Surprise phone calls from my Mighty Marine....  

secret_lade 47F
13988 posts
10/3/2021 6:23 am
Surprise phone calls from my Mighty Marine....


My Marine called last night, it was certainly good to hear his voice.

In the background I could hear the voices of all of his other squad mates calling family as well, it felt kind of reassuring to me. Reassuring in the fact that my boy wasn't going through this all alone, their voices were proof that they are all part of this process and every one of them were going through the same things as he. Their parents? Going through the same emotional roller coaster as me.

He will be off to his occupational schooling in three days, infantry is now under his belt, but he also told me he will be going overseas once his occupational schooling is done.

My heart sank....

"No"

"Yes Ma"

"No, I don't want you overseas"

"I'm going overseas Ma"

He doesn't know just where yet, he just knows he's going. My irrational mind is screaming at me, how can I protect him when he's an ocean away?? My rational mind is completely silent.

I hate it when my rational mind doesn't speak up.

My irrational thoughts have a way of consuming me.

lindoboy100 58M
23884 posts
10/4/2021 9:21 am

I hope your young man there gets on okay. I'll be thinking of ya!

Nada mΓ‘s que fallas......


lickeyzsplit 59M  
1408 posts
10/4/2021 5:49 am

My Heart sunk reading your thoughts ... cannot imagine the feelings you are having right now ! Thinking of you and your Marine .. Just know he is with and surrounded by the Best of the Best looking after each other !! Sending Hugs xoxo


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
10/4/2021 3:00 am

    Quoting Erogedyne:
    When your rational mind gets over the shock and dismay, I would be willing to bet that it says something along the lines of, "He's doing the thing that he feels compelled to do and he is doing it with dignity & honor. That's what Marines do. It's scary as shit, but I'm so proud of him!"

    And it IS scary as shit, probably for both of you, there is no question about it! But he has made adult choices about how he will be in service to our country. That's now his job! Your job is still to love him intensely, to be with him always in spirit, and to support his choices wholeheartedly! If he knows that you are 100% behind his choices, it will make it easier for him to fulfill his oath of enlistment to the very best of his ability.

    p.s. Young guys at training and at remote assignments love to get "care packages" from home. Nothing special, just items that will help him to remember things about home and the reasons for volunteering for service to our country.

    Signed,
    SFC Erogedyne, US Army, ret.
When he was in Boot, we were told not to send anything special, so I did not. He was in infantry training for only 2 weeks, so he never even had an address for me to send anything to. I fully intend on sending some care packages while he's at MOS. I can't wait.


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
10/4/2021 2:49 am

    Quoting MrWrong4RghtNow:
    Big hugs. I have no words of wisdom as the others have already dispensed great pearls to offer you solace. I don't have children but I can understand the need to protect your loved ones at all times. You mama bear instincts may feel like they are squeezing the rational side to bits but I think that's what makes you such a awesome human being. Your capacity to care is also your strength. Just give it time and you'll see.
I'm more of a Mama Velociraptor.... Which is why I think I take this kind of stuff so hard. My anxiety plays a huge role in this also as all this change has become an anxiety trigger for me too. This is something I'm going to have to accept, though, as his life, for as long as he's in the Marines, will be a constant state of change.


MrWrong4RghtNow 55M  
2184 posts
10/4/2021 1:55 am

Big hugs. I have no words of wisdom as the others have already dispensed great pearls to offer you solace. I don't have children but I can understand the need to protect your loved ones at all times. You mama bear instincts may feel like they are squeezing the rational side to bits but I think that's what makes you such a awesome human being. Your capacity to care is also your strength. Just give it time and you'll see.

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Erogedyne 69M
894 posts
10/3/2021 9:01 pm

When your rational mind gets over the shock and dismay, I would be willing to bet that it says something along the lines of, "He's doing the thing that he feels compelled to do and he is doing it with dignity & honor. That's what Marines do. It's scary as shit, but I'm so proud of him!"

And it IS scary as shit, probably for both of you, there is no question about it! But he has made adult choices about how he will be in service to our country. That's now his job! Your job is still to love him intensely, to be with him always in spirit, and to support his choices wholeheartedly! If he knows that you are 100% behind his choices, it will make it easier for him to fulfill his oath of enlistment to the very best of his ability.

p.s. Young guys at training and at remote assignments love to get "care packages" from home. Nothing special, just items that will help him to remember things about home and the reasons for volunteering for service to our country.

Signed,
SFC Erogedyne, US Army, ret.

Please check out my latest blog post "Happy Thanksgiving To One And All"


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
10/3/2021 4:33 pm

    Quoting benard69:
    That's the very hard part for moms and dads..The military does train around the world for different situations..He'll be with his brothers and sisters..Prayers for his safety and Hugs for mom...
They do train around the world and not all of the locations are dangerous or conflict zones. I just need to trust that he can take care of himself and those around him as they will take care of him as well. Thank you for your prayers, that means a lot to me.


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
10/3/2021 4:30 pm

    Quoting citizen4722:
    It's what he's being trained for and he will be with a strong band of brothers.
Yes, it is what he is being trained for. And yes, he will be with a strong band of brothers.


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
10/3/2021 4:28 pm

    Quoting CUMHANDLEME:
    Oh boy Momma. I have no advice on this one but agree with the other's comments. He'll be surrounded with others who are trained to protect each other.
It does make me feel reassured that he's not going this alone. One of his poolee friends is with him right now, I'm hoping that the two of them end up traveling together as well.


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
10/3/2021 4:25 pm

    Quoting boobwhisperer69:
    He will be with other Marines! No better or safer company!!!
Yes he will!


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
10/3/2021 4:25 pm

    Quoting 69ereatwetpussy:
    you have many reason to worry for it out of your hands and control.
    sorry to say but he choose to join in times of trouble. my nephew did 3 tours in the middle east and been in Japan for 5 years just got back to the states two month ago. is at camp Lejeune once again, his time is ending getting close to 20 years.
He did choose this path, and I do support him, whether I worry or not. I'm just so glad he calls home and texts, it does make this transition much more bearable for me.


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
10/3/2021 4:22 pm

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    Being posted overseas may not mean entering a war zone. There's not too many now that America has come out of Afghanistan.
Very true, very true. My irrational mind just always goes to the worst case scenario. That's why I post these entries... It's good for me to see and hear the feedback, to see there are other sides to be seen.


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
10/3/2021 4:20 pm

    Quoting pagancountrygirl:
    Overseas doesn't always mean a conflict area. My sister's first husband was in the Air Force and spent a number of years in Germany. Her youngest son was born in Germany. When I had an opportunity to fly for free to Germany back in the late 90s, I took her with me. We had fun and she was a pretty good tour guide!
You are right, it doesn't necessarily mean a conflict area. One of my coworkers spent 8 years in Germany before he retired. It's just so far away....


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
10/3/2021 4:18 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Irrational thoughts have a mind of their own. You can try and push them aside by getting busy with another task.
    How's about those apple orchards and a walk along a calm country road? πŸ€”
    Or a drive... Turkey πŸ¦ƒ hunting? πŸ˜Άβ—
My daughter and I ended up spending the day unpacking more boxes and putting up curtains and shoe racks. It's amazing how quickly the day went by... It went from 10:30 am to 7 pm in the blink of an eye.


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
10/3/2021 4:16 pm

    Quoting patchdriver:
    Console yourself that dangerous military action is quiet overseas: no Iraq, no Afghanistan. I used to get calls from my son who was in Canada's special services saying he was going to a distant, hot land but couldn't say where. He survived two tours of Afghanistan, Somalia, Rwanda, Bosnia and God knows where else that he couldn't say.

    Yes, it is a worry and something always on my mind, but I knew he was well trained, intelligent and well lead by competent officers. Did that help? No!

    He loved his job as your son loves his, and that helps diminish the worry because he is happy.
I do feel better knowing that it is quiet overseas right now.... And just because he's overseas it doesn't mean he's traveling to a war zone of some kind. It's time for me to trust that he's got this! He's a smart kid and will make wise decisions.


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
10/3/2021 4:11 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    Your rational mind would tell you "he's going overseas with a bunch of well armed, well trained Marines, working for a group that knows far better than us civilians what possible dangers lurk overseas and will do their best to keep him out of harms way."
Thank you... I needed that. This does make me feel better.


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
10/3/2021 4:07 pm

    Quoting funsnellvillecpl:
    He is among other Marines and we watch each others backs . He will be fine , Semper Fi , Gunny
I know you are 100% correct, but it's still tough. I'm certain it will get easier with time, though.


benard69 63M/63F  
6205 posts
10/3/2021 3:39 pm

That's the very hard part for moms and dads..The military does train around the world for different situations..He'll be with his brothers and sisters..Prayers for his safety and Hugs for mom...


citizen4722 63M  
73451 posts
10/3/2021 1:41 pm

It's what he's being trained for and he will be with a strong band of brothers.


CUMHANDLEME 59F  
790 posts
10/3/2021 12:23 pm

Oh boy Momma. I have no advice on this one but agree with the other's comments. He'll be surrounded with others who are trained to protect each other.

Do you have any Primal Urges ... I do, please CUMHANDLEME and explore some of my naughty and nice Primal ... Urges with me !!!


boobwhisperer69 58M  
7825 posts
10/3/2021 10:48 am

He will be with other Marines! No better or safer company!!!


69ereatwetpussy 59M
6178 posts
10/3/2021 10:00 am

you have many reason to worry for it out of your hands and control.
sorry to say but he choose to join in times of trouble. my nephew did 3 tours in the middle east and been in Japan for 5 years just got back to the states two month ago. is at camp Lejeune once again, his time is ending getting close to 20 years.


spunkycumfun 61M/66F
39283 posts
10/3/2021 8:39 am

Being posted overseas may not mean entering a war zone. There's not too many now that America has come out of Afghanistan.


pagancountrygirl 64F
6207 posts
10/3/2021 8:28 am

Overseas doesn't always mean a conflict area. My sister's first husband was in the Air Force and spent a number of years in Germany. Her youngest son was born in Germany. When I had an opportunity to fly for free to Germany back in the late 90s, I took her with me. We had fun and she was a pretty good tour guide!

Pagan
Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!


Paulxx001 64M
21892 posts
10/3/2021 7:31 am

Irrational thoughts have a mind of their own. You can try and push them aside by getting busy with another task.
How's about those apple orchards and a walk along a calm country road? πŸ€”
Or a drive... Turkey πŸ¦ƒ hunting? πŸ˜Άβ—


patchdriver 66M/66F  
128 posts
10/3/2021 7:26 am

Console yourself that dangerous military action is quiet overseas: no Iraq, no Afghanistan. I used to get calls from my son who was in Canada's special services saying he was going to a distant, hot land but couldn't say where. He survived two tours of Afghanistan, Somalia, Rwanda, Bosnia and God knows where else that he couldn't say.

Yes, it is a worry and something always on my mind, but I knew he was well trained, intelligent and well lead by competent officers. Did that help? No!

He loved his job as your son loves his, and that helps diminish the worry because he is happy.


mc_justmc 61M  
6837 posts
10/3/2021 7:16 am

Your rational mind would tell you "he's going overseas with a bunch of well armed, well trained Marines, working for a group that knows far better than us civilians what possible dangers lurk overseas and will do their best to keep him out of harms way."


funsnellvillecpl 64M/52F  
3805 posts
10/3/2021 7:08 am

He is among other Marines and we watch each others backs . He will be fine , Semper Fi , Gunny


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
10/3/2021 6:24 am

My Marine called last night, it was certainly good to hear his voice.

In the background I could hear the voices of all of his other squad mates calling family as well, it felt kind of reassuring to me. Reassuring in the fact that my boy wasn't going through this all alone, their voices were proof that they are all part of this process and every one of them were going through the same things as he. Their parents? Going through the same emotional roller coaster as me.

He will be off to his occupational schooling in three days, infantry is now under his belt, but he also told me he will be going overseas once his occupational schooling is done.

My heart sank....

"No"

"Yes Ma"

"No, I don't want you overseas"

"I'm going overseas Ma"

He doesn't know just where yet, he just knows he's going. My irrational mind is screaming at me, how can I protect him when he's an ocean away?? My rational mind is completely silent.

I hate it when my rational mind doesn't speak up.

My irrational thoughts have a way of consuming me.


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