I'm a young, fit, confident pre-op trans woman. I'm 28, work in technology, and have a stable income. I'm unashamedly nerdy - and have the tattoos to prove it. I also love books, however, I've found that I don't really have the time to read regularly any more - I'm currently trying to work my way through the Terry Pratchet anthology but making slow progress. I'm primarily looking for new play partners who enjoy BDSM, particularly ones with more of an interest in D/s play (all of my existing play partners fall more on the S&M side). Fetishes: - masochism - degradation - humiliation - asphyxiation - power exchange - control - bondage - domestic servitude - protocol - objectification Hard Limits: - Infantilisation eg. DDlg, AB - Femininity as a form of humiliation I'm fine with forced feminisation and cross-dressing, but it's not something shameful in my mind - Homosexuality/Bi-Sexuality as a form of humiliation Again not anything shameful and so not humiliating - Scat - Knife Play

My Ideal Person Vanilla sex just doesn't do it for me so I'm looking for someone who is heavily into BDSM. Someone who can push me to my limits: humiliate, degrade, and control me to the point that I'm left broken and crying.

I loathe the term but I can sometimes across as bratty - I'd consider it just natural intelligence coming through to question things - for that reason I appreciate a dominant who is strict and strong-willed. I find far too many are easily swayed if I start diverting my attention to teasing or enticing them to give in - I need someone who doesn't give in and knows how to control me.

In particular I'd like to find a domination who is looking to train someone, to bend me to their will and encourage a greater level of servitude. In terms of looks, I'm not concerned about looks or shape - although you should take pride in your appearance. I appreciate the mental connection far more, but care about physical appearance so far as it reflects someone who is confident, self-conscious, and disciplined.

I'm quite a cautious person, so I'm looking for someone who is happy to take it slow and build a relationship over time - that's not to say I want to send emails back and forth before meeting in person, but I prefer to get to know someone first before playing with them.

What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?:
A moving vehicle (i.e. car), A remote wilderness spot, My desk at work, A swimming pool or hot tub, A hotel room, Anywhere

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Sadomasochism, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Rimming, Fetishes, Light Bondage, Hard Bondage, Candle Wax, Spanking, Role Playing, Threesomes, Slave/Master, Mutual Masturbation, Handcuffs/Shackles, Breast/Nipple Torture, Clamps, etc., Blindfolds, Massage

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Same/similar fetishes, Experience in a certain role (top/bottom; master/slave), Sexual appetite, Creativity/Kinkiness level

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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