People that Cheat!!!  

txtoowet 58F  
16 posts
5/7/2020 7:56 am
People that Cheat!!!

Here is a question for all my peeps. If you got all the sex you wanted at home, or with just one person, would you still cheat?

onehotintegra 60M
545 posts
5/7/2020 9:51 am

Why cheat when you get quality sex at home.

jolielaide 50F  
1710 posts
5/7/2020 10:23 am

in my opinion there'd be no reason to cheat. now, if a person is just being a greedy narcissist and they don't care about who they have at home, they're gonna cheat.

Paulxx001 64M
21927 posts
5/7/2020 10:26 am

Not if the sex was satisfying, I loved (or cared for my partner) and we were having fun together. Why would anyone ?

Granny872 69F  
4036 posts
5/7/2020 10:30 am

Cheaters are cheaters by nature, that's my opinion. It's not what they have already, it's what they THINK they're missing or their total disregard for their partner.

jajo696 66F
4034 posts
5/7/2020 10:53 am

I feel that there are different reasons to stray as we are all different. Studies have stated that males stray for physical females stray for emotional reasons as in not getting the attention or feelings of being unconnected to their partner. Soooooooo in answer to your quest....its not always about sex...for some ~~

SugarrCane 52M  
7 posts
5/7/2020 11:17 am

Are cheaters

singleandrdy4fun 48M
32 posts
5/7/2020 12:13 pm

well for the most part if they are getting all they want and its great and they are committed to that person there should be no reason to ever cheat. I do know of a friend who was cheating because he enjoyed the 3some that was a total NO WAY at home and still wasnt right in my book

Santoardiendo 24M
4 posts
5/7/2020 1:04 pm

Por supuesto que no.

clittywhisperer1 57M
1415 posts
5/7/2020 1:08 pm

I would never ,regardless . many who cheat want thrills of strange bodies .they crave new all time in everything .they are selfish and flighty act like children with no internal character. sad really .I have been there my ex was a cheater and a liar .always wanted something new no matter what it was no matter who got hurt . I wish her and her kind well in their own world ,not mine .

Piper3654K 51M
115 posts
5/7/2020 2:43 pm

It's not about sex with many people. It's more of an obsession with variety. My ex was a serial cheater and our sex life certainly wasn't lacking.

She didn't even like some of the guys she cheated with...

profcoquin27bis 57M
4189 posts
5/8/2020 6:49 am

probably yess

WyoCowboy7751 68M
2346 posts
5/8/2020 7:48 am

I've stated it on other posts in the past and will state it again !! At times it depends on circumstances that one finds themselves in !! Let it first be said that I don't consider myself as a Cheater !!!
I lost my wife years ago after numerous years together !! It was 2 years before I met a gal that was single & We had a Liking for each other !! She became a Friend with Benefits !! Circumstances evolved on her part & I suggested that she move in with me; which she did in the home I own !! We lived together as if We were married !! It was great for both of Us !! After several years She developed a Female abnormality that ended up only being corrected by a Major Surgery !! After a period of recovery; She had No desire for Sex !! We knew it was a possible Side Effect of the Surgery!!
A short time later; I was Pleasuring myself due too lack of Sex !! I had no idea that She would happen too come home early from work !! You guessed it ; she walked into the bedroom as I was obliviously in my own world !! She retreaded too the Livingroom !! I finished off !! Sheepishly walked into the living and sat down !! Before I could utter a word; She stated the following ; Honey, I'm Sorry I can't fulfill your needs or desires ! If You want too fill them outside of Our Relationship; I'm Okay with that ! The stipulations would be that you not bring a conquest into this house ! That you take care of it on Your own time ! Our evenings and my days off are still for Us ! And last but not least; I Hope not too catch you doing what you were doing again !!
SOOO !!! Hence the reason that I am on this Site looking too fulfill My Needs & Desires !! And also finding some Great People in the Blogs too react with !!!! SHE & I: Do Not consider what I Do as Cheating !!!!

VenusRedux2 46F
557 posts
5/8/2020 3:30 pm

The sanctity of marriage is so trivialized and marginalized at this point, it doesn't surprise me.

We claim to hate cheaters, but we don't exactly value marriage either.

And even there, we don't hate cheaters as much as we'd like to claim. There are no shortage of women out there sleeping with married men. Women all claim to be opposed to it, but men still find ready and willing partners fairly easily. I have my personal theories as to why, but it's all conjecture and anecdotal as opposed to hard evidence. And no, I don't believe any woman is ever truly deceived when a married man is lying to them … at least not for very long. And these women choose to continue sleeping with them.

At any rate, there is little debate in the psychological world about why people cheat. It has absolutely nothing to do with sex. It is trying to meet an unmet need. What that need may be varies from person to person, and isn't necessarily even sexual in nature. For example, if the brain senses it's depressed, it will naturally try to increase endorphin and dopamine levels to compensate, and sometimes it turns to sex to do that. In other cases, a man who is struggling to support his family sometimes tries to alleviate that anxiety through sex. He doesn't want to tell his wife that he doesn't feel like a man, a capable provider, so he seeks to fill that need outside the marriage.

I'm not defending any scenario. I'm simply making a point that the reason people cheat is almost never about the quality or quantity of sex they're getting at home.

Asking people why they cheat is the same as asking a drug addict why they get high. The high is only the nominal reason, there is always a deeper underlying reason.

Rayateu 65M
261 posts
5/14/2020 9:08 pm


sportsfans63 58M
46 posts
6/4/2020 12:09 pm

Reasons vary from person to person and at different times.

blaqguyinwi 57M  
20 posts
8/9/2020 1:04 am

The pretense. It's an individual thing, and even individuals slip, 99% of the guys will always say 'I'd never cheat on my spouse or girlfriend.' Most realistic women know better. Woman as well can be tempted. It happens. But if you're aware, you know men can drift easily...but many will still love and want you.

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