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Posted:Apr 12, 2008 11:17 am
Last Updated:Dec 20, 2009 5:45 pm
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What's Happening AFFers?
It's cold outside here in the northeast, so keeping warm inside has taken NEW meaning.
Welcome to my room! Read a post, make comments, vote in a poll or just sign in here at the guest book and let me know you came by to visit. Don't just stop bye and not say anything. I want to hear what's on your mind. Let me know, who u are, where u r from & what you think of the blog. Smooches, EbonyQueen4U
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Feeling Sexy and Restless - always gets me in trouble
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Posted:Jun 15, 2009 4:45 am
Last Updated:Nov 18, 2009 9:36 am
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I was reflecting and feeling horny last night so I wrote my first article in erotic stories called My 1st Private Swing ‒ I turned into a birthday present! . It's about a restless horny weekend when my partner was away and I needed some release. Please check the erotic stories in the magazine section to read and make comments. It's my 1st time writing an article so I'd love your feedback on if it moved you or how I could have made it more sexy.
What do you do when you are restless and you can't get the sex and attention from the one you want? Tell me about it. As always I love hearing from you. Smooches EBQ4U 
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For the love of Threesomes
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Posted:May 30, 2009 9:46 am
Last Updated:May 31, 2009 7:03 pm
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Hmmm, the last few months have been spontaneous and adventurous for me. A wonderful guy who I met on FriendFinder-x, has become my partner in fun, love and mischief. We’ve been exploring each other and the lifestyle. He took me to my 1st swing club, and I learned I had a bit (not much) of exhibitionist in me. Sex was so intense with him, knowing that we were being watched. So we’ve been checking out swing clubs in the area, going to a few private parties and even trying to find some sexy couples that we would consider hooking-up with from time to time.
I never thought I would find swapping couples and threesomes so sexy. Maybe it’s the company. I care about my guy and the lifestyle is something I find exciting to explore with him. Yes, I've realized I have a more bi-curious side than I thought. For me, new women are sexier than men in a club/party/sexually charged environment. I still love dick, but have enjoyed playing with a woman while my guy is stroking me from the back. Or playing with a couple, where I’ve played with the girl and the man takes care of us both. Who knew?
I guess I should say 3somes and 4somes, because I have found it so enticing to do a full swop with a couple (if my guy and I both approve). Hearing him make love or pleasure a woman next to me, while her guy’s tongue is between my legs is intoxicating. It’s strange to feel proud when your lover is turning another woman on or making her cum. I thought I might be jealous, but it makes him sexier to me! I do have one concern, will one on one sex be boring if I get too used to 3somes and 4somes?
Do you have any thoughts about 3somes, maybe your 1st experiences or swapping? I love to hear from my fellow AFFers, so tell me about what 3somes or swapping do for you? Let me know. EBQ4U 
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Follow Up to Sub or Not to Sub
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Posted:May 29, 2009 11:17 pm
Last Updated:Jun 14, 2011 2:00 pm
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OK thanks to those of you who shared your thoughts earlier in the year when I was trying to make this decision about this guy who turned out to be a Domme. Well, I chose not to be his sub - it's not my nature. However, after all of his observations, my research and thinking about it, we did spend a night together. It was sexy at first...he was great on the clit! BUT something was missing.
I know I like a bit of adventure, and what I realized is that the appeal about this guy was that he was not pressed for sex, wanted me to do something I hadn't done before and needed me to want him to control me. I was there, I met his challenge (at least for a night) and we had a sexy night together. But it didn't have the passion I needed. Afterwards, he disappeared-maybe mission accomplished. Funny thing is, I didn't miss him.
I reached out a few times to make sure he was breathing and he didn't have the decency to even "Man" up and say that he just couldn't do an "us." He was right about something, he wanted me to make him #1 and he definitely wasn't, he was a #3 or #2 at best. #1 has my heart and the domme just had my curiosity.
This happened in late Jan/early Feb, but I wanted to make sure I followed up with those of you who were wondering what I decided.
As always I welcome your comments and wisdom. Say something! EBQ4U
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Do U want to Be Dominated - to sub or not to sub?
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Posted:Jan 6, 2009 3:10 am
Last Updated:May 29, 2009 10:06 pm
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What do you do ladies (this could apply to men, if you've been in this position) when you meet an adult friend and there is instant attraction just in your email exchanges? His picture he sends is attractive. You exchange IMs and the conversation flows on all topics. After a few weeks, you are looking forward to meeting him for drinks. You do and there are sparks - you tingle in all the right places. When he places his hand on your thigh underneath your skirt, you don't push his arm away. Thank goodness it was cold and you had on tights.
Then when you talk the next day, he confesses. He wants you to be his sub, his cum slut and obey his wishes so that you can achieve pleasure like you might never have before. He assures you that he would not bind you or inflict any kind of pain. He enjoys being obeyed and torturing you with pleasure. He did say there would be some rules to follow, when we are playing that he would ask me to follow. That's it.
What would you do? He's smart, sexy (not perfect - but he exudes confidence) and you are considering giving in to him. In some ways he's already in your head. Please note in every day life you are a leader, independent, confident, hardly shy or demure & you grew up with a father so there are no "missing a Daddy issues."
I haven't written in a long time because I didn't have a topic worth sharing with the intellectual collective that is FriendFinder-x members. Please, I want your advice. All comments are welcomed EBQ4U!
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R women too shy on FriendFinder-x? Teases vs. Vixens
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Posted:May 27, 2008 10:45 pm
Last Updated:Oct 5, 2008 5:01 pm
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I hear from men all the time that women are not responsive, or that they are all talk and no action. The best one is that most of the women on FriendFinder-x are gay (to explain why none of the hott women have replied to them...LO .
Well I think there is enough bullshitting to be shared between men and women. Since I am not a man I don't know why you guys tease and stall before that 1st meeting. Especially, when the woman is confident and as hungry for sex as you are.
However as a woman, I think that some women have a fear about meeting a stranger for sex. It is as enticing as it is scary. If we (as women) are smart, we'll be cautious, unless we are really wild.
Plus in the land of FriendFinder-x women are outnumbered by men close to 3:1 like lambs amidst the wolves. We get tons of emails from everything that crawled from under a rock! I don't mean to be mean, everyone deserves someone to get close to, BUT some of you guys are assholes, inconsiderate or just plain creepy. So guys consider that when you think women (that don't seem crazy) are hesitant. Plus I think many of us who grew up in America were brainwashed by the double standard of "women as good girls." Now all the former good girls have to determine what the difference is between a good girl who wants dick, good sex and regular orgasms without drama VS. a SLUT?" Yes, I said it many women (who have been good girls)are sometimes afraid of being viewed as hores or sluts. So the reality of NSA sex, seems strange or scary. We want to be romanced, treated with respect and have sex. The fear is what if he's rough, mean, violent or disrespectful. Now don't get me wrong some women have the slut fantasy and want to get it rough.
NSA sex takes some getting used to. Some will be cool with 1 lover or others may want 6. OR maybe no repeats just new dick everytime.
I would love to hear what other men & women AFFers think about this. As always EBQ4U wants to hear what's on your mind!
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Professional Pussy Eaters wanted...
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Posted:May 5, 2008 9:47 pm
Last Updated:Sep 29, 2010 9:31 pm
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OK, i love to have my pussy licked and sucked to absolute wetness and satisfaction. I've met some good lovers on this site, but only one or two have lived up to their claims of knowing how to satisfy a hungry pussy. I am a bit frustrated! I need my pussy properly attended to, so my honey can come down and my multiple orgasms can flow.
Guys, I know many of you like pussy, but it's not just about licking the clit and pussy like a cat licks itself. You have to engage the pussy. Work on the outer lips and then with kisses, licks and your whole mouth so you can transfer the heat of your mouth to our sweet spot. Don't rush....and if you feel us hold your head in one place that is the good spot-DON'T STOP! Also, taste your success, you know u've accomplished something when we start to cum and our honey flows. You may feel some shivers and hear our moans to let you know you've done it right.
AND when in doubt just ask us how we like it!!Just think when you satisfy our pussies, you'll be fucked well and wet for the rest of the session. Consider it a win -- win!
Ladies, let me know what you like and if any of you guys or girls have pussy eating techniques, please share them with the rest of the class. Love to hear what's on your mind! EBQ4U
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To 3some or Not to 3some - MMF a Question?
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Posted:Apr 21, 2008 6:54 pm
Last Updated:Jun 14, 2011 1:58 pm
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Hi AFFers! Since exploring my sensuality and shaking the so-called norm a little, I have been discovering all kinds of curiosities. I've been thinking quite a bit about 3somes.
Recently while attempting to chat on FriendFinder-x IM (never seems to work properly for me), I met two straight guys who want a woman for a 3some! Serendipity - I think. So I am considering what to expect with MMF. As usual, I turn to my FriendFinder-x community for your experience and counsel.
What are your thoughts? Are there any things that I should consider about MMF? Anal sex is not my thing, so obviously that's one of my ground rules, but otherwise it's sounding more and more tantalizing by the day. I am feeling like a babe in the woods on this one, do tell. EBQ4U 
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Spring and Fun is in the Air
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Posted:Apr 12, 2008 10:07 am
Last Updated:Apr 21, 2008 8:37 pm
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Hi AFFers! It's spring, kind of, here in the NE of the USA. We had a very warm day on Thursday in New York and it had me feeling wild and sexy. I was feeling so horny and alive. Luckily, I have a great lover who seems to pick up on my excitement and we painted the town RED!
What has been your experience with those private swing clubs? I am thinking of taking the plunge with a partner to celebrate spring and I just want to know from some swinging veterans what I should expect.
If you goto a swing club and have sex with your partner, how does someone join you? I know NO means NO, so how can someone interject into your 1 on 1 sex? I have also never been with a woman, so I am assuming I can handle this. Maybe it just happens. Help!!!! Signed, thinking of swinging with a trusted lover.
As always, I need your feedback. Want to learn from other AFFers experiences and wisdom? EBQ4U
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When U Know It's Over - Be An Adult
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Posted:Mar 15, 2008 2:45 am
Last Updated:Aug 29, 2008 8:24 pm
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Hi AFFers! It's so long since I wrote. I feel a bit rusty. There's been a lot going on. I was having great regular sex with an FriendFinder-x friend. We talked a lot, went out, spent time together for GREAT SEX and intimacy. Things were always hot for two months.
Then some kind of monster raised it's ugly head! No not jealousy, but insecurity. My friend and I had spoken about NSA (no strings attached) sex at the beginning and in the middle of knowing each other. I am enjoying growing in my sexual and sensual experiences (safely) with different partners. Intellectually HE KNEW THIS, but his actions said otherwise. I am not inhuman and I could feel his emotions increase when we were together. He was experiencing something emotionally (PHYSICALLY we seemed to both be satisfied), that I just wasn't.
Things came to a head and we had an argument about why I wasn't passionate about him! My response was "what?"
It was very dramatic and felt petty (I don't like to argue, especially if someone expects to have sex with me anytime in the near future). My suggestions to diffuse this and just sleep and discuss when we were rested, but he continued. I could see the CHIP on his shoulder get bigger and a very insecure person appear who was ruining a good thing.
At one point, the sound of a door shutting came into my mind's eye. THIS WAS OVER, no going back despite the good sex.
Why couldn't we just be adults about this? Anyone had a great NSA lover that turned bad?
To my friend (or ex-friend) referred to above. I hope you work through your emotional issues or else you are going to MISS ALL OF LIFE's JOY, driving people away.
Let me know what my AFFers think about this! EQ4U Smooches
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Crossroads: FriendFinder-x vs the traditional
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Posted:Feb 15, 2008 9:55 am
Last Updated:Feb 22, 2008 3:25 pm
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Hi friends and AFFers who might read this blog. It's been awhile since I've written, so I wanted to write something. I guess these days I have more questions than anything profound to write about. So I'll share my thoughts with you.
I have made a few good friends on FriendFinder-x who I see sparingly to regularly. Really fantastic, intelligent, and sexy gentlemen. There are a few with whom I have yet to meet, we talk often, so maybe the meetings are coming (you know who you are).
I am deciding on what I want for my life. I need the full package (sexy, fit, straight, single, ambitious, professional, upmarket taste for quality, funny, intelligent, great & creative lover, intellectually stimulating, outgoing, and happy and emotionally available). I set out on a journey to explore my sensuality & sexuality, which I am doing. However, a part of me still craves a traditional relationship with one person with whom I can share emotions, dreams, building for the future, fantasies and an adventurous sex life! So maybe that is not so traditional.
Has anyone ever faced this crossroads where you feel like you've met people who collectively satisfy you, but not the one who has all of those qualities? As always the Queen loves your feedback...so talk to me!/
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