EDIT: Seriously, we're not looking for older people. If you're over 40, you're too old and we aren't interested. What we are looking for is kind of specific. We want someone that can be a real friend to both of us; who will want to hang out, go to movies, and do stuff like that. She also wants someone intelligent and professional that she can have nice, interesting conversations with. If we meet up for anything physical, I will always be present. I am not bi, so there won't be any male on male contact. She doesn't generally go for crude, overly sexual conversation, but in the interest of full disclosure I should mention that at this point she is not comfortable having sex with anyone else but me. She's still pretty new to this whole thing so she wants to take it kind of slow. Oral sex and pretty much anything else is fine. In fact, she actually really likes getting spanked (and recently started enjoying rope bondage). Also, we were hoping to find someone that would be interested in being mostly exclusive. I realize that's a lot to ask when she doesn't have sex, but that is just how she is feeling right now. She hasn't ruled out sex with someone else in the future, so it may be a possibility down the road, but there's no guarantee.