The revolution is dead!  

reallyready46 62M
557 posts
1/20/2017 8:27 pm
The revolution is dead!


After months of thinking about this, reading attempting to chat with people I no declare that the sexually revolution is now dead. Yup D E A D.

How did I reach this conculsion, you ask? Well like the good scientist I am through simple observation and testing. I was at a party recently and a Black gentleman made an observation that there are no sexually taboos left. White woman openly lust for black men. Bisexuality has become open. Woman are free to chase what ever they want. We have made anything goes the rule. Our TV shows and every days words are filled with sex. It seems as though we have surrounded ourselfs with it so much, we lost interest in doing it.

Over the last several months I have tried to IM with several couples or ladies. In spite of looking for racier profiles, the end result is the same. Nothing, not a word back. In the rare times I have heard something back, the next communication goes unanswered. It appears that the idea of sex is appealing but not the actual act. In some cases I have noticed many of the profiles spelling out more and more terms. Terms like, only black, only thick, only so many inches long, a very narrow age range, etc.

Sadlly it seems like all the sites are like this. No action, no play. A couple I know told me they are having a tough time meeting other couples.

Have we become so jaded with sex that doing is is becoming watching free porn on TV. The idea of actually DOING IT, no longer appeals to us? Or have we become so jaded that we only do it with an ideal that we are searching to find?

The revolution is dead, it was good while it lasted.

Yellowdaisies2 47F
39 posts
8/28/2021 9:32 pm

My problem is I am afraid I will get attached to someone like I did once from someone on here and I was a stupid and dumbass for it and vowed never to be those again.


reallyready46 replies on 8/29/2021 3:36 pm:
I do not think meeting is a bad thing. I need some chemistry to make it fun. There is always that chance of meeting and getting attached. Biology plays a huge part. If you strip away all the hype attachment is for survival. Survival of young and survival of couples. Two sets of eyes are better than one when looking for danger.

If I may say from your posts and blog you seem like a thoughtful lady. We all make mistakes in our life. Whatever happened, happened, treat it like a lesson learned.

reallyready46 62M
1350 posts
2/18/2017 6:42 pm

    Quoting Yours_4A_knight:
    I have heard (well read) one LEO describe internet dating as the new Hitchhiking, so people, more often women than men have very real and reasonable concerns about the safety of meeting someone.
    Combine that with a mass produced, everything is available of the shelf immediately mentality, the dehumanizing effect of anomynous computer communication, and woman just being presented with so many options all the time it is pushing impossible for any man, especailly just an average or slightly sub par one like myself to get any signal through the noise. Even if I have their fleeting interest, in never lasts, there is always the next better model.
    My Point? I think that the sexual revolution is not so much dead as that I think that for men at least, internet as a venue to meet people has become a losing proposition.
A couple of weeks ago I was watching this video were a guy was asking to date face to face. The overwhelming response from woman were I only date on line. I agree with your idea of online presenting all most infinite choices. The problem is with all these choices when are you finally going to meet? It seems as if every one is happy just to perv on line anymore. Woman in general seem to have this attitude that they get what ever they want with no thought of what happens. Do not get me wrong I have greatly enjoyed watching a lady take several men in one evening. Many woman have forsaken all other races for black males. How is this being open? It is not. This is buying into someones myth.


Yours_4A_knight 56M
1501 posts
1/31/2017 8:03 am

I have heard (well read) one LEO describe internet dating as the new Hitchhiking, so people, more often women than men have very real and reasonable concerns about the safety of meeting someone.
Combine that with a mass produced, everything is available of the shelf immediately mentality, the dehumanizing effect of anomynous computer communication, and woman just being presented with so many options all the time it is pushing impossible for any man, especailly just an average or slightly sub par one like myself to get any signal through the noise. Even if I have their fleeting interest, in never lasts, there is always the next better model.
My Point? I think that the sexual revolution is not so much dead as that I think that for men at least, internet as a venue to meet people has become a losing proposition.

Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.


BiggLala 49F  
30144 posts
1/22/2017 12:05 am

    Quoting reallyready46:
    Well in your first post you talked about people wanting everything now. So I assumed you were referring to women and men. Lol you do not date women and I do not date guys so I guess we are in the same position there. I understand and have been treated once to the lets get naked now and screw. Its kinda scary for some woman just to hit you up without even a little chat.

    Thank you for your insight and comments.
Haha, yeah my bad. I realized how my comment sounded...that I referred to both genders. Although, the fast food, microwave mentality does apply to both genders, the behaviors just manifest themselves in different ways. It's difficult to explain...just trust me.

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reallyready46 62M
1350 posts
1/21/2017 5:04 pm

    Quoting BiggLala:
    I suppose you're asking why don't females ask to meet quicker? If so, I have no answer for that as I don't seek females to date or have sex with. My initial comment was geared toward my experience with men. My guess is, though, that most females are not interested in immediate, random hookups. IME, most guys ask to meet right away...like in less than 30 minutes after chatting. Hell, some ask in a first message.

    As for why some just stop chatting? They found someone they thought was better or they think the person has more of what they're looking for...i.e. the 'next'.
Well in your first post you talked about people wanting everything now. So I assumed you were referring to women and men. Lol you do not date women and I do not date guys so I guess we are in the same position there. I understand and have been treated once to the lets get naked now and screw. Its kinda scary for some woman just to hit you up without even a little chat.

Thank you for your insight and comments.


BiggLala 49F  
30144 posts
1/21/2017 3:10 pm

    Quoting reallyready46:
    Interesting idea, I see your point. Then if so many want it in an instant then why do they not push to meet quicker? Or why in the middle of chatting do so many just stop chatting??
I suppose you're asking why don't females ask to meet quicker? If so, I have no answer for that as I don't seek females to date or have sex with. My initial comment was geared toward my experience with men. My guess is, though, that most females are not interested in immediate, random hookups. IME, most guys ask to meet right away...like in less than 30 minutes after chatting. Hell, some ask in a first message.

As for why some just stop chatting? They found someone they thought was better or they think the person has more of what they're looking for...i.e. the 'next'.

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reallyready46 62M
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1/21/2017 9:32 am

    Quoting BiggLala:
    I don't think it's necessarily that we're jaded or everything is out in the open. I think it's because most everyone wants it in an instant or they're always looking for 'next'. People's interests are too transient these days, stemmed from a fast food mentality as if you always get everything your way straight off the menu. Few take the time to build from a slow simmer and allow it to boil. Nope, people want sex in an instant served up from the microwave. Yes, I mixed metaphors but I think you get my point.
Interesting idea, I see your point. Then if so many want it in an instant then why do they not push to meet quicker? Or why in the middle of chatting do so many just stop chatting??


BiggLala 49F  
30144 posts
1/21/2017 2:14 am

I don't think it's necessarily that we're jaded or everything is out in the open. I think it's because most everyone wants it in an instant or they're always looking for 'next'. People's interests are too transient these days, stemmed from a fast food mentality as if you always get everything your way straight off the menu. Few take the time to build from a slow simmer and allow it to boil. Nope, people want sex in an instant served up from the microwave. Yes, I mixed metaphors but I think you get my point.

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