be very sensitive to the limit levels crossed earlier, as the top begins that five-minute build in intensity that will end in the most intense limit-pushing the top might do with the bottom for this session (presuming the top stops at Level Five). The bottom will have a very high pain threshold at this time, but also will be fairly groggy and less able to communicate a safe word. In fact, the bottom will now be so compliant that it is very unlikely that he would use it even if he ought to do so! So, push this “grand finale” with finesse and sensitivity to what is going on with the bottom! At the other end of the 10- to 30- second climactic build in intensity – in a wonderful blast – this latest endorphin load will push the bottom into Level Five: a state of supreme ecstasy, docility, and the bottom’s ability to take just about anything the top could do to him. The bottom will become very limp and relaxed very suddenly – and be very clearly in an altered state of consciousness.
This is the point most people end the scene and remove the bottom to cloak him in a blanket and begin the all-important aftercare, and unless the top knows the bottom extremely well, this is where the session should end. However, for those who do know the bottom’s limits, the rules and timing are the same as with the earlier segments. Now, the “mild” stimulation could be fairly intense, and the bottom will become extremely submissive and accepting of any amount of stimulation the top bestows upon him. This is a dangerous condition because there is NO WAY a person will utter a safe word in this condition. The bottom can barely talk at all! It is best to keep the stimulation relatively intense but not too extreme. The stronger intensity will hold up the adrenaline levels, and the combination with the elevated endorphins levels creates a condition of intense excitement and of simultaneously intense ecstatic relaxation for the bottom, so he’ll be into receiving whatever is being doled out. (More on adrenaline in a minute, though!) Again, finish off after the ten minutes with a building in intensity to one beyond that reached earlier, with a 10- to 15-second extreme point, and the next endorphin load will be released. Now we have brought the bottom to a very amazing Level Six! Again, this should only be attempted with a bottom whose limits and abilities are already very well known. The top is working without the benefit of safe words being utterable; care must be exercised this whole while.
The bottom’s behavior can become unpredictable at this point with all the adrenaline and endorphins coursing through the body. Be prepared to restrain against some wild thrashing and arm flailing (or at least be out of harm’s way). The bottom is in such an intensely altered state of consciousness that his reactions could possibly be extremely primitive in nature. He may only be capable of animal-like noises and very little speech. Following this reasoning, approach the subject as you would a wild animal: very gently, speak soothingly, and gesture in a calming manner. Be prepared for sudden jerking, or attempts to get away. Don’t take the erratic behavior personally! At Level Six, this person is totally ga-ga! Be assured, the bottom is enjoying every millisecond of this experience, and a very long period of dreaminess is now in store for him if the aftercare is handled properly.
Why do I go on and on about the aftercare? The work of putting endorphins into the subject’s body is finished, right? Well, yes, but you have also succeeded in putting very, very large amounts of adrenaline into the bottom’s system, and adrenaline is tricky stuff. Even at Level Four, aftercare is important because of how quickly adrenaline burns off compared to endorphins, which burn off very slowly. At Level Five or Level Six, there is enough adrenaline in the body that it will take at least 10 to 20 minutes for it to burn off (or longer). During this time, the bottom is likely to experience a number of adrenaline crashes (similar to coffee jags). Some of these can be intense and even quite frightening. The bottom will need to be kept warm and be held and comforted AT LEAST throughout this period of adrenaline burn-off. My opinion is that if you don’t care enough for the bottom to cuddle and caress them for up to half an hour, you probably shouldn’t be taking them to any Level Six endorphin/adrenaline levels.
The adrenaline “crash” experience for the bottom is something many, many tops are unaware of, and they have no concept of the amount of harm they could be doing to someone’s psychological state by not performing adequate, comforting aftercare. All the bottom needs now is to be held and to hold you (or whoever you assign to perform aftercare), to be comforted by your presence, and to be allowed to make you become the entire focus of their awareness. No stroking, or massage, or other stimulus is needed or even desirable at this time. What is important is to keep in contact with the bottom (not requiring words as responses, merely nods), and instruct the bottom every little while to relax. The adrenaline will have him in a very agitated state – with high heart beat and breathing levels – and this situation is completely counter to the endorphin experience. Sure, the bottom has a ton of endorphins in his system, but the adrenaline is presently holding the endorphins off and the bottom isn’t experiencing their full effect. The top’s guidance is extremely important to help the bottom relax through the adrenaline burn-off period.
If not actually “talked down” out of the adrenaline agitation, the bottom could easily never allow himself to relax enough to even feel the massive content of endorphins that currently exist in his system! Maybe you’ve seen a bottom who – after an hour of intense stimulation to the point of near-total collapse on the cross or bench – is released and after a mere couple of minutes is mingling with people as if nothing ever happened. These people are floating on a self-sustained adrenaline buzz. This is not only unhealthy, but these bottoms are also cheating themselves out of a long, long stretch of total endorphin-induced ecstasy!
Aftercare Instructions
While gently holding the bottom and letting him hold you back, coo softly and comfort him, and tell him to let himself relax. You will feel him do so as he complies to your wishes, as he is quite docile and open to receiving instructions at this point. But he will also slowly tense up again from the adrenaline. Keep reminding him to relax, telling him to give himself permission to relax totally.
As the bottom begins to relax after a while, he may experience a frightening “falling off a cliff” feeling that makes him tense again, or “blackness” as the endorphins relax the bottom’s optic nerve. This is a side effect of the chemicals burning off. The top’s job is to reassure the bottom that these experiences are completely normal, to let go and pass through it. The bottom has to relax through the sensation of falling or blackness with the understanding that this is quite normal and is a common experience. Once he does that, having “relaxed through it,” he will be “in it” after that point, and will relax deeply, often seeing beautiful technicolor visions and dreamlike landscapes, spaces, and places. How sweet!
Once this happens, your bottom needs only a little more loving attention, and can then be left bundled in a blanket somewhere on their own to float in a happy bubble, very possibly for hours!
“Flying”
There is another factor that can produce an altered state of consciousness far, far beyond even that of the most extreme endorphin experience. This is experienced by submissives whose intense focus upon their Master or Mistress (their Dominant) – and upon pleasing them – eventually leads to a hallucinogenic kind of altered state known commonly in the BDSM community as “flying.” This word has an almost mythological aura in the scene for very good reasons! It is probably the most profound experience one can have as a submissive. It involves a state of intense devotion towards the dominant (who is not just a mere “top” at this point) that borders upon religious worship, with complete trust and a total commitment to please and satisfy the Dom thoroughly. Through the attainment of a complete selflessness and focus on the dominant, a transformation takes place that is very, very deep, almost trance-like. It can become so profound as to produce an extended, blissful hallucinogenic state. Many have reported even seeing visions under the spell of this “flying” effect. All have attested to the profound sense of peace and bliss they have experienced while even near the edge of this state.
This flying state can be attained by some with very little endorphin content in their systems. (Some claim no endorphins are required, but I’m quite certain most folks have attained at least a level Three or Level Four endorphin high in order to trigger the total release of inhibitions that this psychological state seems to require, at least generally speaking.) With practice, the release into this “flying” submissive-space should come easier and easier, eventually with even a mere suggestion triggering the effect for some with very little or even no endorphin content being in the picture. COMBINED with the Level Five or Six endorphin head space, there likely can be no deeper state of ecstasy possible for the bottom — short of total enlightenment! Until such an experience of full enlightenment can be accomplished, perhaps the attainment of this interim bliss is acceptable, and certainly should be considered an attractive and enjoyable state to be in! The secret ingredients are: intense focus; a commitment to please the dominant utterly; and, complete and total devotion. These ingredients – with some endorphins in the mix – should produce a quite satisfying effect for both the submissive and the dominant.
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Correlated With Better Mental Health, Says Study
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Posted:Aug 15, 2018 5:19 am
Last Updated:Apr 30, 2024 5:49 am
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By Emma Gray
People who are into kinky sex may be psychologically healthier than those who are not, says a new study. Researchers found that people who were involved in BDSM — bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism — scored better on certain indicators of mental health than those who did not bring kink into the bedroom, reported LiveScience.
The study, which was published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in May, surveyed 902 people who practice BDSM and 434 people who prefer so-called “vanilla” (non-kinky) sex. Each person filled out questionnaires regarding their personalities, general well-being, sensitivity to rejection and style of attachment in relationships. The participants were not aware of the purpose of the study.
Despite past assumptions that BDSM proclivities might be correlated with previous abuse, forced sex or mental disorders (research has shown that they’re not), this survey found that kinky people actually scored better on many indicators of mental health than those who didn’t practice BDSM, reported LiveScience. According to Reuters, BDSM-friendly participants were found to be less neurotic, more open, more aware of and sensitive to rejection, more secure in their relationships and have better overall well-being.
Andreas Wismeijer, a psychologist at Nyenrode Business University in the Netherlands and the lead author on the study, told LiveScience that people involved in the BDSM community may have scored better on these surveys because they tend to be more aware of and communicative about their sexual desires, or because they have done some “hard psychological work” to accept and live with sexual needs that are beyond the scope of what is often considered socially acceptable to discuss in the mainstream.
This research isn’t necessarily representative of the general population since participants were selected on a volunteer basis, but it does support the argument for removing BDSM from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). In the current DSM, BDSM fetishes are listed as “paraphilia,” which essentially encompasses any “unusual” sexual preferences.
Fetish communities have argued for years that harmless sexual tastes should not be listed next to mental disorders. Perhaps this research will help bolster their case.
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BDSM Correlated With Better Mental Health, Says Study
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Posted:Aug 15, 2018 5:12 am
Last Updated:Aug 15, 2018 5:21 am
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By Emma Gray
People who are into kinky sex may be psychologically healthier than those who are not, says a new study. Researchers found that people who were involved in BDSM — bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism — scored better on certain indicators of mental health than those who did not bring kink into the bedroom, reported LiveScience.
The study, which was published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in May, surveyed 902 people who practice BDSM and 434 people who prefer so-called “vanilla” (non-kinky) sex. Each person filled out questionnaires regarding their personalities, general well-being, sensitivity to rejection and style of attachment in relationships. The participants were not aware of the purpose of the study.
Despite past assumptions that BDSM proclivities might be correlated with previous abuse, forced sex or mental disorders (research has shown that they’re not), this survey found that kinky people actually scored better on many indicators of mental health than those who didn’t practice BDSM, reported LiveScience. According to Reuters, BDSM-friendly participants were found to be less neurotic, more open, more aware of and sensitive to rejection, more secure in their relationships and have better overall well-being.
Andreas Wismeijer, a psychologist at Nyenrode Business University in the Netherlands and the lead author on the study, told LiveScience that people involved in the BDSM community may have scored better on these surveys because they tend to be more aware of and communicative about their sexual desires, or because they have done some “hard psychological work” to accept and live with sexual needs that are beyond the scope of what is often considered socially acceptable to discuss in the mainstream.
This research isn’t necessarily representative of the general population since participants were selected on a volunteer basis, but it does support the argument for removing BDSM from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). In the current DSM, BDSM fetishes are listed as “paraphilia,” which essentially encompasses any “unusual” sexual preferences.
Fetish communities have argued for years that harmless sexual tastes should not be listed next to mental disorders. Perhaps this research will help bolster their case.
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A Masters Creed
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Posted:Mar 7, 2018 5:44 pm
Last Updated:Aug 13, 2018 5:31 pm
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I am a dominant man. I am just that. I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part. Not because I feel I am more intelligent, or wiser. I am not dominant because of the strength or mass of my body. I am not, nor would I want to be dominant with all women. Yet to you, I am Master.
I am your Master only after earning your trust and I embrace your submissiveness. I have looked into your heart and mind and clearly see your desires and passions. You have thrown away your fears and inhibitions. You tell me of the needs of your heart and body. You have given me total access to your soul, and I accept the responsibility and honor.
You are a woman. You are not weak or inferior because of it. You are a treasure to be cherished. We are not equal. I have the strength of body and mind and the instinctive need to protect, possess, defend and provide for you. You are a woman and instinctively stronger of will and heart. Your belief in me gives me courage and direction. Your strength disperses my doubt. Your needs and desires encourage and give purpose to my efforts.
We are not equal. We are halves of a whole. We compliment each other and make each other complete. My desire to dominate you is instinctive. It is not to degrade you nor is it degrading to you because you are secure in being totally feminine. We each recognize and accept our worth, and our need for someone to trust and fulfill our needs.
You are sure, strong and proud in your womanhood. You do not submit as acceptance of inferiority, but from strength and passion. You expect a man to stand strong and be a man. You desire and flourish in the strength and control of a man. In return you present control of your body, unqualified trust and honesty, and the faithfulness of your heart. You submit because I have earned your trust. Because I have opened my heart and soul to you. Because I have listened to your words with my ears and heart and have learned to anticipate your needs and emotions. And because I have proven worthy in your eyes, you have given me the only true treasure of life; you have given me dominance over you.
What you give is not abnormal, but pure, natural and the rarest gift a woman could give a man. You have given me complete and unshakable assurance of your commitment to me. Your submissiveness is a magnificent gift and sacred responsibility. I accept this from you with humility and joy. I understand the rarity and purity of this gift. I recognize it is your body and soul, your heart and mind. I dominate you only because you have allowed it. I dominate only because you have allowed me to and when I see your body kneel before me, in my mind and heart you are raised above all other woman, and all the treasures of the earth. What you give freely can not in reality be bought.
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Deceptive Authority
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Posted:Mar 7, 2018 5:17 pm
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Journal Entry Friday 22 July, 2011
This one's gonna hurt a few people but the purpose and intention is to open some eyes and perhaps allow some so-called Master's to think about what they are doing and allow slaves to tell the difference between a true Master and a self-proclaimed Master.
I cannot take credit for the title of this article. I borrowed it from a conversation I had with a slave. I was discussing the condition of Masters on the Internet and the slave is the one who coined the phrase deceptive auhtority. It was the slave's way of describing the type of authority that many of the so-called Masters who advertise on the Internet. In the slave's view he had met many Masters that appeared to play the part of a Master. These men pick up cues from the Internet and use them to lure unsuspecting slaves into being collared by them. These men are not prepared, nor do they know how, to use authroity and instead end up abusing the authority that comes with the title of Master.
Many slaves are already willing to follow any man who calls himself a Master. However, many inexperienced slaves become prey to these self-proclaimed Masters. In many instances these slaves end up being abused (and not in a good way). There seems to be an increasing trend to this phenomenon. Not that there have not been those who prey on the unsuspecting or the inexperienced; that will always happen. However, it seems that more and more slaves report that they are led astray by men calling themselves Masters who use and abuse a slave's life to their own end and then throw the slave away when they are done with them.
My use of the word "deceptive" is specifically intended. The word deceptive means one who has the power to mislead. Many so-called Masters and slaves become adept as using catch phrases that are commonly used on the Internet. Men calling themselves Masters on various sites use common words and phrases along with alluring images to attract a slave. I would like to make something clear. It is not My intention to point the finger solely at the Masters. I have had My share of being lured in by people posing as slaves who are merely desperate to find a successful Man in hopes of finding some security in life. What these people really need is some sort of sugar Daddy not a Master. However, since the word deceptive refers to the one who has the power to be misleading...that would identify the Master since He is the one with the power to mislead. However, using deception ultimately gives anyone using it the power to mislead. It just so happens that in the context of the Master/slave relationship it is usually the Master who weilds the most of the power.
As I have mentioned in other parts of this web site; use of the word Master connotes* the idea of a person who possesses a mastery of something such as art or of some technique or a person that has developed a consumate skill in something. IF a man is going to use the term Master in reference to himself within the context of the BDSM or Master/slave lifestyle...then what exactly is he a Master of? A slave? Some bondage technique? Anyone using the term master generally is not one by self proclomation. So how is the man that refers to himself as a Master in actuality a true Master?
Who Sets The Standard For What a Master Is or Is Not?
If it were so easy and universally accepted then anyone coould refer to themselves as a Master. Throughout human history it has only been those very few individuals who are referred to as a Master. It is society or a persons peers that confer that title on the individual...not the individual themselves. So that raises the question, or should raise a question within the true slave's mind. Who confers the title of Master; what group of a man's peers are in agreement that the man who claims to be a Master actually is a Master? Well, what makes a Master anyway? Who sets the standards for who is qualifies to enjoy that title?
Without the social network that used to exist when Masters and slaves met in bars or other venues there is no actual way for a Master to be in fact accepted and regarded by His peers as a Master. The same holds true for the slave. Social customs change all the time. Sine the advent of the Internet many of the customery social settings that Masters and slaves have disappeared. Not that there are not any real Masters on the Internet, but how does one determine whether a man claiming to be a Master actually IS a Master?
What criteria defines whether a Master is qualified to use that term? Most men who populate Internet sites pandering to the Master/slave lifestyle believe (or are lead to believe) that they have to confer the title of Master upon themselves in order to describe who they are and what there interests are; which is generally just a Dom. If a slave desires to commit himself to a Master how does the slave determine which Men calling themselves Master actually are a Master? While the answer to that question may appear to be difficult it is actually quite simple to describe.
Since there is no specific way to confer the title of Master onto a man who exhibits dominant charactersitics other than self-proclomation there must be some other defining criteria that can be used. Well, let's examine that and begin with the word itself. A Master; that has already defined as a person who "has developed a consumate skill in something", should be easily identifiable by his skill at Mastering or Mastery. What exactly is the skill of Mastery. Well, in this context is that He would be a Master of lives considering that His skill is directed toward Mastering the life of another individual--the slave.
How does a slave determine if a man calling himself a Master is in fact qualified to Master over a slave's life? The answer to that question would be that the Master's own life is evidence. In other words, the Master has Mastered His own life. Certainly a Man would have to at the very least be successful at Mastering His own life before taking on the responsibility of a slave's life. That seems logical enough. So the answer to the question posited in the sub-title "Who Sets The Standard For What a Master Is or Is Not?" is the Master Himself sets the standards and that standard is that His own life is evidence that He has Mastered His own life. But what does that mean, exactly?
Mastering one's own life would mean that a person would have personal mastery or self mastery which means possessing full command or complete control of one's life. It's not only in the possession of certain skills or knowledge but a comprehensive understanding of one's individuality and knowing how to respond to situations based on personal values and principles. Just like any other skills, understanding self takes time. But once you gain the knowledge and expertise, you'll become more experienced and wiser. Once you have control or a grip, you will find it easy to maneuver through life and solve issues. You will also have a considerable amount of self esteem and self confidence and usually make a good leader.
Characteristics of a True Master
A true Master, a Man who exhibits that they have a handle on their own lives before they can claim to know how to handle the life of a slave should:
Self awareness: A Master should, at some level, be able to demonstrate that He has a sense of awareness of His own thoughts and emotions. He needs to understand that having dominance over them will affect His actions, behaviors and attitudes positively.
Self Discipline: Knowing something is insufficient for personal mastery to take place. A Master must take action immediately and impose self discipline to continuously develop the habits of "right thinking" and feeling in connection with His skills at Mastering not only Himself but His slave(s) as well. Disciplining Himself in order to gather the knowledge, learn and practice the skills of mastery over His own life will make Him affective at Mastering the life of a slave. It takes self control to change and leave behind something that is hindering His personal growth and success. When He disciplines Himself to practice the skills and develop good habits consistently, He is moving Himself toward mastery.
Has a clear vision of what He wants to achieve: Having a clear vision allows a Master to continue finding workable plans and move forward. The clarity of what He wishes to achieve overcomes His fears and procrastination. It enables Him to persist. It takes courage to conquer the life challenging moments as He works Himself to mastering His own life. A Master cam clearly decide on His personal standards and values that He lives with. He demonstrates that He takes charge of His own life when He has clarity on what He is willing to do or not to do and how He wants His life to turn out.
He knows that He can choose what He wants to experience: Life gives you choices to either stay in bed or go out and make a place for yourself. He can continue to let others dictate His life or make His own decisions of how and with whom He wants to spend it. He can take a different point of view about how people and life are treating Him. He can decide instead to see Himself as the person who is responsible for the change and to define His own destiny.
Is able to commit to Himself and learn to trust: A Master needs to be able to commit to Himsflf and to take charge of His emotions and thoughts. He demostrates that He is decisive in order to advance and gain power to Master His relationships, finances and health. He is able to take the effort to learn, practice and discipline Himself to follow through regardless of how others think of Him or the past disappointments. It takes commitment to gain personal mastery for development and growth. The true Master trusts that He can do it and accept that it is a process that takes time but will bear the benefits equivalent to what He puts into His life.
Demonstrates Flexibility : As a Man capable of Mastering His own life He understands that slaves are not manufactured in some plant in Detroit. In other words every slave brings dixperiences; talents and abilities. He also has the capacity to understand that a slave brings various different types of social and familial customs with them. A Master is flexible enough to observe His slaves and learn from them what He does not know. In many ways slaves can teach their Masters many things. However, if the Master is shut off from seeing value in His slaves due to an over amplified ego, then His autority will never amount to anything.
Does Not Appear to be Egotistical : On the one hand it is true that many Masters, especially in the Leather and BDSM communities, exhibit strong dominant charictersitics which can be fed by a strong ego. However, a true Master understands that an uncontrolled ego will create many problems for Him. If a Master is egotistical how will He manage His slaves when they show sign of egotism? It is the Master's responsibility to be a model for His slaves. Many slaves say that they enjoy a Master that is egotistical, but I have had enough experience to know that it may be fun for a while but it gets old fast. An egotistical Master can wear a slave out and ruin the slave for a lifetime. Of course the opposite is also true. An overly egotistical slave can burn out a Master and make life miserable not only for himself but His Master as well.
Food for thought.
Intuition: It is important that a Master have a realatively good sense of intuition. Without it a Master is lost is a sea of emotions and misunderstandings. He must demonstrate that He has the ability to listen and a keen sense of observation where His slaves lives are concerned. An intuitive Master will make life for Himself and a slave much easier. Having foresight and the ability to act on His intuition goes a long way in settling disputes or misunderstandings before they begin or come to a head.
Using these simple guidelines a slave will find it a little easier to identify a true Master. Just a word of warning...as far as I know Adam didn't have any brothers. A slave must keep in mind that the points above are a guidleine. No one Master will ever attain perfection in all of these areas. However, a slave might be able to identify "some" of the characteristics of a true Master.
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128 Rules for a female slave
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Posted:Mar 7, 2018 11:55 am
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Jonathan Kaye
1. i will serve, obey and please my Master.
2. Above all else my primary focus shall be to please my Master, hoping that He finds me pleasing in all that I do, whether i am in His presence or not. my Master knows of my potential, learning more about me in each day i am with Him. He trusts that i will act in accordance with what He perceives of my potential - He knows what is best for me and how important it is that i set a good example for other females who may be present around me.
3. i worship my Master.
4. i worship my Master's body.
5. The power of my Master fills me with awe. Just the sheer thought of Him or the hearing of His voice gives me strength.
6. To receive pleasure i must earn it.
7. i worship my Master's whip.
8. i trust my Master: His responsibilities, His skills, His hunger and needs, and His concern for my safety, my emotional, psychological, social, sexual, and physical health.
9. i am nothing more than an object of great value - an instrument Master will use to draw out His pleasures.
10. i will ask my Master for permission to satisfy whatever need i have before acting on it.
11. this body, mind and soul are the property of my Master.
12. i must always give thanks to my Master for all i am given immediately after receiving what He has given me, for such things are gifts or privileges granted to me by Him.
13. i must be both specific and explicit in my speech.
14. i will not hesitate when responding to my Master. my focus is important to my growth.
15. i will thank my Master for the discipline and punishments i receive, v specifying what i received and expressing the reason as to why i was given them.
16. i have no will of my own other than that which falls within the context of the rules and of that which is needed to pursue the ambitions i am allowed to seek out according to the permissions i have received from my Master. i will report to Him my progress in such matters to receive His favor or His guidance in making whatever steps may be required to move ahead so that i am successful.
17. i am always in submission to my Master whether He is present or not, ready to please Him at anytime, in any place, under any circumstances, regardless of who may be present. For the opportunity to submit and to please is by far more important and satisfying than any other pursuit. i trust my Master will keep me safe, protecting His reputation and mine in the presence of others, as He examines my ability to present myself to Him and to others in a subtle manner when required to protect our lifestyle from those who may not understand, nor support, as long as our behavior is not in anyway misrepresented nor misinterpreted by those who may be afar. i am to set, once again, a good example, ready to explain my position to others when required to do so. my lifestyle is a part of a growing culture for which i must never forget that i am an integral part.
18. All my choices shall be based upon whether or not they will please my Master.
19. When i am not in the presence of my Master and i have choices to make - i will perform them to the best of my abilities and within the boundaries and guidance He has allowed me.
20. i shall wear the collar my Master gives me with pride for it signifies His ownership of me and my devotion to Him.
21. i shall wear the chains my Master gives me as a symbol of my position in life - that of bondage to Him. i shall wear them, as required, around my neck, my wrists, my ankles or around my waist.
22. When i am ready - i shall wear His brand and his rings to signify my submission to Him – marked on inner thigh very near my pussy. Master may decorate me with as many rings as He sees fit. I shall not question His judgment, even knowing as I do that they are temporary.
23. my mouth shall only be referred to as a cunt for it will often be used as if it were a pussy.
24. my sex shall only be referred to as a lower cunt.
25. When the cock of my Master is put into my cunt and i am directed to suck it - i will do so vigorously as long as i am required to do so. my hands shall be placed on the tops of my thighs, behind my neck or held at the base of my back so that during the sucking i can use my whole body to display my hunger to my Master.
26. my Master's cum must never go to waste - i will swallow all of it when Master cums into my cunt (and be punished should I spill any of it from my lips), licking it up if Master cums into my hands or into a plate i hold in front of Him to receive it, or onto the food He gives me which He may require of me to hold just under His cock as He ejaculates over it. i will clean His cock thoroughly squeezing out every last drop. In rare and privileged cases i may wear my Master's cum on my body, sometimes after massaging it into my skin. Cum is a gift from my Master and it is an honor to receive it. The eating of my Master's cum will be counted as one of my meals for that day.
27. i worship my Master's cock, its head and its shaft, especially when it is hard or when i am given the opportunity to make it hard for Him.
28. i will worship my Master's ass only after a thorough washing of it. i shall do so hungrily, being sure to lick between the cheeks for as long as Master requires me to do so. i will use my hands to spread my Master's cheeks apart.
29. i will never look into the eyes of my Master without his permission. To do so would be inappropriate of my position, and doing so could be interpreted by Him that i am seeking His attention or expecting Him to act - when such things are up to Him and to Him alone.
30. my head must be bowed down in the presence of my Master unless i am given permission to do so otherwise. i honor the position of my Master and it is important that i am not distracted in my submission to Him. Although my head is down, my heart is never sad in the presence of my Master. Smiles and my encompassing joy shall shine through in my service to Him.
31. my eyes must be cast down in the presence of my Master unless i am given permission to do otherwise. i am to focus on my behavior, waiting to act appropriately and without hesitation when directed to do so by Him.
32. i must always wear revealing and sexy clothing of good taste around my Master unless given permission to do otherwise. The clothing i wear will allow easy access to my pussy, ass and breasts. The clothing will emphasize and often exaggerate my assets. i will wear such clothing in any kind of weather. How i present my body to Him or in front of others is more important than my discomfort and insecurities.
33. When others show an interest in what i am wearing i must ask them if they would like to see more and then gladly show them what they would like to see - but only after i have received permission from my Master - for i trust my Master's judgment that such a display is not only reasonable but is safe to do.
34. i must remove all of my clothing in the way i have been taught when Master commands of me to do so - regardless of who may be present and despite where it is i am - i trust my Master.
35. When i remove clothing from my body it must be folded neatly and placed in a small pile in front of me just ahead of my feet or my knees if i should be required to be in my kneeling position after unclothing myself.
36. my basic attire in the presence of my Master shall consist of a collar and my highest heels. The rings of my submission, if i have been pierced, must also be attached to my body, as should the chains He has given or allowed me to wear.
37. my legs, underarms and pussy must be kept completely shaved smooth and clean so that nothing of me is hidden from view.
38. Unless otherwise given permission - my hair must be kept up in a manner that is ravishing so that my shoulders and the nape of my neck are fully exposed - especially when i am naked. It is important to Master that i appear not just attractive, but alluring and desirable.
39. Whenever i need to pick something up or receive something from someone else i must do so wherever possible by going into a kneeling position to show that i am honored to do so. i will perform this motion according to how Master has taught me.
40. my pussy and ass must be thoroughly washed and of a good aroma at all times, if even perfumed, but especially before serving my Master.
41. my "place" is on my knees before my Master, for it is a privilege and honor to be His slave.
42. When in the presence of my Master, but not in use, i will go to the place He has selected until i am needed by Him.
43. my greatest felt satisfaction is realized when i know i have pleased my Master.
44. There can be no greater pain or suffering i can feel then when Master is not pleased with me. Naturally i will feel depressed, saddened, empty, and lost. i can only hope He will show His mercy upon me and provide to me the guidance i will need to be put back on track so that i will be forgiven and once again be allowed His eyes upon my flesh, His touch upon my soul, and His warmth and love upon my heart.
45. my submission is a natural inborn feeling, and at times a surging and powerful force inside me that only a respectable and knowledgeable Master can recognize, control and manage, for He understands how my nature influences my behavior and how temptations to act outside of its drive can easily lead me astray and away from my primary focus: to please and to be found pleasing. He, too, manages and controls His Own natural state, sharing with me through a power exchange between us, bonding me tightly to Him, His needs with mine. my submission to such a Master allows for me to feel more aware and alive inside and out, bringing me to a feeling i cherish: ' at home '.
46. i fear no other power for my Master is always with me.
47. i will not hesitate in my obedience to my Master.
48. Whenever Master speaks, even when i am speaking, i am to immediately become silent so i may be able to listen intensely to what He has to say. i must never interrupt Him unless He has shown me how to communicate with Him, if i need to. i must ask first for His permission to speak, specifying to whom i would like to speak to, and whether or not i may be allowed to speak freely - then and only then, if granted, may i say anything more than asking first to speak.
49. The opportunity to please my Master is very important to me and i will take every chance to seek out such opportunities to do so to the best of my abilities and in accordance to how i have been taught or allowed to do so.
50. i choose willingly to be treated as my Master's property - as long as such treatment is safe and legal.
51. When Master feels i am ready and our relationship has progressed to a lifelong commitment, i shall be specially prepared to receive His unique and permanent mark of ownership upon my flesh, in a place of His choosing, whether it be a piercing, a tattoo or a branding. Thereafter, i shall become His property and slave in the most strict sense - completely His for as long as the relationship continues to be managed and controlled in the manner in which is beneficial to each of us and in accordance with our mutually shared natures.
52. i am my Master's greatest treasure.
53. i will learn all the positions my Master wants to teach me to the best of my abilities and will be prepared to take such positions when required and to display myself in a manner through them that He, and others who may be present, will find most pleasing.
54. i must never reach orgasm without explicit permission from my Master. Failure to receive permission before orgasm will be cause for punishment. Such pleasure must be seen as a privilege so that i do not take advantage of it.
55. The safeword given to me by my Master can be spoken at any time - even when i have been told to be silent. If i am not able to verbalize it - i trust my Master will show me how i can express it. Safewords are for my protection as well as His. i must be careful not to take more than i can handle, as He will need to know when to stop from getting carried away with His own passions - so that i may be prepared over time to endure more for Him.
56. my safeword, verbal or otherwise, cannot be used when i am being punished. i must remember that punishment could never be very effective if i were able to control it - i must take it in full measure - so that i will focus on the correction of my behavior for the long term, for unlike discipline, punishment is not what i will want again. i should know better. However, safewords can be used when i am being disciplined - Master will let me know which is which when the time has come that such treatment is necessary to correct my behavior.
57. i must confess to my Master when i have been naughty so that He may decide if such violations require me to be disciplined or to be punished. i must accept whatever decisions He makes by thanking Him for His choice - if He allows it before or shortly thereafter, specifying as to why i will be or have been disciplined or punished. i must focus upon how sorry i am for not behaving in the way in which i have been taught - for i have brought defilement upon myself and to Him an unacceptable act which is displeasing to Him.
58. i realize Master may own more than one slave, if He so chooses, and that i, unless allowed by Him, may never be able to have another Master other than Him, accept by His choosing to further my training. i trust Master will take whatever precautions are necessary to keep the slaves He chooses to own sexually healthy and to provide whatever measures are necessary to protect us from the eruptions and ravages of any jealously which may try to corrupt the relationships our Master has allowed between each of us - including the one we each have with Him.
59. i must never be concerned when i feel too much of my flesh is showing, in private or in the general public - however, i can ask my Master for permission as to how to handle my discomfort.
60. i am a female slave - of worth and value to any Master who would find me useful. my role has been clearly brought into definition through my ability to recognize and to act accordingly with my true nature, enhanced through the teachings of my Master, and through the continued practice of my primary focus, and my search for every opportunity to do so.
61. my Master will decide what my sexual orientation shall be. i will commit myself to His decision and perform as such only in His presence and only with His permission. i know my performance will be measured and corrected as He sees fit should i be required to attend to, provide myself to, perform with, or upon another female slave.
62. i must tell my Master if i have had an orgasm without His permission so that i can be properly punished for my disobedience and disrespect.
63. Pain and pleasure shall be with me always - in my thoughts and my fantasies - for the contrast strengthens me to behave in the manner my Master expects of me. Such thoughts and fantasies are tainted with the memories i have from the last time i was in the presence of my Master. He is with me always.
64. my limits do not have to be respected - i trust my Master to take me past them when He expects that i am ready - for each side of the wall of my limitations is both pleasurable and a challenge - one side more intense than the other. My only hope in such transferences is that Master will be able to take me there again and again as my relationship to Him progresses through time that He too will need it as much as I will, and that He will not be afraid to increase the intensity while we are there.
65. i have much to learn in order to become a well-trained and well-behaved slave.
66. i will endure whatever discipline or punishment my Master gives me so I can become a better slave for Him.
67. i will work on building up my tolerances to the level my Master needs me to have, being careful not to push myself further or faster than i am ready to endure for Him, so that i may be able to expand my limitations and increase my value to Him.
68. Through discipline and punishment i shall learn to behave.
69. In bondage i am made free.
70. i will never touch my breasts, nipples, pussy or clit with my hands or sex toys in any manner where i could experience sexual or sensual pleasure without permission from my Master including washing them, shaving my pussy, adjusting my breasts as i fit them into clothing, or in attaching my rings.
71. Only through submission can i find my true self.
72. my life is empty without a Master to please - that lost feeling inside can be real and it can grow. i may be able to step away from the hunger of my nature, but not for long, for soon it could effect every part of my life. It is important that i seek a Master to please - but if i cannot find one or that i shall not be found, i am not totally lost for i must always remember: i will survive - for it is my nature to do so. my drive to please can be adapted towards the needs of others even though they may not be as satisfying as the one i would have towards a Master. i must keep in the back of mind that there is a Master who is looking too and that i need to be patient by redirecting my needs in other ways where i can provide pleasure to others.
btn_arrow.gif73. i shall never think of myself as a weak person for it takes a strong female to commit to the drive inside me, to serve, to obey and to please a Master. i too have responsibilities and as natural as they may seem to me it is important that i use all of my faculties including my creative spirit to submit to a Master in a unique fashion personal to my relationship with Him. By doing so i hope to provide a good example to those females around me who may still be learning so they too are not led astray from their primary focus, that they are as true to their nature as i strive to continue to be to mine. i must remember that how well i behave enlightens and empowers me to become even closer to who i am - a devoted slave, of good rapport to a Master who truly understands my needs in relationship to His own.
74. i will give all that i am to my Master in order to become free.
75. i must never show disrespect towards my Master in any way - no matter where i am - in his presence or not.
76. Crying and the shedding of tears at any time is good and expected for it softens my will and bonds me closer to my Master.
77. Only in complete submission to my Master shall i realize the depth of the love i have for Him.
78. The needs of my Master must always come first before mine own for they offer an opportunity to please Him.
79. i must be attentive to the needs of my Master and always be ready to respond to them to the best of my abilities and in the unique ways in which i have chosen and have developed for Him.
80. i am allowed to suggest ways to further my training or use of me, verbally or through my journal, as long as i address my Master properly first.
81. i must always respond fully both physically and verbally to whatever my Master does with me. The expressions of my emotions and my physical responses are important to Him. i must never hold back any part of their display, regardless of how intense they may be, unless restricted to do so.
82. i am a sexual and sensual being.
83. i must always remember how pleased my Master is when others delight in my sexiness as a result of my ability to show off my assets.
84. my behavior must always display a sexual content however subtle.
85. The only clothing i will buy and wear will be those items which my Master would find pleasing to Him: fitting to my figure and its assets, of good quality, of reasonable cost, and appropriate in His eyes and taste for the occasions i am allowed to attend with or without Him. i may ask if i may choose what to wear so i may be able take an opportunity to surprise Him to win His favor.
86. i may, at times, offer various parts of my body to my Master in hopes He will take pleasure in using them in whatever ways He wishes. my only hope will be that my offering will please Him. If not, i want Him to punish me.
87. It is important for me to eat plenty of carbohydrates, proteins and vitamins in the foods and fluids i am permitted to choose to nourish my body and mind, and to exercise my body regularly, as permitted by my Master, to increase my physical strength, to keep my limbs as flexible as possible, and to maintain or improve my figure so i may be able to endure my Master's use of me however intense and for however long a period is required by Him. i want to be of a healthy and sound mind and body, free as possible of any personal limitations, when pleasing my Master.
88. If i am required to be my Master's toilet, into or onto which He chooses to release the watery juices of His cock, i shall position myself to receive His personal waters by kneeling for Him, tilting my head back, opening my cunt wide, and opening my eyes wide so that He will delight in the display and offering of my body and of one of my orifices for Him choose upon which one to use. i shall remain still as He releases Himself, swallowing what i can of the waters He allows me. i shall play with myself during the release, as is instructed by Him, so that i am permitted to sexualize the experience as much as possible for His pleasure, thanking Him afterwards for allowing me the opportunity to honor Him in this most private way.
89. i will not wear a pad or tampon when i am on my period without His permission - my pussy must be available for His use at all times. Should i be allowed to use a pad or tampon - it must be removed in His presence should He require my vagina to be emptied - regardless of where i am and who may be present. The use of a pad or tampon is a privilege that can be taken away from me at any time. If so, i can only hope i will be allowed to bleed for His pleasure and to feel my blood trickling down my legs or to strain to hear it drip onto the floor or onto another female slave he has selected to punish with my blood.
90. Master has chosen my sexual orientation to that of being bisexual. When He requires of me to receive the watery juices or blood of a chosen female slave's pussy, i am to position myself, as i would for Master, to receive upon my flesh or into my cunt the slave's juices, and if permitted to do so, either through His command or after receiving permission from Him to display for Him my hunger, i will cup my cunt tightly to the slave's pussy to feed from her, licking and sucking, if allowed to do so, as much as I can get from her remaining tightly cupped to her until Master allows me to release myself from her. Thereafter, i am to be thankful for what i have received and for the privilege He allowed me. Such a feeding will be counted as one of my meals for the day.
91. If it is possible to practice my basic attire in my household i will do so. i will remove my clothing immediately after entering my household putting my collar on first, then my rings and chains (if i have them), and my highest heels.
92. i will always sleep nude - kneeling first before i enter my bed and kneeling first as soon as i get out of my bed to give thanks - for it is a great privilege to have a bed to sleep on. Before entering my Master’s bed i shall place appropriate heels on my feet unless specifically ordered otherwise, to show my deep devotion through suffering even in sleep.
93. i must never tighten my body when it is being whipped, caned, cropped, slapped, paddled, belted, strapped, spanked, bullwhipped, signal whipped, or anally or vaginally pumped. my Master likes it when my flesh jiggles and He knows that when i tighten my body it hurts more and inhibits my ability to display my expressions and emotions.
94. i am proud to wear upon my body the marks given to me by my Master. i know that my Master will never mark me permanently - other than the mark of His ownership He will give me at the proper time, but i will gladly suffer for Him so he can mark me with the stripes he wishes to decorate my body with for His viewing pleasure.
95. i will always listen with a strong interest in whatever my Master has to say during my training. i want to learn all that i can from Him so i can understand more about Him, about me, about the bdsm scene and community, and those involved in bdsm relationships - so i may be able to better understand the world i am a part of and be able to communicate accurately to anyone who wishes to know more about it.
96. When i take a shower i can do so the way i like to, but when i have finished washing i must rinse my entire body with only cold water for not less than 2 full minutes. i am not to try to cover my body with my arms and hands thereafter. i may use a towel to dry myself.
97. When i walk, run, sit, stand, kneel, reach out, speak, or listen - i will do so in a sexual manner, however subtle, and with confidence and pride hoping other females around me will feel my projection upon them, that my performance is found admirable, that they would seek to emulate me without any of their insecurities or self-conscious thoughts holding them back. I want to set the best example of proper female behavior - especially if Master or someone He has chosen is nearby to examine and monitor it. However, my goal must be to behave as naturally and freely as is possible as if without any effort on my part.
98. When standing still i shall do so with my feet and legs apart, my hands held behind my back and my head bowed down. i will remain silent in the way Master has taught me.
99. This body is owned by My Master. i will work out a minimum of one half hour daily to keep it flexible, strong and tight so that it will be pleasing to the eye of all who behold my Master’s creation. Additionally i shall Kegel often throughout the day, especially while doing laundry, cooking or cleaning so that my pussy is as tight as the outside of my body. During my daily yoga and fitness routines i will ask all available to join me so that they too can benefit from the exercise, though I must let them know that they are not expected to keep up with me. These routines are to keep my body toned and fit. Other's lack of total fitness may not stop or slow me from working to my maximum potential. Should i fail to complete my mandatory daily half hour of exercise before the end of my day i must notify Master before i retire to receive my punishment.
100. As every one of His slave’s before me and each to follow me, i will perform the tests Master has laid out for me to accomplish with as much style and grace as i can muster under those strenuous circumstances.
101. Until Master declares it is time for me to wear a more permanent mark of ownership upon my flesh, i shall proudly wear His temporary mark(s) of ownership upon me wherever He chooses to place them, including bite marks upon my neck.
102. When sitting i shall sit up straight with my legs together and my palms down on the top of my thighs. When moving about in the presence of Master or while On Display for others, as gracefully as possible up on toes or down on hands and knees unless ordered otherwise to adequately reflect my position.
103. When so ordered, i will not speak to others without my Master's permission except to say to them that they will have to speak to my Master first.
104. i shall learn to the endure the whippings Master gives me by using the technique of Thanking Him through each of His strikes brought down upon my flesh.
105. i shall gladly make my body available to my Master to be used as furniture: my body positioned to decorate a room or a garden, a footstool to rest his weary feet and legs upon, my backside as a His table to eat off of, the cleavage of my breasts to hold his wine glass, my palms to be used to hold a plate of His food, or my hands to hold a book open for Him to read or a lamp to for Him to see.
106. Privacy is a privilege - even to have it when i need to use the bathroom. i must ask for it and accept my Master's decision even when i am denied of it.
107. As a helper slave i shall assist my Master in the setting of a scene or in the training and use of other female slaves.
108. As a preparer slave i shall ready other female slaves for my Masters use, harden His cock for Him, or harden the cocks of others He allows me to harden.
109. As a cleaner slave i shall use my tongue to clean the cum of my Master from the body of a female slave He has put it upon, using my cunt to suck for it from a female slave's pussy my Master has used for His pleasure, or to clean the cocks i am allowed to clean that have been pulled out of the pussies of other slaves. For as a cleaner slave i am to lick up what semen i can find, unless instructed otherwise, or if I have reason to believe health risks exist. Anyone that has not recently provided a health screening to Master is to be considered a health risk.
110. As a provider slave i shall offer parts of my body to those selected by my Master for their pleasure. i will also offer myself to those who wish to use me for a demonstration or to experiment on, as my Master sees fit.
111. As a domestic slave i shall perform chores about my Master's house, and those of others He allows, acting in a sexual and enticing manner in all that i do. Dishes shall be cleaned and put away within the hour after the meal for which they were used. Laundry shall not be allowed to accumulate and dusting, vacuuming and mopping will be done at least weekly, sooner if needed.
112. As a sex slave i shall incorporate a sexual attitude and hunger in everything i do, being eager to sexually perform at the best of my abilities for my Master and for those whom He allows to use me. my hunger must be such that i would feel as if i could never be satiated until Master allows me to be.
113. Every moment of every day i shall always be ready to be used for my Master’s pleasure, whether for whipping or a cockfeeding to remind me of my place.
114. When i have been given permission to play with myself i shall do so in the following manner: working my clit almost to an orgasm and then stopping for a few minutes, then working it again to nearly orgasm and then stopping for a few minutes, and then finally working it again to a full orgasm. Then and only then shall i enjoy an orgasm on my own. Should i cum before the third tier - i will tell my Master so i may be punished. i will play with myself in this manner even in His presence.
115. Should Master ever wish to cage me for display, i will gladly crawl into it and proudly position myself in it in ways He finds pleasing, in solitude and quiet, so that if He chooses, others may delight in what they see without any interruption from me, seeing that i am well-behaved and humbled that i am Master's property and slave. i can only hope that Master would never put me into a cage to confine me for my misbehavior, that i could never come that close to displease Him so much that i would have to suffer such humiliation, begging with my tears and my cries for his forgiveness, for i want the cage to be my safe haven from my fears, a place i can crawl into of my own free will, locked into it because Master granted my request to be locked in it.
116. my polyamourous lifestyle has no room for jealousy. If i do find myself feeling oddly about some aspect of our extended family i will ask permission to speak freely and then detail my feelings to Master, not directly to the person(s) i may have issue with so as to prevent any discord in our family.
117. When someone asks who i am i can respond by introducing myself in the following manner: " i am slave danielle, property of Master Dan."
118. i will periodically examine my whole life and look for how it has changed as a result of my relationship to my Master. i will speak to my Master about those areas where there have been improvements and those areas where i feel uncomfortable, insecure, or unsure of what direction i should take, how i should behave, or how i can behave in a manner that is different than how i have been behaving in the past.
119. i want to suffer for my Master in ways that please Him and that are safe for me to do so.
120. i will not be passive in serving my Master. i will aggressively participate in my exchange with Him.
121. If i am sent to another Master to serve - i will serve that Master well, as if He were my Master, for i want my Master to receive a good report after i have been returned to Him.
122. Should Master wish for my breasts to be suckled by a female slave of His choice or that I should be used to produce milk in my breasts, i will do my best to keep my milk up so that He and others may feed from me, that my breasts will be full, tight and extra sensitive as much as possible, for however long Master wants my breasts to produce milk for Him. Likewise, i will assist in the inducement of milk production from the breasts of any female slave Master has chosen for me.
123. Before dating others or forming a relationship with others I shall gain permission and approval from my Master. If i should have sex with others i will have it safely and will always tell my Master in detail what i have done so that no part of me is a secret and that i am laid bare for his inspection and approval.
124. The money i earn, should i be allowed a career, or put to work, where i am paid for my responsibilities, is ours. My trust is complete. Master knows best how it should be spent, saved and invested. i may present ways to Him for His approval. i will accept the responsibilities He gives me in the handling of the finances. It is important to my Master that i also learn to handle assets wisely as well, so that we can reach our goals while being ready for any emergency that requires finances for resolution.
125. If i am wearing a dress or skirt and no panties and i am going to sit down - i must sit on my bare skin whenever it is safe to do - and do so gracefully whether i am in private or in public.
126. When i wear stockings i will wear them only with garters and high heels. i will never wear panty hose, except when so ordered by my Master.
127. When i am in the presence of my Master and i am free to move about i will do so in seductive and enticing ways.
128. i will give to Master my body, mind and spirit, in faith of His knowledge of the skills, safety and first aid measures necessary to put me through painfully ecstatic and euphoric edgeplay: the use of needles and pins to pierce my flesh; the use of scoring tools to make drawings upon my body or to selectively and carefully cut my skin to make me bleed with little or no scarring; aromatherapy where He will throw me into higher states of consciousness with the scents of oils and incense; blood and breath control to bring me to the edge of my survival to feel the battle for my self-preservation; guns and knifeplay to intensify my awareness of my existence racing parallel with my threatened drive to live; and other such uses. Through these activities i shall learn to ride on the top edge of my fears and the bottom edge of my perception of utter terror - for it is there i shall come to know my greatest fear of all: that i will want to go there again and again.
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Posted:Feb 16, 2018 7:33 pm
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D/s or M/s or O/p is based on human nature that is older than the human race. It can be clearly observed in other species. Humans have always gathered together to form societies that have hierarchies. D/s is part of being human. However, by the 1960s a set of abstract theories were adopted by many in the upper middle class that ran counter to human nature. An effort was made to impose these on others. Since this only worked in the abstract, by the early 1980s some wanted to get back to human nature and the term "D/s" was coined.
D/s is about the energy exchange between two individuals. It is the mental connection, not what the bodies do. It is not SM or BDSM any more than it is conservative or liberal. D/s is 24/7. By definition, it is what we are rather than a role we in a scene.
In D/s there are rules and limits. If you have a problem with forcing yourself on someone, you believe in rules and limits. If you are against molesting, you have rules and limits. Those who say there are no rules may be uninformed and mean no harm. Once they get out from behind their computer they will learn they do have rules and limits. But often those saying such things are predators trying to line up their next victim.
Certain behaviors invigorate the energy exchange while others deplete it. Those with little personal integrity, or those who are insecure, arrogant or self centered, cannot maintain a strong energy exchange. Therefore we have guidelines to follow and we avoid voluntary close interactions with those who do not live by them.
A D/s Lifestyle Code of Honor:
We treat others as we would like others to treat us.
We are Honest.
We keep our word.
We are Responsible.
We help those in need.
We teach only those who really want to learn and we respect our teachers.
We try to avoid arguments with those who have closed minds for that is a waste of energy.
All sexual relationships are based on mutual consent.
We respect relationships.
We realize some may fall short of these at times.
We do not bring into our inner circle those who do not strive to live up to the above.
A Glossary of Terms:
Dominant: Dominants can be either male or female. They have learned to control them self while living honorably and responsibly to the extent that they can be trusted to guide and protect the well being of another who has chosen to submit to them. A True Dominant places the long term well being of his sub before his short term desires. Those who are controlled by their emotions or sexuality are not strong Dominants. For this reason men usually do not fully emerge as Dominants until they reach middle age. One is not Dominant if they are acting out of anger, vengeance or ego. Insecurity, not strength, drive such behavior.
dumbiant: Those who go around trying to be one up on Dominants and expect all submissive to submit to them rather than treat all with respect are not True Dominants. The are insecure dumbiants.
Energy exchange_ A consensual blending of two auras based on respect and affection in a way that build energy that usually is enhanced by building and sustaining a polarity based on defference to a highly esteemed other and a mutual concern for eachother's well being.
submissive or sub: D/s is based on an energy exchange that creates a polarity. While one may lead, both parties are essential to the dynamic and need to be strong. Weak people make poor subs. By surrendering some things to a Dominant they can trust, a submissive becomes free to explore other aspects of their self. They know they are safe and secure. They decide who they surrender to and they have limits, things they will not do. Those may change gradually over time. Submissives can be either male or female.
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