Backseat driver
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Posted:Mar 27, 2008 3:34 pm
Last Updated:Apr 3, 2008 9:18 pm
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OK. when we decided to get into this "lifestyle" we decided that for many reasons, my wife would do the talking/arranging/meeting type stuff and I would just kind of hang out and when she felt I needed to meet a person, that i would then meet them. I don't chat on the messenger. I occasionally post on the boards, but she always knows. She reads the blogs. No issues.
I don't want to be the one doing the talking etc. I would probably bore most of the people she talks to in a matter of minutes. She is a social butterfly and so fun to talk to.
But damn..... I have been being a backseat driver lately. I know I am getting on her nerves 
Normally when she is on the computer I am over on our loveseat which is close enough I can read a lot of the stuff on the computer. I normally am watching TV, reading, doing puzzles, playing video games that kind of stuff. Just occassionally reading up on the conversations and asking her questions.
I think it is the guy thing. That remote control hoarding, non map reading, take charge part of most men that is getting to me. I can say that she does a great job talking to people. As I have said before she has made some pretty damn good friends on this site and I can honestly say that any of the people she has talked to that I have met have been really good people. People that we enjoy hanging out with and talking to (not talking about the sex thing at all here)
Lately I have been overbearing. It is:
Hey, have you asked this
Hey, have you talked about this
Hey, why don't you say this
Hey, why didn't you respond this way.
OMG. if she was doing that while I was driving or while I was on the computer I my head would spin off of my shoulders and explode. She has been really patient with me lately. I think I am finally starting to get on her nerves. She really wants me involved. She wants my opinions on people and topics and discussions and things like that. She just doesn't want me grabbing the steering wheel and taking over, or pulling the on vacation thing (are we there yet, are we there yet, are we there yet)
I don't know if it is a control thing, or a wanting to be involved thing, or even a little lonely thing. I can honestly tell you my wife is my best friend. In every sense of the word. I really do not spend any time at all with other friends. We talk about anything and everything and I am very lucky to have her.
So I have been trying to modify my behavior lately. I have been not paying as much attention to the computer unless she asks me to. I have been asking questions but not offering much "advice". I have been wearing my MP3 player and reading and watching tv and playing games and doing whatever I need to do to keep my focus off of this computer screen.
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Defcon 9..... Screw it. Defcon 999
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Posted:Mar 27, 2008 3:15 pm
Last Updated:Apr 7, 2008 8:49 pm
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As some of you may have read in a past post, I have been struggling with my liking boys and wanting to talk and date. Well, this boy that had come over to the house a few times while wife was home and I was gone, came over last night while I was home. 
Stay cool. Stay cool. I kept telling myself. 
Scare the shit out of him. Scare the shit out of him. I also kept telling myself. 
Guess which side of the Dad conscience won???????
OK. actually I didnt do too bad. According to me anyway. I pulled the crazy dad thing and decided to get one of my handguns (I am safe and licensed and experienced) and casually leave it on the coffee table near the front door (OK, it sounds cliche and everyone has heard the story about the redneck cleaning his shotgun when the boy comes over. At least I had it laying on the table. sheeesh)
He came in and stood looking at me and I was a good boy and stood up and shook his hand (squeezed a little, but not full crushing strength) and said hi and had a little small talk. My wanted to talk to him without parent ears around so we left them in the living room and we came down to the basement for a little bit (I brought the gun with me and didn't brandish it threateningly or anything.LO . Our spy... I mean was still upstairs. Then we went back upstairs. I asked him if he liked sports and we talked a little bit and he told me about an upcoming trip he is going on and then I went back into the kitchen. Kind of like sticking your toes in the pool to test the water. Since we were upstairs, she wanted to go to her room so my wife told her to leave the door open and they did.
We ate dinner and then he left. My asked me if I liked him. I said yeah, not bad for a little punk. (I need help or medication or a long hibernation until she is 30)
SOOOOOO.... I talk to my wife on break at work. She tells me that our "officially" has a boyfriend. My stomach started twisting and turning. Deep breaths. Deep breaths. Breathe Breathe. I said "That's nice" and changed the subject.
To be fair, he seems like a nice guy, if not a little nerdy. I'm glad he is not the star of the football or basketball team. It just bothers me that I hear her talking to her mom about some of her friends have had sex and things like that. Is it illegal to lock her in the basement until she is 30? 
She is really a good girl. Has a pretty good head on her shoulders. I really need to trust her and am trying hard to do so. I am at least trying not to let her see how upset I am about it and saving that for private discussions with the wife. I'm glad I didn't scare him away (although a warning is always good. kind of like the "danger shark infested waters" signs on some beaches). I love my . She has been happy and smiling lately and she deserves that. I have to quit being selfish and start thinking about her needing to experience life and feel what it is like to have someone other than her family care about her. I just want her to stay my baby forever and I know that is not possible. 
I guess I will continue to strive to be the bigger person and hold back my fears and give her a little freedom.
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A different path
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Posted:Mar 25, 2008 7:46 pm
Last Updated:Mar 30, 2008 3:15 pm
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Has anyone ever had a time in their life when they just were unsure of what to do with the rest of their life? I am speaking of a career path. I at the ripe old age of 28 went back to college to get a degree in the medical field. I have been at my job for almost 5 years now ( first job out of school ). I have been completely happy for the most part with what I do. Lately, I have been struggling with the fact that I don't like my job so much anymore, and what should I do about it, if anything. I have thought about going back to school to do something completly different. Is that such a smart idea at my age ( 34 ). I know people say you are never to old to go back to school. There are alot of questions/decisions that need to be made before I move any further with anything. Does anyone have any suggestions, or has anyone struggled with this in their life, if so how did you deal with it?
Wife of Indyman
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Father to a teenage girl..... and struggling
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Posted:Mar 21, 2008 5:23 pm
Last Updated:Mar 27, 2008 2:58 pm
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The people that know me pretty well would probably tell you I am a very nice, sweet, polite guy. I am normally pretty calm and collected.
The people that know me really well, would tell you that I am an emotional person. With that comes good and bad. I am very loving, caring, loyal, protective. That's the good. The bad comes out sometimes in the form of anger, resentment. Now I can tell you (and I hope the wife can agree) that the good far outweighs the bad. For every 10 days I am in the good category. I might have one in the bad category.
But lately I have been struggling. 1 reason. A teenage girl that is into boys. I try to trust. I try to understand. I try to give her freedom. And then I think about what the hornball I was at her age. I think about the lust and desire I had. The want to experiment. To touch. To have. Not to love. Not to caress. Not to care for........
Then I think of these teenage boys.
These horny little mother f$%kers. My blood starts heating up. I have always been the cool dad. The dad that listens to cool music. That talks to like they are people and not just . Now I think about hurting someone . Now mind you I am too in control and collected to really hurt one of these boys. But I think about it
Last night I had something to do after work. I called my wife and she said that this boy was coming over. This is the boy that my confided in her that she had kissed. Nothing dramatic. Just a smooch according to her. Twice no less. My says this boy is scared to death of me. I can be kind of intimidating if you don't know me. Especially if you are a punk teenage boy trying to eyeball my .
This is the second time he has been over in the last few weeks. My insists they are just friends and she don't like him. Of course both of these times happened to be on nights where I was not going to be home. OK. I was a little hot again. I asked my wife why this little punk ass bitch was always happening to come over when I was going to be gone. I couldn't quite buy coincidence. My wife keeps them in sight and doesn't let them get any real alone time. Doors stay open. She keeps an eye out. My is a walking surveillance system.
The first time he come over my and him went in her room to talk and she tried to shut the door. My came running out to my wife and said "MOM THEY ARE HAVING SEX". She put the quick kibosh on that and made sure she knew door stayed open.
I text messaged my wife today from work and told her that I was really struggling with this. That I really wanted to punch every boy she knew in the face as a "subtle" warning to stay in line. My eyes cross when I think about some slimy little boy trying to make moves on my baby girl. I take deep breaths. Take a happy pill. Think about anything else but that.
I know. Everyone says to trust your . That you raised them right and you have to let them have some freedom and room to make mistakes. Being a parent sucks sometimes. I want to trust her. I want to give her freedom. Then I think of the horny teenage boys and that goes out the window.
But I try. I try to do the right thing. I try not to let on to her how much it aggravates me because she is getting older and is no longer just our baby. She is a young woman. And I love her and want to protect her. 
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Lunchtime Rendezvous
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Posted:Mar 17, 2008 7:10 pm
Last Updated:Mar 24, 2008 8:52 pm
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OK. I want to be upfront and tell everyone that this doesn't involve sex. If you want to hear me being all sappy about my wife, please read on...
I had the day off today. I was supposed to have a doctor's appointment, but it was cancelled by the office (long boring part of the story that I will skip for your reading pleasure). I had already scheduled the day off, so I decided to just go ahead and take the day off. Unfortunately my wife is almost out of time off for a few more months, so she had to work.
I slept in. Ohhhhhh that was nice. And then I got up and cleaned up and got dressed and drove to her office. I picked her up for lunch and we went to Buffalo Wild Wings. I got the best kisses when I picked her up {=}. Yummmmmy. We got a table and sat there and held hands and talked and looked at each other and did some more kissing. It was awesome!!!  .
After that I took her back to work. We kissed again before going in and then had to act "appropriate for the workplace (overrated)" after that. Her boss and co-workers love me so I hung out for a little bit and visited with everyone and then it was time to leave . We went into the hallway without security cameras and kissed some more and then I left to go home. Brokenhearted for a few more hours, until I could see her again. 
OK. sappy story is over. Next time I will try to write something a little less sugary.
Thanks for stopping by!
Indyman
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The strip club
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Posted:Feb 29, 2008 5:42 pm
Last Updated:Mar 19, 2008 8:50 pm
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Ok, has there ever been a better place created than the strip club? As someone who has been to a few strip clubs in my life, I can tell you there are good ones and bad ones. There are even times of day where the good ones resemble the bad ones. But on a decent night, it doesn't get much better than that in America. I started going to strip clubs when I hit 21. Some friends took me to one for my 21st b-day and got me soooo drunk and bought me quite a few lap dances. Boinggggg. I was hooked. I was never the type to spend a fortune there. More of a voyeur. I liked watching the girls and the guys that tried their best to woo these girls into something that 9999 out of 10000 times was not going to happen. The girls are experts at making you think they are intested. Most are interested in the presidents that reside in your wallet. Many are normal, good girls/women that can hold an intelligent conversation and are just trying to make a buck. Some are missing a few teeth and are a little dusty, but hey, it takes all kinds to make the world go round. Now I am quite possibly one of the luckiest men in the world, because my wife LOVES going to the strip club. She normally comes home purring and ready to "reward" me for just being the lucky one to go there with her and come home with her! We have one in particular we like a lot, are really comfortable there, and have a few dancers and waitresses that recognize us and chat us up when we are there. OK. I have to go. We are off to the strip club again And I don't want to keep my honey waiting. 
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Mother Nature is a cruel cruel lady : (
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Posted:Feb 21, 2008 7:56 pm
Last Updated:Mar 6, 2008 7:27 pm
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They say timing is everything. I can attest to that. Having been on the site for a few months, I would guestimate that the ratio of couples looking for a solo woman to solo women looking for couples is about 10 to 1. The odds are stacked against us.
My wife is a very sweet person and easy to talk to. She has met some really nice people on here. She/we have clicked with a few and discussed going to the next level. On more than one occassion, that evil evil lady mother nature has reared her ugly head.
We are married with and two careers. Everyone has a busy life outside of this site and the lifestyle, so normally these plans start formulating a week or so ahead of time. Sometimes one party or the other will warn that they are getting "into the red zone" and will keep the other party posted.
The week drags on.
Monday. safe.
Tuesday safe.
Wednesday possibly some signs. Please no!
Thursday starting downhill. Noooooooooo
Friday free fall. Damn.
Cancel/Reschedule
Now I know that no woman wants to have their period and if they could choose, it would go away and never come back. I know science has now come up with a few ways to stop them or make them less frequent. I don't blame either party in this situation. The cancellation/reschedule has happened from both sides. I just know it is frustrating to me as the spoiled rotten boy and to everyone involved.
OK. I feel better getting this off of my chest. Back to your regularly scheduled programming. Thanks for stopping by!! 
Indy man
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I like when girls kiss girls
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Posted:Feb 18, 2008 8:54 pm
Last Updated:Mar 6, 2008 7:28 pm
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This has been an interesting journey. For any of you that have had the pleasure to talk to us , you will have spoken with the "wife" part of us. She is the one that does 99.99% of the talking on here. Now that we have the blog, I (indyman) get a chance to talk.
I just wanted to relate the story of how we have ended up here. I think it is a good story.
We have been married over 10 years. Our last anniversary I took my wife out and we had a great time. A movie. Dinner at a fancy restaurant. A gondola ride on the canal downtown. We went to a bar and threw some darts and listened to a band. As we were leaving the bar we werent ready to go home and I made an offhand comment about us going to a strip club. we had discussed it before, but I never seriously thought she would go. She was game and I actually started feeling kind of weird. Was thinking she would either get mad at me if I was having too much fun, or knock one of the strippers the hell out for getting too close to me. Boy was I surprised. She had to have a few drinks and finally got the courage to go up to pervert row and get some nice large breasts in her face. She liked it. She did it again and again and again. On the way home she was hotter than a campfire and we went home and had a great time. She was talking dirty about adding a third party with nice big boobies and it was hot. I thought it was just the experience and the alcohol talking. About a week later the topic came up again and then we talked about it again and then again and then decided we would give it a try. Did some searching on the internet to try to figure out the best way to meet a third and do it safely. That ended up bringing us to FriendFinder-x. We have met a lot of nice people. A few of them we consider freinds. Some that have turned out to be more than friends  . A lot that have been full of crap. All in all, it has been a good experience, once you filter out all the BS and get your expectation level to jive with reality.
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Married w/ and in the lifestyle!
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Posted:Feb 17, 2008 10:14 pm
Last Updated:Mar 6, 2008 7:28 pm
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I was just curious if anyone would have any insight on this subject. Of the many people on here who have , has the subject ever came up about your lifestyle, and how would you handle a situation or discussion like that? If anyone has any insight or has already experienced this sort of discussion with their , please feel free to respond, and add your thoughts. We are a couple that has been married for awhile and have . One is a , the other is still in single digits. Our would understand what we are into, however our other would not. Hopefully neither find out, but I am curious, yet horrified to find out what would be their response if they were to find out.
Wife of Indyman
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