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A good filter
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A good filter How to separate the wheat from the chaff. A lot of blogs and comments on this, with all sorts of crap experiences coming to light. Some chaff is obvious, like the "Phisher girl", but for the rest of the denizens, what might actually work. Profiles are always somewhat misleading, even those of the most honest citizens. Whey? Simply because it some we write ourselves and self-perception is never entirely correct. We can be over positive (how many men on FriendFinder-x have an average sized cock, how many women have modestly<b> damp </font></b>pussy  . We can often (perhaps surprisingly) be too reticent about our qualities too. So the balance of information in profiles doesn't work that well. A filter, but rather coarse.There follows an exchange of e-mails. Well these are crafted, so do not reflect the reaction of a person. So again short of the mark. My experience is that the IMC works better than profiles and e-mails and IMC with e-mail provides a great filter. This may simply reflect what I am looking for. IMC at least tells me whether a conversation is sustainable. I do like to talk! It also gives an inkling as to whether our sense of humour matches in some way. This is also important - for me sex is quite a funny activity, a combination of the sublime, the ridiculous and the inherently messy. With a few e-mails thrown in for more sustained communication, this has been a great filter. So I like the IMC. I can see that it has its downside: put downs, rudeness and so on can be aggravating. Don't let them be, instead be positive, you have just learned something important about the person at the other end - don't bother with them and saved yourself the displeasure and hassle of a face to face meeting that you really want to escape from. |
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His language is indeed beautifully dirty 
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