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sexyldy1000 60F  
10047 posts
7/5/2021 12:05 pm
I Am Strong



I learned a long time ago to accept myself for who I am. With one exception.

Like many women, I wasn't ready to accept being grey-haired. It was easy to think it would make me look "old". After all, my Mother had beautiful, thick hair which she coloured until her passing at age seventy-five. On the other hand, I have relatives that turned prematurely grey in their early 20's

With everything else that has happened this past year, it gave me time to reflect and consider what's really important. I decided if someone was going to judge me solely on the colour of my hair, then they aren't the kind of people I want to know.

So, I went to the hairdresser, cut my hair short to get rid of all remnants of the old me. I couldn't be happier. The compliments have been an added delight and my bank account won't take the same hit


Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/5/2021 12:10 pm

Does the colour of someone's hair, impact your attraction to them?

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


DiscreteSlowRide 51M
356 posts
7/5/2021 12:18 pm

Good!! You have to do what makes you feel comfortable.

I found my first gray hair when I was 17.
17!!!!
I didn't even graduate high school yet!!
More grays came in my 20's and my friends LOVED to give me crap about it.
BUT..at some point we always turn a corner! When I hit my 30's and 40's that gray hair was very very appreciated and got me a lot of positive attention. Even better, my friends who tortured me about my gray hair have not had hair to turn gray since their 30's.

Thank you karma!!
Mwahahaha


spunkycumfun 61M/66F
38547 posts
7/5/2021 12:24 pm

Au naturel is usually best.


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/5/2021 12:33 pm

Rather ironically, after my recent trip to the hairdresser, a male friend brought up the subject of grey-haired women and his lack of attraction to them. Eventually, I lost it, and told him bluntly, "Well guess what? I am now one of them!".

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


coolpoolguy3 55M
3271 posts
7/5/2021 12:59 pm

I started going grey as a teen, my Mom was more concerned about than me (she kept trying to pull them out when I wasn't looking, lol). Don't get me wrong I'm attracted to redheads and brunettes mostly but I like to see a person's natural colour and Grey is a very good look especially if it is backed by confidence and personality.


DiscreteSlowRide 51M
356 posts
7/5/2021 1:11 pm

Honestly...I don't care what color a woman's hair is. I love them all. it comes down to the individual. I would never not date someone because of their hair color. I'm a fan of all of them.


redrockrascal 63M
23260 posts
7/5/2021 1:18 pm

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    Does the colour of someone's hair, impact your attraction to them?
Yes to a point. Grey doesn't bother me as long as the "style" fits the person. OTOH pink, purple and neon colors tend to make a person look less bright than their hair.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


Tmptrzz 58F
102661 posts
7/5/2021 1:18 pm

I love that MEME as it's so true, from one strong lady to another, we have been there and done that my friend. I stopped coloring my hair years ago, as I my grey make my hair look like it's frosted so I am good with that. I am glad your enjoying your new hair style. I hope your Monday is a great start to your week..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


DiscreteSlowRide 51M
356 posts
7/5/2021 1:20 pm

As far as your male friend who said he is not attracted to women with gray hair... I know it is much easier to be affected by one negative comment compare to 20 positive comments. But at the end of the day, you have to be happy with yourself.

One example....I started buzzing my hair about 8 years ago. I have a really nice thick head of salt and pepper hair but i just wanted to buzz it off and not have to fuss with it every day.

So a female friend if mine old me she is more attracted to me when my hair is longer. Short hair on men is not attractive. Honestly, it didn't affect me because I have no interest in her, I don't care if she is attracted to me so, it's her issue.

Don't let your friend male get to you if you are happy with your hair.


Paulxx001 64M
21599 posts
7/5/2021 1:21 pm

If you're happy in your own skin that's all that matters.


lonlyforlove2 78M
33432 posts
7/5/2021 1:31 pm

Don't le it worry you even a little. Be your self. When I was 21 my hair got thin. when I was 25 It was almost all gone, Now, I can get a hair cut in 2 min, I can jump in the shower dry off and with a whisk of a dry towel and 1 min it is dry, just no up keep. I know you say that is different, it may be but still some men fight for all just to keep a full head of hair. The color as long as it is well groomed just doesn't matter, Is good to look at. It just shows your strength and life experiences ..

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dwz5234 69M  
1465 posts
7/5/2021 1:40 pm

I have had gray hair since my teens also find grey hair on older women very sexy. Just be yourself


justskin1 69M
12686 posts
7/5/2021 1:42 pm

The color of her hair is not a factor. Her comfort with herself and whether she has a positive or negative attitude plus intelligence is what attracts me.

If you see me in the real world, come say "Hi Justskin."

I always behave. Preferably not well.


BiJack55 72M  
316 posts
7/5/2021 1:54 pm

I have been bald since I was 28. Tried to comb over and finally decided that was stupid, vain and looked really bad. After that I kept it cut short a few years then just started shaving my head. I figure anyone who judges you by your looks is not someone I want around me. They are shallow, with a low self esteem and trying to make themselves feel better about they're own failings. Lie life on your own terms and screw anyone who doesn't like it. And I think you are a mature, Sexy woman. Jack


lust4life59 62F
2292 posts
7/5/2021 2:32 pm

I did the same about 10 years ago. I love it, and like you said, saved thousands (yes thousands) of dollars over the years. I get more compliments on it than I ever did when I was trying to cover the gray. Or even for that matter before I ever saw a single strand of gray. If someone doesn't like it, too bad for them, there's 20 more that DO like it.


salty_one_65 56M
61 posts
7/5/2021 2:45 pm

I genuinely feel sad for those who have pre-defined acceptance criteria for who'd they'd like to meet (and possibly become intimate with).

To each, his/her own.

In my simple world, grey (or gray) hair can be very attractive and can re-inforce the image of a mature woman.

That being said, a very beautiful brunette, auburn, red, black, blonde, etc woman can also be very unattractive to me if she is not a good person on the inside.

Three years ago, my ex began to let her natural hair color grow out...I think she looks incredible with her long silver locks (and because I still have a great deal of respect for her as the person she is).

If your personal choice is to be natural, be confident in that decision (own it)...your beauty will show through!


resant78 42M  
3263 posts
7/5/2021 4:11 pm

I started getting grey hairs (on my head) when I was a Junior in High School.
At first I felt embarrased that I had them, and I would yank them out and pretend they never existed.
One day a girl, (who was very attractive, one of many high school crushes) was talking with her friend. The friend said to attractive girl, "You got a gray hair right here!" and was reaching up, as to remove it. Attractive girl said, "No, leave it there, I earned that gray hair!"

And that mundane, seemingly meaningless exchange stuck with me forever.

Since then, I have a thing for women with gray hair.
Silver hair is SO hot on women! I love it!!


MrRareity 61M  
4460 posts
7/5/2021 6:14 pm

First of all I think you are a strong woman that is my opinion and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. I have always felt that you thought you are a strong woman as well. I have to disagree with you on the gray hair. If I care about the color of your hair then I am to shallow and you should tell me to get lost. I just saw a friend of mine that I use to work with. She is mid to late 40's. She colored her hair light gray with pink strips through it. I love it and she looks good in it. Any man worth a damn would see a beautiful woman with a heart of gold, who is strong, and tells it like she see's it just as I do. I care about you (now it would bother me if we were dating and you didn't was it a pet peeve of mine) not the color of your hair. But if you're happier with it after you got it cute then that's the only thing that matters!!

We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious


ClassicRock2015 67M
1935 posts
7/5/2021 6:45 pm

Colour of hair is not a preference for me...im glad that the new natural you has you feeling comfortable and happy !


lickeyzsplit 58M  
1346 posts
7/6/2021 4:58 am

I like my grey hair ! Whats left of it anyways !! Grey hair is a badge of Honor not everyone is lucky enough to get older....and the wrinkles on my face ..well some are from laughing and some from shedding tears when we lost loved ones ...I get teased also about my grey hair or lack of it ! But i usually remind the kids yapping they are next !!To get older And I worked for what I got in life not like the generation next that wants government handouts !! I am so glad the age I am !!


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/6/2021 6:32 am

    Quoting DiscreteSlowRide:
    Good!! You have to do what makes you feel comfortable.

    I found my first gray hair when I was 17.
    17!!!!
    I didn't even graduate high school yet!!
    More grays came in my 20's and my friends LOVED to give me crap about it.
    BUT..at some point we always turn a corner! When I hit my 30's and 40's that gray hair was very very appreciated and got me a lot of positive attention. Even better, my friends who tortured me about my gray hair have not had hair to turn gray since their 30's.

    Thank you karma!!
    Mwahahaha
It's amazing how our "crowning glory" can evoke such emotional responses. As my Mother used to say, "What goes around, comes around."

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/6/2021 6:33 am

Sometimes it takes awhile to understand and accept that.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/6/2021 6:36 am

    Quoting coolpoolguy3:
    I started going grey as a teen, my Mom was more concerned about than me (she kept trying to pull them out when I wasn't looking, lol). Don't get me wrong I'm attracted to redheads and brunettes mostly but I like to see a person's natural colour and Grey is a very good look especially if it is backed by confidence and personality.
Wow! Sounds like your Mom was more concerned about those wayward grey hairs than you were. No doubt she was trying to save you from getting teased by your friends. And you are right. Hair colour shouldn't matter if it's paired with confidence and personality . Nice to see you stopping by again.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/6/2021 6:37 am

    Quoting DiscreteSlowRide:
    Honestly...I don't care what color a woman's hair is. I love them all. it comes down to the individual. I would never not date someone because of their hair color. I'm a fan of all of them.
I wouldn't exclude a man because of his hair colour nor the lack thereof.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/6/2021 6:43 am

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    Yes to a point. Grey doesn't bother me as long as the "style" fits the person. OTOH pink, purple and neon colors tend to make a person look less bright than their hair.
I have seen many grey or white-haired woman add a streak of neon pink. What it should come down to is whatever makes the individual feel good

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/6/2021 6:47 am

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    I love that MEME as it's so true, from one strong lady to another, we have been there and done that my friend. I stopped coloring my hair years ago, as I my grey make my hair look like it's frosted so I am good with that. I am glad your enjoying your new hair style. I hope your Monday is a great start to your week..
I knew you would like that meme I do LOVE my new hairstyle. What I don't love is the heat, humidity and thunderstorms that have been rolling through my area. Hope you are keeping well.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/6/2021 6:51 am

    Quoting DiscreteSlowRide:
    As far as your male friend who said he is not attracted to women with gray hair... I know it is much easier to be affected by one negative comment compare to 20 positive comments. But at the end of the day, you have to be happy with yourself.

    One example....I started buzzing my hair about 8 years ago. I have a really nice thick head of salt and pepper hair but i just wanted to buzz it off and not have to fuss with it every day.

    So a female friend if mine old me she is more attracted to me when my hair is longer. Short hair on men is not attractive. Honestly, it didn't affect me because I have no interest in her, I don't care if she is attracted to me so, it's her issue.

    Don't let your friend male get to you if you are happy with your hair.
I was surprised and annoyed. After letting him know my thoughts, the call was over. I told him I wouldn't send an updated picture and I haven't. I don't dwell on stuff like that. Positivity trumps negativity.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/6/2021 6:52 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    If you're happy in your own skin that's all that matters.
Yes because that's really ALL that matters.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/6/2021 6:54 am

    Quoting lonlyforlove2:
    Don't le it worry you even a little. Be your self. When I was 21 my hair got thin. when I was 25 It was almost all gone, Now, I can get a hair cut in 2 min, I can jump in the shower dry off and with a whisk of a dry towel and 1 min it is dry, just no up keep. I know you say that is different, it may be but still some men fight for all just to keep a full head of hair. The color as long as it is well groomed just doesn't matter, Is good to look at. It just shows your strength and life experiences ..
Oh trust me, I am so over it. I LOVE my natural self. And you are right, it is a reflection of my strength and life experiences! Nice to see you dropping by again

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/6/2021 6:55 am

    Quoting dwz5234:
    I have had gray hair since my teens also find grey hair on older women very sexy. Just be yourself
Great advice. Thank you and that's exactly what I am doing

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/6/2021 6:57 am

    Quoting justskin1:
    The color of her hair is not a factor. Her comfort with herself and whether she has a positive or negative attitude plus intelligence is what attracts me.
I agree that attitude, intelligence and confidence are attractive attributes much more than hair colour or the lack thereof

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/6/2021 6:59 am

    Quoting BiJack55:
    I have been bald since I was 28. Tried to comb over and finally decided that was stupid, vain and looked really bad. After that I kept it cut short a few years then just started shaving my head. I figure anyone who judges you by your looks is not someone I want around me. They are shallow, with a low self esteem and trying to make themselves feel better about they're own failings. Lie life on your own terms and screw anyone who doesn't like it. And I think you are a mature, Sexy woman. Jack
Jack, I couldn't have said it better . Thanks for stopping by...perhaps you will again.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/6/2021 7:01 am

    Quoting lust4life59:
    I did the same about 10 years ago. I love it, and like you said, saved thousands (yes thousands) of dollars over the years. I get more compliments on it than I ever did when I was trying to cover the gray. Or even for that matter before I ever saw a single strand of gray. If someone doesn't like it, too bad for them, there's 20 more that DO like it.
It's funny and kind of sad, how many of us try to deny the evolution of our hair colour. Congratulations on accepting and embracing your grey hair. Now I just have to find the right shampoo!

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/6/2021 7:05 am

    Quoting salty_one_65:
    I genuinely feel sad for those who have pre-defined acceptance criteria for who'd they'd like to meet (and possibly become intimate with).

    To each, his/her own.

    In my simple world, grey (or gray) hair can be very attractive and can re-inforce the image of a mature woman.

    That being said, a very beautiful brunette, auburn, red, black, blonde, etc woman can also be very unattractive to me if she is not a good person on the inside.

    Three years ago, my ex began to let her natural hair color grow out...I think she looks incredible with her long silver locks (and because I still have a great deal of respect for her as the person she is).

    If your personal choice is to be natural, be confident in that decision (own it)...your beauty will show through!
Thank you for stopping by and sharing your positive perspective. I had read a very insightful story of a woman's journey through the progression and acceptance of her changing hair colour. It was the final nudge I needed. When you feel good, you look good

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/6/2021 7:07 am

    Quoting resant78:
    I started getting grey hairs (on my head) when I was a Junior in High School.
    At first I felt embarrased that I had them, and I would yank them out and pretend they never existed.
    One day a girl, (who was very attractive, one of many high school crushes) was talking with her friend. The friend said to attractive girl, "You got a gray hair right here!" and was reaching up, as to remove it. Attractive girl said, "No, leave it there, I earned that gray hair!"

    And that mundane, seemingly meaningless exchange stuck with me forever.

    Since then, I have a thing for women with gray hair.
    Silver hair is SO hot on women! I love it!!
What a great, personal and insightful story you shared. Thank you! And there are many shades of grey, at least 50, right?

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/6/2021 7:10 am

    Quoting MrRareity:
    First of all I think you are a strong woman that is my opinion and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. I have always felt that you thought you are a strong woman as well. I have to disagree with you on the gray hair. If I care about the color of your hair then I am to shallow and you should tell me to get lost. I just saw a friend of mine that I use to work with. She is mid to late 40's. She colored her hair light gray with pink strips through it. I love it and she looks good in it. Any man worth a damn would see a beautiful woman with a heart of gold, who is strong, and tells it like she see's it just as I do. I care about you (now it would bother me if we were dating and you didn't was it a pet peeve of mine) not the color of your hair. But if you're happier with it after you got it cute then that's the only thing that matters!!
Thank you for the compliments. I have noticed many younger women, colouring their hair in varying shades of grey. It is much more accepted now and should not be associated with being "old"

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/6/2021 7:12 am

    Quoting ClassicRock2015:
    Colour of hair is not a preference for me...im glad that the new natural you has you feeling comfortable and happy !
I do appreciate you stopping by and commenting. I LOVE the 'new' me!

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/6/2021 7:15 am

    Quoting lickeyzsplit:
    I like my grey hair ! Whats left of it anyways !! Grey hair is a badge of Honor not everyone is lucky enough to get older....and the wrinkles on my face ..well some are from laughing and some from shedding tears when we lost loved ones ...I get teased also about my grey hair or lack of it ! But i usually remind the kids yapping they are next !!To get older And I worked for what I got in life not like the generation next that wants government handouts !! I am so glad the age I am !!
Thank you for stopping by and sharing your personal and insightful perspective. It's important that we embrace ourselves. I do strive to be the best ME.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


Kalbi54 66M
1380 posts
7/6/2021 7:37 am

Are you going to let the hair grow again?


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/6/2021 8:31 am

    Quoting Kalbi54:
    Are you going to let the hair grow again?
I am more partial to shorter hair, especially in summer. I will keep the colour in its natural shade but not sure about the length.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


p1947q 74M  
131 posts
7/6/2021 6:13 pm

I have been married three times and two of my wives have had to deal with the atrocities of breast cancer including being bald from chemo treatments for several months. But you want to know something? While their physical appearance may have been different they were still the same person I was married to. As for me, I have a little hair left, some is grey, some is still brown. I have some of the dreaded "turkey neck" working, and although I am 20 pounds lighter that I was a few years ago, my belly is a little bigger than it was then. As I have matured I have come to believe that it isn't the cover of the book that is important but the content beneath that cover. So for me, I don't care what is on the cover, I want to read the story.


Purple_Skyes009 56M
15 posts
7/6/2021 9:21 pm

nice


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/7/2021 12:27 am

Okie dokie 😊

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/7/2021 12:32 am

    Quoting p1947q:
    I have been married three times and two of my wives have had to deal with the atrocities of breast cancer including being bald from chemo treatments for several months. But you want to know something? While their physical appearance may have been different they were still the same person I was married to. As for me, I have a little hair left, some is grey, some is still brown. I have some of the dreaded "turkey neck" working, and although I am 20 pounds lighter that I was a few years ago, my belly is a little bigger than it was then. As I have matured I have come to believe that it isn't the cover of the book that is important but the content beneath that cover. So for me, I don't care what is on the cover, I want to read the story.
I know first hand how devastating cancer can be. I love, “it isn't the cover of the book that is important but the content beneath that cover….I want to read the story.” We all have our own story to tell whether or not others want to listen. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your perspective.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


waitejeff 62M
6 posts
7/12/2021 7:12 am

Never ever.....


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/12/2021 7:54 am

I agree it shouldn't matter. Thanks for dropping by.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


flannel_light 59F  
4030 posts
7/15/2021 12:27 pm

I was in my early twenties when I first saw my gray hair and it did not bother me but over the years I dyed it and the last time I colored my hair it took two times to completely cover all the gray so after that I decided no more dye in my hair or color in it cuz it's just salt and pepper down and it's too much it won't take and my hair is natural body and curly and sometimes I look at other women with cute hairstyle and I wish my hair was like theirs but it is what it is but someone don't like me because my hair is gray they don't need to ask me out or be in their life

The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness.


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/15/2021 1:46 pm

    Quoting flannel_light:
    I was in my early twenties when I first saw my gray hair and it did not bother me but over the years I dyed it and the last time I colored my hair it took two times to completely cover all the gray so after that I decided no more dye in my hair or color in it cuz it's just salt and pepper down and it's too much it won't take and my hair is natural body and curly and sometimes I look at other women with cute hairstyle and I wish my hair was like theirs but it is what it is but someone don't like me because my hair is gray they don't need to ask me out or be in their life
I agree. If someone will judge me simply based on the colour of my hair, they aren’t the kind of person I want in my life. Cheers 🥂 to being our natural selves!

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


alex74telmo 46M
19 posts
7/18/2021 8:27 pm

me encantan las maduras!


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/18/2021 10:05 pm

Sorry…. I don’t speak Spanish.
I hope this is the correct translation…
es bueno tener la mente abierta

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


Massass1963 58M

7/21/2021 4:18 pm

It is funny how we THINK others will perceive us. My opinion is that there are many sexy looking women with gray hair. I think the trick is choosing the right STYLE. Gray hair is often coarser than when we were younger. As such, I tend to like shorter hairstyles with gray hair, rather than longer hair styles. I don't mean so short that you look like a man...just not down your back long.


sexyldy1000 60F  
9187 posts
7/22/2021 4:03 am

    Quoting Massass1963:
    It is funny how we THINK others will perceive us. My opinion is that there are many sexy looking women with gray hair. I think the trick is choosing the right STYLE. Gray hair is often coarser than when we were younger. As such, I tend to like shorter hairstyles with gray hair, rather than longer hair styles. I don't mean so short that you look like a man...just not down your back long.
The texture of my hair hasn’t changed. I am loving the ‘new’ me. The compliments have been an added bonus 😊. Nice to see you stopping by.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens.
Be That One


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