Not JUST a sex site, Just Saying  

SakuraMar 47F
210 posts
2/11/2021 1:56 pm
Not JUST a sex site, Just Saying

Not Just A Sex Site, Just Saying

There's a popular misconception. That this place is strictly sex. The name doesn't say StrictlySexFinder or SexOnlyNowFinder nor does it even have sex in the name. It is ADULT. FRIEND. FINDER. As in those who are of adult age. Those who have adult minded activities on different levels in mind. Friendly and with possible friendships to find nearby or around the world. Lots of people seem to ignore the FRIEND part, though it's very prominently displayed in the title. So, with this problematic misconception, it's causing friction. There are cyber bullies running rampant. There are people who don't respect the other people around them. Especially when trying to get sexual with another person. This is a site where many are seeking some form of sexual outlet. However, they forget manners, decency, kindness and tolerance. Focusing only on a crude form of getting sexual attention. Why does humanity have to be thrown out the window, simply because a person is behind a computer or phone? Technology isn't great if it keeps creating this kind of ugliness. I'd rather have it destroyed. But I digress. I think that it is important to remember that we are all real humans on here. People who you might go to church with, shop with, go to the doctor with, ect... The way you treat someone face to face, that is how it should be on here as well. There should be no reason to bully people around and gang up on. Instead, find a group of like minded friends. (friends don't let friends bully) There should be no disrespect when approaching someone for a sexual encounter or attention. Use manners and respect at all times. Wanting straight sex is not the problem. Disregarding the person's humanity and forsaking one's own is the problem. Sex is a good thing. Sex should be fun and stress relieving and enjoyable. So we should speak up and demand respect, when disrespected. It doesn't have to be a fight, you can just be firm. We should keep our humanity in check. Let us all be at LEAST friendly. There's enough drudgery in the world. For goodness sake let's not drag it out in a place we are getting away from the world's problems. I'm not trying to condemn anyone's desires or beliefs or specific way of living. You should have the freedom to Express yourself in a way that isn't damaging and negative. I think our diversity can be a beautiful exchange of ideas and in ways that can empower us in positive light. I know that I seem like a simpleton. That my faith in the goodness of people can appear foolish, but I'm not giving up. If one person alone reads my words and it impacts them, then I shall keep talking. Even if no one does, I'll keep hoping. This place has cultivated friends, lovers, relationships of different natures including marriage! It doesn't start and end with sex. It INCLUDES sex. (or mostly lack of) For the most part, I meet good people and they get that. I appreciate those good people and I hope that I continue to meet more good people. I sincerely thank anyone reading this and I appreciate reading comments about your thoughts. I don't have to agree with you to appreciate that you have an opinion!

Sakura Just Saying, Be kind it doesn't cost you anything

Morga_Antonio 59M
15 posts
10/28/2021 9:43 am

Nice post and blog. I came because your candy question and enjoyed reading you.

BicuriousCar 62F
68 posts
10/22/2021 7:53 pm

Enjoyed your post. Very true

Since the majority of people on this site are men it does not surprise me of the directness for sex.

Rogerpocket 47M

8/7/2021 11:07 am

I could not of said it better than what has already been posted.
Is there any hope in changing it and making it better by eliminating the barrier to better communication?

wackerpp 51M
256 posts
3/31/2021 3:32 pm

with all the restrictions imposed on this site just on the ability to chat meeting people is becoming less likely.
Everyone is focused on just getting the sex bit with minimal investment.

upsidedownsky 41M
611 posts
3/6/2021 7:08 am

I admire your courage to speak your mind. This alone, inspires others in all sorts of ways. Not to mention the content of your thoughts. What a strange social experiment, in which we exist. Sometimes. Here's to you.

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ServiceNub 62M  
21 posts
2/16/2021 6:09 pm

I enjoy your insight - agree with a lot of what you say. Raw sex is an athletic act - not much more. Friends make love. The best relationships I have had all began with a mental connection. The sex was spectacular after that occurred.

Ps - cuddling soothes the soul doesn’t it?

seems6666 51F
4818 posts
2/12/2021 8:20 am

" It doesn't start and end with sex". It INCLUDES sex" THAT is a great line .. if only it were true!

seems6666 51F
4818 posts
2/12/2021 8:19 am

    Quoting  :

They don't do the ice breakers anymore and have taken away Gold from many women when it expired.
Yes, there are a lot of fakes and scammers and I would be loathe to pay for this site as most of the time it doesn't even function properly.
But, fakes and scammers and old pics.. or someone else's pics ..are on every "dating" site... caveat emptor

Paulxx001 64M  
22487 posts
2/11/2021 4:26 pm

what u rote is interes-tinG

but tough to follow

punctuation? and a paragraph... or 2
or should I just take another fucking drink.


... is there another way to look at it
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q_d_mcgraw 103M
107 posts
2/11/2021 4:21 pm

In a perfect world...

Some members just have to make things be us against them. It's here on your post faster than a cat can lick...

flannel_light 59F  
4507 posts
2/11/2021 3:16 pm

I agree with you on this a πŸ’― percent. Too many on here do not see or understand this. Like the picture of your legs. I got a πŸ˜‚ out of that comment

The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness.

kentguy532 68M

2/11/2021 2:53 pm

In these times of covid this site is a place to get away and forget about all of the world's problems , it just shows some people just like to complain.

Dragon653 68M
432 posts
2/11/2021 2:35 pm

I 100% agree with you! Just because you are behind a computer screen doesn't give you license to to be a jerk. Tolerance is a skill that seems to have been lost these days.

Brownie202 64F  
2666 posts
2/11/2021 2:24 pm

Not negative. I myself have said it's not just a sex site. Even the site itself has the other reasons what this site is for. To many men want a sex partner and want it now they don't check out the site or else see the purpose of this site. Even if sex was the only use it doesn't mean anyone and everybody. It's like us women are not supposed to have any preferences.

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.

SakuraMar 47F
108 posts
2/11/2021 2:03 pm

I hope that this isn't too negative! Hahaha, tell me what you think?

Sakura Just Saying, Be kind it doesn't cost you anything

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