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Not JUST a sex site, Just Saying
Posted:Feb 11, 2021 1:56 pm
Last Updated:Oct 5, 2021 1:16 am
Not Just A Sex Site, Just Saying

There's a popular misconception. That this place is strictly sex. The name doesn't say StrictlySexFinder or SexOnlyNowFinder nor does it even have sex in the name. It is ADULT. FRIEND. FINDER. As in those who are of adult age. Those who have adult minded activities on different levels in mind. Friendly and with possible friendships to find nearby or around the world. Lots of people seem to ignore the FRIEND part, though it's very prominently displayed in the title. So, with this problematic misconception, it's causing friction. There are cyber bullies running rampant. There are people who don't respect the other people around them. Especially when trying to get sexual with another person. This is a site where many are seeking some form of sexual outlet. However, they forget manners, decency, kindness and tolerance. Focusing only on a crude form of getting sexual attention. Why does humanity have to be thrown out the window, simply because a person is behind a computer or phone? Technology isn't great if it keeps creating this kind of ugliness. I'd rather have it destroyed. But I digress. I think that it is important to remember that we are all real humans on here. People who you might go to church with, shop with, go to the doctor with, ect... The way you treat someone face to face, that is how it should be on here as well. There should be no reason to bully people around and gang up on. Instead, find a group of like minded friends. (friends don't let friends bully) There should be no disrespect when approaching someone for a sexual encounter or attention. Use manners and respect at all times. Wanting straight sex is not the problem. Disregarding the person's humanity and forsaking one's own is the problem. Sex is a good thing. Sex should be fun and stress relieving and enjoyable. So we should speak up and demand respect, when disrespected. It doesn't have to be a fight, you can just be firm. We should keep our humanity in check. Let us all be at LEAST friendly. There's enough drudgery in the world. For goodness sake let's not drag it out in a place we are getting away from the world's problems. I'm not trying to condemn anyone's desires or beliefs or specific way of living. You should have the freedom to Express yourself in a way that isn't damaging and negative. I think our diversity can be a beautiful exchange of ideas and in ways that can empower us in positive light. I know that I seem like a simpleton. That my faith in the goodness of people can appear foolish, but I'm not giving up. If one person alone reads my words and it impacts them, then I shall keep talking. Even if no one does, I'll keep hoping. This place has cultivated friends, lovers, relationships of different natures including marriage! It doesn't start and end with sex. It INCLUDES sex. (or mostly lack of) For the most part, I meet good people and they get that. I appreciate those good people and I hope that I continue to meet more good people. I sincerely thank anyone reading this and I appreciate reading comments about your thoughts. I don't have to agree with you to appreciate that you have an opinion!
Posted:Feb 4, 2020 11:26 pm
Last Updated:Feb 11, 2021 2:21 pm

This is just a general disclaimer on everything that I put on this site. If you don't like what I say on my blog or vlogs you don't have to watch or read them. You can complain to the website or you can leave a post to tell me what you think. I have an open mind and I try not to delete a person's post unless it has nothing to do with the subject matter. Everyone has an opinion and they are more than welcome to share their thoughts with me. I read everything. I'm not here to judge you. Take care, good luck, stay sexy and be kind!
Just saying about Dick Pictures...
Posted:May 12, 2018 9:35 pm
Last Updated:Jan 25, 2021 11:16 am

Alright so this is just my convoluted opinion
If you are proudly showing dick pictures, it doesn't matter about size or shape. Show it proudly! Yes!
However, a few pointers...
1 Closely trim or shave your business. It's sexier
2 NEVER take a picture with the toilet seat underneath your dick in the background. That's just nasty. Plenty of other places and shots
3. Break the boring old trend. Shoot it in black&white, take it laying down, do something different
4. Don't take a picture with trash piling up next to you or in the background. That's really gross and sets you up for getting ignored
5. Don't take pictures with another woman unless you are seriously looking for couples mostly. Other women are more than likely to reject you, seeing as how you are posting your last conquest.
6. Don't send it in a message or IM before saying hello. That's just rude dude
7. Ask if a woman wants to see it or asks you first. You have a better chance of not being immediately rejected.
8. Very important to just be a nice person when sharing your dick around.
FWB and Fuck Buddies are different, just saying
Posted:Nov 1, 2019 2:35 am
Last Updated:Nov 30, 2020 8:50 pm
When I get asked if I want to have a FWB(Friends With Benefits) , I always have to ask if they know what it means. Because lots of people think fuck buddies are the same as FWB. No, it is NOT the same!
Fuck Buddy, it starts with fuck. The main reason to be with the person is to fuck. You say hi now and then. You might chat for a hot minute before or after fucking. You kind of have a combination of regular sex and spontaneous booty calls. But mainly it's a booty call to fuck with someone you are familiar with. No shame in it. Some people need that type of thing.

FWB or Friends With Benefits, it starts with friends. FRIENDS! So you are mainly a friend with that person. You text, you chat, you hang out with each other now and then. You chill out and have some laughs. You also have sex. You mostly have regular sex, not to be confused with routine sex. You have days and times that you are available to have regular sex with each other. Sometimes you can fit in spontaneous booty calls. It's not complicated. You aren't in a committed relationship. You don't expect things you would in a relationship. You like each other. It's not a big deal. Some people rather have this kind of thing.
Of course there are some differences in each situation that are tailored to the people involved. It's not cut in black and white. But there are differences.
So figure out what you really want and know what you want to discuss about it with a prospective person. If you jump into it thinking that you know, but it turns out to be wrong, then you are in for a bad experience. The best thing to do is discuss these things beforehand. Don't be afraid to ask questions. You want to be with the right person in the way that's right for both of you.
FWB and Fuck Buddies are different, just saying...
8 Comments , 1 Pending
Give some respect, Just Saying
Posted:Oct 12, 2019 2:09 am
Last Updated:Feb 11, 2021 2:22 pm

Just because a guy is horny, does NOT mean that he can treat a woman like a worthless crack Addict . Now, there are nice guys. There are decent guys. There are guys who get that. Thank you, sincerely. But you other idgit baffoons.... Get a grip. Take care a page from the good guys. You want sex, fine. Be respectful to all women, especially the ones you are trying to have sex with! You do not need to be a jerk about it, just saying...
I want CANDY
Posted:Oct 5, 2021 1:24 am
Last Updated:Oct 19, 2021 1:41 am

With Halloween coming, tell me what candy tickles your tongue?
White chocolate
Sour candy
Candy corn
Fruity drops
Strawberry/cherry/black licorice
Don't like candy
33 Comments , 442 votes
I scream for icecream, how about you?
Posted:Jan 30, 2021 5:52 am
Last Updated:Oct 5, 2021 1:24 am

For good times or bad times or any times. Ice cream is damn awesome. What flavor do you prefer?
Plain Chocolate
Plain Vanilla
Minty like chocolate chip mint or peppermint, ect
Nutty buddy like pistachio or butter pecan ect
Fruity tooty like strawberry or banana, ect
Bakery delights like with brownie pieces or chocolate chip cookie dough, ect
Unusual flavors like rum raisin or white chocolate, ect
Lactose free ice cream like Italian ice or sorbet, ect
I abstain from all sweets
14 Comments , 80 votes
Lipstick preference
Posted:Jan 25, 2021 4:20 am
Last Updated:Feb 10, 2021 8:00 am

So, what do you like, when you see lip pictures?
Just the natural color with the shine of lip balm
Lip gloss with a faint color to boost the natural lips
Shiny/matte pink lipstick
Shiny/matte red lipstick
Shiny/matte colored lipstick like purple, brown, blue, ect
I prefer pretty hands over lips
I prefer booty/boobs over lips
Just show me any damn picture, none of that gray shit
Wait, where am I at?
10 Comments , 79 votes
Measuring Up, Just Saying
Posted:Jan 25, 2021 4:11 am
Last Updated:Oct 13, 2021 3:47 am
Measuring , Just Saying

Okay, so you men who want measure your dick. Good for you. 's also nice know IF a woman asks you. However, that being said...
Profile pictures with your dick next an item kind of crazy and very tasteless. Whether 's a drink can, remote control, or whatever. Just DON'T DO ! There's no sane woman out there stuffing her vagina see if fits her. She's not looking for a guy whose penis is size of a tube of toothpaste. Seriously dudes, just delete those pictures. If you absolutely HAVE to brag or show, grab a damn measuring tape. End of story. By way, if there a woman bat shit crazy enough be sticking crazy shit in her vagina, chances are she's not mentally stable. I'd like say that size doesn't matter, but truth SOME women, do have a size preference. For example, if your names Giganticock and you are twelve inches, my vaginas packing and running hella away. No offense you guys, I just like walking normal and being able walk. Now I'm going put a small plug in you reading my dick picture blog. post 4099082 Just saying about Dick Pictures

However, cliff notes version :
Clean and trim your business, don't take pictures on toilet or with toilet/trash/laundry in background, do differently and as in this blog - don't measure next household items. Less rejection and less chance of grossing out women. Yes us women do talk about and complain about yucky profile pictures, just saying.
Just Saying, Bullying NOT funny or cool...
Posted:Dec 9, 2020 7:44 pm
Last Updated:Oct 13, 2021 3:47 am
Just Saying, Bullying NOT funny or cool...

I really could go on a rant about this subject. I can name names. I could be just as mean. But I find that it would be a waste of negativity. This bullying in the chatrooms is NOT cool. It's not funny. It's not wanted by lots of people. There's no good reason Cyber bully. There is no good justification. In this instance I want put out there that I'm NOT accepting cyber bullying. Yes I announce that I IGGY out loud. Those who truly, I mean absolutely don't care will block me without needing comment. I believe that. Those that comment, well I've been blessed that most have common sense. Hahaha I'm not a fighter. But neither am I the type of person who accepts my friends getting bullied. You've got something say a person? Be upfront, say it , and get the hella over it. Going bully my friends or ? Yes I'm going tell you that what you are doing is WRONG, before I ANNOUNCE that I Iggy you. It's quite simple. I realize that posting this blog isn't going change bullies. But here's the thing, I'm posting this for people who are being bullied or are against bullies. Those of you with minds, with hearts, with kindness and goodness. (Or let's face it, don't care enough do bullying) Let's not fight, But let's not let an opportunity just say, what you are doing is wrong. If you choose Iggy or not. Just saying, you know?
Just A Little
Posted:Nov 3, 2020 9:06 pm
Last Updated:Nov 9, 2020 1:17 am
Just A Little

It's been such a long long while
Since I had a lover I can dial
On the telephone
I've been so alone
Each passing day
I'm just okay
I can do whatever
That I want endeavour
All on my own
I'm somewhat grown
I choose what I eat
be messy or neat
But I need
Right now I need
Just a little touch
Not too much
Not too long
Not to belong
Just a little touch
Not too much
Hug me till
Hold me till
I can be strong again
I can go on again
Its been such a long long time
Since I heard the chime
Of a lover at the door
Someone to briefly adore
To snuggle skin to skin
Like a yang to the yin
Just basking in the glow
No promise of tomorrow
For one to be
Wrapped around me
From sunrise to sunset
Please don't leave just yet
I really need
Right now I need
Just a little touch
Not to much
Not to long
Not to belong
Just a little touch
Not to much
Hug me till
Hold me till
I can be strong again
I can go on again
Don't you want to touch
Just a little touch
Just a little touch
Copyright February 2019

Dedicated to hlznhoze4u, someone who embraces themselves and inspires me, thanks to you!
Before I Met You
Posted:May 21, 2020 1:23 am
Last Updated:May 23, 2020 1:32 am
Together we are all wrong
There should not be such a thing
As ours, us or you and I
We are too much alike
And yet we are ages apart
There would of been a time
Fresh, young and filled with ideals
We would have been made for each other
We would have found perfect harmony
Stars would have aligned
Our hearts would have melded
Our bodies would have set each other
On fire with such a great passion
We would of understood each other
We would have been each other's safe harbor
Like two pieces of a puzzle
We would have fit together
This feeling I have for you now
It's just a tinge
A little bubble floating
Along an angry wind that wants to crush it
It could vanish
Or it could turn into a dreary rain
That drenches you from head to toe
Instead of a soft warm ray of sun
That makes you smile
This is not the right lifetime
We were not born this time to be together
Not as friends and not as lovers
I knew you before I met you
We were never strangers
The things I know about you
I know them from instinct
Not because you told me
But because we knew each other before
I know things I should not know
I know you like I know myself
I know why you tell me the things you do
I know you want to tell me more about what's on your mind
I know you wish you could share secrets
I know that you struggle
But you must keep struggling
Until the right one comes
You must fight yourself
To open for that right one
Because we are wrong for each other
In the brief moments
But to make more of it
Will destroy everything
You think of me
You send thoughts my way
You look at me
You send smiles my way
You touch me tenderly
With hesitant and unsure hands
Though it is not a touch I can feel
You kiss me in your mind
Softly and with reluctance
Wishing I wasn't me
But needing something more
Because I'm wrong for you
Because you are wrong for me
We don't have what it takes
To overcome such wrongness
Like a bubble in your bath
I travel up your legs
Making you effervescent
I travel up your back
Making you relax
I tickle your ear
Making you laugh
I float up until I burst
Then I am gone

SakuraMar Copywrite 2019
Dudes, Guys and Men, Just Saying
Posted:May 15, 2020 2:03 am
Last Updated:May 21, 2020 1:00 am
Dudes, Guys and Men, Just Saying

So, I was talking with a girlfriend about the difference between dudes, guys and men. We were having a good laugh how we were turning the tide on men who separate women into boxes of the bitch, the ho and so forth. Typical stereotypes that we get thrown in.
I am going to quickly throw in my disclaimer
So, this is totally not a serious post. I am just kind of giving you a little peek into the minds of some of the women I know. I am not in any way shape or form speaking for all women or women in general. If any women who read this agree, well then Party On!
Dudes.... ohhh I could do a whole post on dudes alone. (insert eyeroll) Now a guy being a dude is not always the same if a woman says dude to a guy. Sometimes I personally just like throwing around the word dude in the chatroom or while messaging a guy because being playful. Some women use the word dude as a habit.
"Dude, you got to be kidding me"
" dude, I told you that you should not have had sex with your wall plug. It does not matter if it was a blackout"
You get my meaning.
Moving on.
A man who is put in dude status...tsk tsk. Dude status is a guy who sends unwanted dick pictures. It is the guy who shows how thirsty he is in a chatroom. He is rude and crude. Most of the time he does not like typing out full sentences or use real words
"Hmu babe"
"Wuts up. Hru"
"Ur sexy, lets fuck"
Dudes are annoying and disrespectful. Dudes like to play mind games and will pretend to be friends or to want a relationship. Dudes will say they love a woman and then on all of her friends to try to sext or have sex. Dudes are one night stands and fuck buddies.
FWB and Fuck Buddies are different, just saying
Lots of dudes get blocked or barely tolerated. Dudes can be amusing. Watching them desperately try to pry a woman away from a chatroom to privately chat and bomb. Yeah, it's funny. Dudes are more prone to MIDD meltdown
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Even though dudes are annoying, you kind of feel sorry for them.
Moving on to guys. Guy status is above Dude status. Guys can be good friends. Women like me can be drawn to guys for a relationship, but it is usually a bad idea. Guys are good to talk with and hang around. Most guys do not talk very much. But when they do, it is usually a decent conversation about sports, shows, cars, ect. Spontaneous brief chats. They can be good for flirting at times. They definitely like attention and want a little bit of a connection, but not too close. Guys want to flirt and chat a bit before sliding into sex chat or getting you to meet up for sex. Unfortunately guys are good at starting relationships when they get a wild hair, but they don't last long. Guys are more into having FWB, but will indulge in the occasional fuck buddy at times.
FWB and Fuck Buddies are different, just saying
Guys are good to have around. Keep things simple and light. Being put in Guy status is not too bad. Just do not get knocked down to Dude status. Then you are screwed.
Let us now slide into Man status (Cue the singing birds and soaring magic soundtrack) Now, there is the regular Man status and there is the very lofty Gentleman status (think fantasy unicorn for women)
When a woman thinks about a man or a gentleman, it brings a smile to our , a comforting feeling or even a heart skipping crush. A man is desirable. A man is polite and nice and sane (mostly or least what is manageable) The man is responsible (mostly). The man can make the absolute best friends and are good for relationships. Many in the man status are more into long term relationships or FWB. Man status is very desirable. We love having the man around and they are fantastic in chatrooms because are polite, funny, interesting and flirty in a classy way.
So, there you have it. Which one do you think you are?

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