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Thoughts on a Sugar Daddy
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Thoughts on a Sugar Daddy I don't know about you but I've always wrinkled my nose in a sneer of disgust when I've thought of the whole Sugar Daddy thing in the past. It just seemed so....cold and manipulative. But.. being the open minded person I am I have lately been giving it more thought. Much of what I'd like to have in a steady relationship is the sort of things that one finds in the Sugar Daddy/ equation. Tenderness and caring, putting someone else's needs above your own, at least for a while. Having someone care for you and make sure they take care of the things you cannot (financial needs) to help alleviate that stress. In truth it is more of the 'traditional' roles that once were the standard. The provider and protector and the nurturer and pleaser. Now before we start thinking all stepford and stuff let's step back and look at it. What gal out there isn't pleased and warmed when a gentleman takes them out to dinner or buys them flowers (or other gifts)? What man doesn't enjoy having a warm, soft body to hold him and warm his bed? In reality is is sort of a win/win situation. Except for one little thing. Sure it could be there but I guess the problem I've ad with it is that I always saw it as being a cold and unemotional relationship. However....if the emotional aspect is there and the two do care for one another (even if it is in a friendship way as opposed to a romantic way) I can see a relationship of this nature working out at least for a short while. I guess I'm broadening my perspective these days. What's your take on it? |
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9/18/2009 8:32 pm |
Think you hit the nail on the head. The relationship is important. As far as cold and unemotional goes, well, that isn't a relationship it is more of an acquaintance. Thats my two cents.
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9/18/2009 8:57 pm |
I suspect you may have started with an erroneous generalization: that the relationship is unemotional. If it is really unemotional, the man is buying a (nominally) dedicated whore (which isn't necessarily bad if both parties understand their roles). But I suggest that the more common role is a man who can afford to dote on a lady, but does not want the entanglements of a wife or live in girl friend. Beyond that, I suspect you have a broad spectrum. How would you differentiate (or would you even bother) between a girl friend/boy friend relationship and a sugar daddy? A girl says, "I'm looking for a steady boyfriend", okay fine, she finds someone her own age. How 'bout if she finds someone a bit older than herself but who earns about what she does or even less? Now what if he earns significantly more and as the relationship progresses, chooses to treat her? What if the roles were reversed? Now does it change at all if the girl says, "I want a steady boyfriend, and oh by the way, I don't want to live in poverty, I want someone who is well enough off to treat me well, take me out, etc. I want more from the relationship than just coming over and hoping into bed now and then." I think the caring, etc can be there. And let's tackle a slightly different but related relationship. The kept mistress. So, I'm a married guy, pretty well off, and for whatever reason decide to have an affair on the side. Well, to start with, not that many women want to have an affair with a married man - either because they don't want the complications or because they want the illusion of possible future marriage. So the guy MAY find a woman who is happy to just jump in the sack on a regular basis and nothing more (being married it is hard to go on vacation, out on the town, etc to blatantly). But the guy really wants a good looking woman. First of all, we have to separate the affair from the kept portion. If you go bonkers over a man having a simple affair with a woman, with nothing more, maybe the woman too is married, then it probably isn't worth pursuing the rest of the thoughts here. But let's say you accept the concept of affair. Now, they guy decides he would really like to find a young, "hot" lady. In order to entice her, he may have to offer more than his looks and hard cock. She can probably find more physically attractive younger men, but she MAY find that the older man is more caring and within certain limits, more attentive. So financial help, such as an apartment, makes him really attractive. What might start as a business arrangement, over time may develop strong emotions. Or, something that starts as lust and a fling, due to the more mature behavior, may develop into something, and in order to help out, the man sets his mistress up. Emotions and caring in most of the cases. Guess I've been around enough and seen enough issues from different sides that I've learned to be very slow in coming to judgment. Sounds like maybe you are beginning to get to that point. Things that used to be black and white are now all sorts of subtle shades of grey.
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